That's it! You're Grounded!!!
@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
Canada
July 29, 2010 4:05pm CST
I think I'm a pretty reasonable, laid-back mom. I tend to discuss issues with my daughters rather than flip out. When my teenager decided to go past her curfew last Thursday, I told her it was unacceptable. Even though she had a good reason, she should have called to notify us.
The very next day, guess what?
She was FOUR HOURS late. Hello? Did you not hear me last night?
So those very words came out of my mouth: "That's it! You're Grounded"
Now I don't do well with grounding. I can take away electronics, friends, phone... but my kids seem to be content with nothing anyway. So I created a list of chores for her to complete throughout the week. I have to say, she took it all WAY too well.
What conditions do you apply to your grounding rules?
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
29 Jul 10
After raising three teenagers, you need to realize, even if they are well-behaved kids, there will be a time you need to put your foot down..Though she seemed to take it well now, I would say give her a few days of working and she may start to complain..And though you didn't ask, I will say it anyways, Don't give in...Keep to what her punishment is, because if you don't, she will soon no longer take you seriously..
I also commend you though for being an open mom, just remember that you are the parent, and being open is one thing, being too lenient is another...
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@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
• Canada
30 Jul 10
I wholeheartedly agree. She's been grounded since last Friday. She's had a list of chores to do every day. And I mean dishes, sweeping, washing floors, washing walls, vaccuuming and babysitting. It hasn't been easy on her but there hasn't been any complaints until last night when she was cramping (pms time). I told her to leave the dishes until this morning and she did them as soon as she got up. Tomorrow will be her last day. I know she's looking forward to being free again LOL
Proud momma who didn't give in :)
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
30 Jul 10
Good for you...
I know it's hard, but they'll thank you for it later..:)
I know it's hard, but they'll thank you for it later..:)1 person likes this
@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
• Canada
30 Jul 10
Thank me? I'm not too sure about that LOL
But her boyfriend did come to me on Tuesday sincerely apologizing for keeping her out. He was upset, holding back tears. I told him she's a big girl, able to make her own decisions. He might have asked her to stay later but it was her choice to do so.
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@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
2 Aug 10
I tried just about everything. My oldest worked after school so she wasn't too much of a problem. My younger daughter was always getting grounded for everything. The ONE thing that worked with her was to take away her phone but leave her answering machine. She had to listen to her friends calls but could not answer. Of course that was a few years ago.
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@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
• Canada
9 Aug 10
Oh I can image how irratating that would be for a teen to have to listen to the messages and not be able to respond! LOL That would drive my daughter absolutely insane!
Thanks for your response!
@Suke002 (311)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Man, my parents never grounded me. My dad takes a belt to me and I straighten up real fast and I don't act up again.No it's not abuse, a spanking isn't going to kill her. But grounding does absolutely nothing. One good beating and she won't be out past curfew like that again. But do as you will though. I don't know your views on that stuff.
@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
• Canada
30 Jul 10
Well if I took a belt to my kids, I wouldn't have my kids in my custody for long. I do agree to an extend. We got spankings and we learned. But now it's illegal where I live. Some people have taken it way too far and the government decided it was best to just 'protect' all children.
Grounding my daughter so far has helped. The one thing she hates most is cleaning or any type of chores so I'm pretty sure she's not going to chance this again.
