What will you do if you found out that your husband/wife is having an affair?

I dont think this will ever happen to me but for the sake of answering the question and giving an honest answer, I am going to torture them both. I think in my anger I will be able to do things that are not according to the laws of the land. lol

I would blame my spouse if he cheated on me. At times I worry about all the women who are so aggressive at times when it comes to married men. I used to have a friend who would write sexy notes to coworkers. I used to laugh at them but never told her much. I think it would be a big temptation to a man to get these kind of offers. I've had my husband tell me of all the married men who are involved with women at his job. He had a friend who ended up getting a divorce only to hook up with a female coworker. I asked my husband if he knew about it but he said no before his friend left his wife. Anyhow I would blame him for allowing it to happen. If a child was involved, that he got someone pregnant I don't think I could go on. I have dealt with his stepchildren before we got together and that was hard enough. I wouldn't want to go through that again.

If I found out my husband, if I were married, was having an affair, I would be ok with it. He's a husband, not my lover. For me to be married , it wouldn't be based on love so finding out he found love somewhere else would have no effect on me. But if I found out my boyfriend loved someone more than he loves me, I would leave him. Why should he stay if he doesn't want me. I wouldn't be angry, I would be terribly hurt. But if I really love him , then I wnathim to be happy , with or without me.

I've been in this situation I caught my beau having an affair with my friend. At first hand its not easy to face and accept the fact that he cheated on you and your friend betrayed you as well. I end up my communication to the both of them. I see to it that our ways would not crossed each other. Until the 6 months passed its my beau who initiate the first step. He dont have ways to contact me because he was all blocked in my email, facebook, ym and I changed my number. The thing is I did not changed or move to another place. So he went to my place and trapped me, I dont have any other choice but to talked to him. Of course I did not make it easy for him. Since our communication is starting to build up. I try to avoid him again for the second time I resigned to my work and went to my hometown. Still he followed me there. From there I can see how sincere he is. In short yes I accepted him for the second time. Its not easy to be in this relationship because we are far from each other. But I have trusted him even if he has already hurt me before. i given him my complete trust. However every now and then I still have doubts but I no longer entertain those doubts because it will just make me cry and hurt again. Instead I keep on motivating myself those happy moments we have. That's how I survived

Thankfully, this has not happended to me but if it does, I wouldn't bother talking to the other woman. I would direct all my anger to my partner. He may have been tempted that's why he entered the relationship, but he couldn't say that he doesn't mean it because it was his choice to go that way.

i would blame my bf bcs he was the one cheating on me. maybe the other person didnt know he had a gf. and if she knew it was his fault too bcs she didnt force him to be with her and cheat. if i found out i wouldnt forgive bcs if he wanted to tell me he would had done it already and if i didnt find out he would never tell me. if the person tells me he had an affair and regrets it then maybe i could forgive im not sure. but if i found it out i would break up and blame him sure.