Is Studies Everything ?

Academic studies meant to achieve higher grades is surely NOT everything. But studying due to curiosity IS everything. Acieving higher grades is just a small but necessary part of life. And yes, doing high number of extra curricular activities is always beneficial and so is doing the things children generally should do to grow naturally. Students should not be forced to study to achieve higher grades, but they should be encouraged to study to fulfill their curiosities.

Dear thesids! The thing I keep working together with my kids is to have a practical schedule, one which combines an equal amount of watching tv, play games, doing household chores, homework and study as well as the discipline to follow the schedule or plan. A regular reminder, a check sometimes but without them knowing they are being checked. Last but not least a certain amount of reward for a job done well or a privilege forfeited for not doing the job.

It's not "everything", is studying more important than having fun or being happy? No. It's very important but it needs to be balanced like everything in life. It's really a case of is doing something too much a good or bad thing? I personally think over studying is one of the worst things you can do. If you actually fail, then it's a waste of dedicated time. Really it's just important, along with many other things in life.

it is not everything. but we often see that many people success because they are success in their study too. parents want to make it best for their child, and think that is the best way to make kids success

As what you said parents wants their children to have bright future and it will start in childhood. Having a discipline in early stage will teach your children on how to balance things and be responsible at early age. I already met lots of people and it shows that those who brought up with discipline are often successful in their chosen field(base on my batch mates). With those simple ways of disciplining their children contributed a lot and serve a major impact of their lives. The earlier your parents mold you the better future you have.

I really dont believe that studies is every thing there is. There are a lot of people who didnt have a formal education but they were successful. I think it has nothing to do with academic performance that will make you successful but it has something to do with your attitude.

My mom was like that when I was a kid. She wouldn't allow me to watch T.V. or listen to radio during school days. She wanted me to focus on just one thing at a time. I, on the other hand, is actually the exact opposite of her. It's okay for me to multitask while studying. In fact, I always listen to the radio while I was studying and until now, I still do it. I can actually concentrate when there's a music in my background. Also, I don't believe in forcing the kids on what you want to do with their lives. Let them decide what they want and support them. I'm telling this from my experience. My mom wanted me to take nursing but I don't want it because I wanted a computer related course. Also, I knew that I would be uninspired if I took that course she wanted. To make that story short, I fought for what I wanted even we had an argument but in the end, I won. Actually, I did something for her to give up and surprisingly, she didn't get mad at me. That happened almost two years ago. Now she's supportive in what I do without forcing me into anything.

Here in America, we have the opposite problem. Parents don't teach their kids to work at all. Kids grow up playing and goofing off constantly, and never learn to be an adult. I've seen 'kids' in their 40s, have a temper tantrum like they were 2 years old, because they never grew up. Never learned to work hard. Never matured, and learned what being an adult is like. So... on the one hand, I understand that over-kill is bad, and children should play a little. However, I think the baby-maturity for life, is worse. I'd rather have kids work, than play and never learn how to be an adult.

Education is not everything, but it does more or less provide a means of living for the majority of the society. All parents want the best for their children. However, some of them place too much emphasis on studies so much so that they forget that children should be allowed to dwell in their own areas of interests. In fact, children who are allowed to puruse their own interests become more creative as a result.

Well I know you do not learn every thing from school and every thing you learn in school is not useful to every one.Since some things you learn from friends like social skills,how to relate to people,people skills,and team work.Also you can learn some good things from tv even some cartoons just not the stupid ones most people watch.I think it is a balancing act between school,tv,and friends.Also some things you can't learn from a book you have to do them to learn.

It's not good to force kids to study every time. I was taught that studies were very important if you wanted a good life and to be happy when I was growing up. And it most certainly doesn't bring a child happiness which is what a child mostly needs. When I was little I always made sure I studied and I hardly went out to play. My friends always thought I was awkward and you know how kids are they'll say anything on their mind. Kids need to have a balance of studies and play. Now that I'm older I try not to get too buried into my studies but I can't help it. Grades to me are very important and maintaining them high makes me really happy, but I really don't think it's good for me.

Studies ain't everything but as a parent one must emphasis to the kids to use their time well.I however agree with you that kids should be allowed to do other things. This will help them grow all round.

Study isn't everything, but without study is nothing. In our country the social system and educational system brings exceptional competition even before going to primary school. parents,students even teachers complain about these systems. however, in such a country with a large population, we could't find a more efficient and equal way to select talented individuals. so the high grades seems especally important in such selections. Many students are under heavey pressure to sutdy hard when the are very young. For most students especially for the poor, study is the only way to change their fates.

playing is important for kids too...that's why i am against to the idea of having the kids study all the time..yes studying will do great for the kid's future... i was raised in a family with great values on education...i have six younger siblings and all of us were good students..yes our mother doesn't allow us to watch TV on school nights..it's off limits..and we are scold by our mother if we do so... 5 days a week..we study..study and study.., we can play in school maybe when our mother is not around but at home..we only entertain our books...we are not allowed to go out and play with other kids...we only have ourselves to play with on weekends... but there was no harm done...i grew up as a studious child... i did good in school and when i was in college...i learned to balanced things...i go out with friends and still prioritized my studies... i maintained my good grades...i graduated with flying colors... so i didn't see anything wrong with parents being tight on their children's study habits..=)

Yes, I agree with you that the kids must do varieties of things apart from their studies, but their main focusing of mind must be in studies! At least 7 hours of daily study must be carried by every student in the morning and evening hours! this regular habit must be practised by every student! Rest of the time may be planned for other things without distubing the main study part. Thanks for this nice topic and let the kids make proper use of their time as well as work!!

This is usually the case in asian countries where their studies and grades really depend on their chances of getting a job and survival. I can understand why parents do it, since they want the best for their children. However I think it's very unhealthy if a kid is given an unbalanced time to spend on studies/play. Too much studying or too much game play are both equally unhealthy and it's unfair on a child if that is the case. A lot of children would rather do no work and parents should force their children to do SOME if that is the case. When I was small I was forced a lot by my parents to do work and this made me not want to do ANY studying as a result. But when I told them to back off because I wasn't interested anymore, I started to go back to my studying in my own time and now feel that I study, work and play in a balanced manner. I think all kids should do this, children should be rewarded for hard work not given more work! At the end of the day it is no complete garuntee that perfect studies will end in a job. We have students here in the UK graduating with degrees in subjects like Biology and still not being able to find a job which is really frustrating. When a child finds what he or she is good at doing, they will naturally move towards that particular subject and there should be no need to push a child into doing something they don't want to do because they will probably not be good at it and it will make their life miserable.

it's okay to hate school! there is nothing wrong about that...Parents or teachers may be quick to call a child 'defiant or troubled' or dignose them with buches of disorders. Nothing could be further from the truth.There is nothing wrong in hating school,there is nothing wrong in hating been forced go to someplace you don't want to and been taught things that don't interest you in ways that would kill you if boredom were lethal. You are not worthless if you don't get good grades, and you're not mentally ill. if the mere thought of school scares you. Infact you are perfectly sane. There are alternatives to school. Find out...

Just consider whatever is driving your decision about education today better be a value reason in 10 years especially if it is a matter that you absolutely have no idea what to major in-that's what the first couple of years in college is all about-also try and get lower obs in a field that might be interesting just to get further insight. Going to college is no guarantee of financial success or a rewarding career. However, failure to have education, you are definately limiting your choices which is really important to anyone's future. In this age, there is no substitute for education. Whether you use what you learned in school or not, you're always on a plus side.

Kids should be allowed playing time. You only get to be a kid once. However there must be balance with school and play.

I don't think kids should do too much of either. Because one takes away from them being a kid and the other helps them find their place in life. You need a happy medium in these. For me I have my kids do their homework when they get in from school that way it gets done and they have the rest of the night to do whatever. Whether it is playing video games or playing outside. Although of the 2 I think playing outside with friends is a lot healthier than sitting in front of a tv. Gives them their needed exercise and socialization that they need as well as develops imaginative playing.