do women prefer the jealous type of guy????

United States
July 26, 2010 8:25pm CST
i know every body has his or her own personal preferences. but i have run into quite a number of ladies who say that they prefer there men to be a little clingy or jealous. some go to the extent of liking there boyfriends getting into physical fights with other men who show interest in them. i have never understood why women would want a jealous type of guy. jealousy is kind of a female trait... no pun intended and being overly jealous is a weakness. the usual caution of men who seem interested in your girlfriend is fine. but getting to the point where you forbid he from having close male friends is overdoing it a bit. my question is, do women prefer this kind of man who is constantly insecure???
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@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I would not understand as well why women would choose that kind of guy. Maybe because of masculinity aspect, they thought that there man is indeed manly if they are have that jealousy thing. However my beau would not admit that he is jealous or that he is a kind of guy who would jealous. But once in a while he is wondering why I am always online or why I am sleeping late and sometimes checking clothes I am wearing. Sometimes asking why the guy is looking at me or staring at me which i dont know. He is acting jealous but not admitting that he is jealous. Duhhh.. weird.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
hehe, same thing with my bf.. i found it really weird
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Its really weird. I would like to know the answer but I just settle to one thing which is he is getting jealous but still dont want to admit it. Why they cant admit it? Is there any big deal if a guy gets jealous to his gf?
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
28 Jul 10
Hi & thanks for this intersting topic. I've been waiting all day to actually respond to a discussion im interested in. so thank you!! :) But everybody is different. I had a jealous type boyfriend. And lets just say that didnt last long. I wasn't into him anyway. But he was definitely jealous. And I have to say, I never meet a girl who said she like the jealous time. This is all new to me! Or at least this topic never can up. But I can't also understand a boyfriend who is clingy. I've been there, done that too. And lets just say, that didnt last long. I guess I'm a different kind of girl. But I hate and clingy type. Space is much needed in a relationship. But I've been w/ my boyfriend for almost 3 years come october. and he's not jealous, or he don't show it. and he's definitely not clingy. If he was, he would have to go. lol, but no. I'm w/ you 100%. I don't get girls like that either.
• United States
28 Jul 10
your welcome, intresting topics is what we do. check out or forums at sourceseeker.ning.com.... anyway, i guess it more understandable for women to be jealous but for a man to be overly jealous and clingy is a sign of weakness and insecurity...
• United States
28 Jul 10
Women are emotional and may truly want to act one way but often act opposite of what they say. How many times have women said they want a good man and then end up with someone with criminal or con man leanings? The culture of American women is very spoiled compared to the rest of the world however our women have the best spirit and if you get them on your side they are loyal fighters on your side. You cannot name a leader or some male who has accomplished a great deal without the support of a women. Do women like jealous guys? The answer is they want the guy they like to care greatly about them but at the same time want him to to appear strong and powerful. The number 1 thing immature Women care about is image, how something looks. If they can tell their girlfriends about and to them about their man thats what they want. Even if the reality is different they dont wish to admit it but want the image of good and great. Either way relationship are tough if you find someone you can get along with and grow old together it should be cherished.
• United States
28 Jul 10
for some women they don't feel like they are attracted enough if there man isn't jealous about a guy. I for one really don't care.i personally think that you should trust your partner enough to understand that he's the one you are sleeping with. i don't think that a person should be flirting all over the place just to make someone jealous.
• Belgium
27 Jul 10
it is all from the ladies :) if they think that guy must be jealous and this is making them feel secure its ok.There is logic that if guy is not jealous than he maybe is not so involved in closer relation with his lady!!
• India
28 Jul 10
Well, i prefer there should be little bit kind of jealousy in my guy. Sometimes if i see jealousy in him it shows that he loves me and don't want to loose me. Jealousy is also one sign of caring and loving to the person we love. But sometimes too much jealous is also not good. It may cause the relationship to the end. Because too much jealous turns into insecurity and mistrust of relationship so there should be limitation and balance in every field. what u say....
• India
27 Jul 10
Hey I am still single ,and I dont know exactly it would be ,I hope soon I will also see this in my life
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
27 Jul 10
Dear friend, May be there are secure women who like to have a guy of their choice who might be charming and loving. Still it all depends upon a individual's taste of selecting a guy. I hope each women might have their of dreams of a man who they would like to have.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
27 Jul 10
I am hearing that for the first time, really ? I never supposed that could be a choice, they probably feel more attractive when their boyfriend fights for them, i dunno.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
27 Jul 10
I don't know how other women might feel. Personally, I do not prefer to have a jealous man in my life. Jealousy is a not an emotion I find attractive in a man. Jealousy just leads to disappointment and bitter feelings. Relationships can be difficult enough without adding jealouy to it.
@dsrp82 (676)
• Brazil
27 Jul 10
I do. I think if the guy is not jealous at all, he doesn't like me.
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
27 Jul 10
Some of them yes, some of them no. Some of them prefer the jealous type of guy, but not the excessively jealous type, the one that is capable of beating her. When the guy is making a scene about a guy that is staring at her, she feels beautiful and important, or when the guy is beating other guy because of her, she feels loved, and protected.
@lunchz (43)
27 Jul 10
to my personal opinion i really like my man to be a jealous type of guy, because i don't want to be the "insecure" one in our relationship and i would prefer my man to be like that. just like my husband he's a very jealous type of person especially when i got new male friends, he doesn't like me to stay close to them and constantly keep on eye on everything that i do. i feel very secure when he does that and very much loved. i don't know for other ladies out there but i really like it when i see the jealousy in my husband's eyes.. it's kinda cute and that makes me love him sooo much. ^^
@spazz435 (322)
• United States
27 Jul 10
I think it depends on how clingy and jealous the guy is. If he's to the point to where he's not wanting you to even look at another guy, I think that's a little too clingy or jealous. But if he's jealous only to the point where he comments about how he feels about the way other guys look at you, or how the way you were acting towards another guy made him feel uncomfortable. That's a good kind of jealous. If a guy is to over jealous, most of the time it turns into an abusive relationship. Where the guy wants is total control of his girlfriend. That is not a good relationship at all.
• United States
27 Jul 10
I can only speak about my preference and well that is not it all. I prefer the strong and caring type.
@Suke002 (311)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Me and my boyfriend have dated for a year now and he is just as overly jealous as me and we match in the amount of jealousy and how angry we'd get over something small an meaningless. It will sound odd you, but that's how me and him prove our loyalty and love to eachother. He doesn't fight other guys and I don't want him to. I think the fact that he shows the same devotion that a women is usually the only one giving is what women like. I love how he needs me as much as I need him and that he's clinging to me just as tight as I am. It leaves less doubts and guessing because we show eachother how me we need eachother every day and in what we do. It's extra security and women like that when you want a serious relationship.
@vikkitita (194)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
My husband, though he's jealous, would not want to show it. Probably because he would like to avoid unnecessary fights. Because quoting from him, "these are just unnecessary waste of energy". It's a nice attitude though, however, sometimes I also would like him to show me that he's jealous. Seeing him jealous would make me feel secure and reassured that he love me. So sometimes I intentionally make up stories, wear provocative clothes so other men would look at me or invent lovers on the phone just to make him jealous. Haha... weird of me though, isn't it.