Lose yourself to marriage or always have yourself and never get married?

Why do you always have to agree with the love of your life? Can't you have different opinions sometimes and just respect them? Also I do not see that you have to lose your identity. You can still be your own person and part of a couple. I think that is healthier anyway.

I would lose myself to get married rather than have myself and never get married. I would like to enjoy with who ever I will marry rather than being alone. I don't care how much I lose but I will get marry and have kids. I am really crazy of kids and I want to have my own.

There are responsibilities carried upon getting married,but not necessarily losing our identity. I am also a married woman but i never lost mine(identity) There will be some changes with life routine and restriction to honor our husband/partner. I pity that woman for losing herself due to marriage. She may had been into bad situation. Regarding your topic,i would rather stay alone and single for the rest of my life than marrying the man i love and yet lost myself.(oh,i wish i could hehehe,love always finds a way) Have a wonderful weekend

Marriage at certain moments can be infuriating.But it is easy to say always have yourself and never get married.I feel all the adjustment and understanding between the spouses will lead to sense of belonging and selflessness.When we care for children we are providing a firm foundation for future adults who'll contribute to society.

I don't believe getting married means you have to lose yourself...not in this day and age. Why would you ALWAYS have to agree with them? You aren't a puppet, and neither is he. You are both unique individuals with your won thoughts and ideals, and the wonderful thing is that you have someone to share them with. Someone to build your dreams with. Someone to support you...and you him. That wonam who said she lost herself and her idenity by getting married allowed it to happen.

I never ever thought I'd get married. I was always a rebel. I always thought of myself as the misfit. Until I found someone who liked me just the way I was. Then we got married and tried the oky doke. I told him he had the choice to accept me as I am or leave me alone. I've never tried to inpede his personality and I just ask for the same. Mind you I've had a couple of spirals into the abyss but he was there to pull me out. We've been married going on 9 years and have 2 beautiful baby girls. I'd die for him and die without him. Love is out there for all of us, you just have to open the door.

I prefer not to be selfish; better to lose yourself to marriage rather than always have myself and never get married. There is more fun in belonging rather than being alone all by myself for my self and no body else.