What do you think of your children's teachers?
By coffeeshot
@coffeeshot (3783)
Australia
August 1, 2010 10:23am CST
As a student teacher I often wonder about what my students' teachers will think of me when I have my own class. Teaching is a hard job and you have to be very dedicated to each and every member of your class.
Have you had an experience with one of your children's teachers where you just thought that they aren't very good at their job? Has your child performed poorly because of an unsatisfactory teacher?
If so what did you do about it?
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12 responses
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
2 Aug 10
I agree that teaching is a difficult job and I admire those who do it! We haven’t had any bad experiences with any teacher, in fact my daughter’s grade three teacher taught her last year as well. We specifically asked for him when we found out he was going to be teaching year three so my daughter could have him again because he is a brilliant teacher who you can see truly loves what he does. In year one she had a young teacher who was filling her first teaching job and we found her very nice and enthusiastic as far as the children were concerned; the only negative was that being younger she didn’t have much of a clue in regards to communicating with the parents although the kids loved her.
Hope your studies are going well...
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
4 Aug 10
Being younger is a negative? See, I prefer younger teachers with the younger levels, say K-3. I have seen too many incidences where a K student or 1st grader had some old lady for a teacher and then they had a bad experience. The older teachers seem to have a higher incidence of talking down to the parents too, which is also in my opinion unacceptable. In my daughter's K class last year, there were a good portion of us who are in our 30s, but there were also a few on the other end of the spectrum, K parents who were maybe only 22 or 23. I can tell you even mid 30 I don't do well with someone who is 50ish - if they have a different parenting/teaching philosophy than I do. The younger teachers... mid to late 20s, seem to have a better grasp of how to communicate. I think if the school were to hire a much older teacher, I'd have to have a meeting with the teacher before I was comfortable putting my daughter in that class.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Aug 10
coffeeshot Well when my 51 year old son was about six, he fell from a swing and somehow cut the corner of his mouth badly so it needed stitches. but the stupid teacher waited til noon , this happened hours before to call me and tell me my son had a small cut on his lip and was crying. I took a cab as my husband and our only car was a work. I was apalled when I saw his lip hanging like that,no wonder he was crying. I bawled the stupid teacher out, took my son to our doctor where he had to have seven stitches put in his lip. the doctor told us not to let him go back to school for four days to let the stitches heal.I have never forgotten that teacher and she fortunately did not last but another month as a kindergarten teacher.
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@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
1 Aug 10
Hatley that is a horrible story. Common sense is hard to find, so it seems.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
4 Aug 10
Lord knows I am terrified of something like that occurring. This year my daughter will be on the big playground with all the big kids... last year kindergarten was separate, they had a little playground and it was all security fenced in directly by their classrooms with their own picnic tables and their own grass area.
Last year also, I was taking care of one of her friends, a little boy in her class. His mom called me and said 'uh, A had an accident at school and we are going to the ER...' so his brother had had an accident which caused him to have to have like 8 stitches in his forehead. We are still not sure why she wasn't told right away about it, but I will impress upon the teacher that if anything happens to my daughter, they are to call me IMMEDIATeLY. If I find out someone waited even 10 minutes when she was injured and bleeding, I will sue somebody. I live like 2 minutes or less from the school... it's like 5-6 blocks. So far nothing bad has ever happened but my daughter plays with boys. she is not exceptionally rough because on top of being a girl, she is tiny, but she does play with them, so I sure hope she does not end up underneath a pileup on the playground this year.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Heh. Well... I think it can be a very individual thing, a teacher not being 'good' at their job. I also think it depends on their personality what grade or age they are more effective with. My daughter's teacher last year began the year off pretty well. It was just - later in the year I think she got frustrated. Out of a class of 35 kids, they would split up for excel. The main teacher kept the high excel kids, while the middle group went to another teacher and the low group went to another teacher. Myself and a few other parents started noticing that our kids would come home and say they did 'nothing' at school or that they were bored. One on one when our kids were saying this, we thought it was just the kids getting burned out on school, but after we saw that it was all kids in the high excel group who were together every day, ALL day, saying they were not learning anything new and it was all review and the teacher got irritated with the kids who were behind, WELL.... yeah, it's frustrating. I volunteered for the other morning teacher who took the low excel group, and all I can say is that she is much better with the kids who have a hard time. She is very patient with them, but also very firm. They get their three chances and if they continue to screw around, she doesn't take bull.
I think my daughter did fine with her teacher, but that's an issue in itself. If you have a class of kids, you're going to have some kids who naturally gravitate towards getting in trouble. you're going to have the ones that do what they shouldn't, who talk all the time, and the ones who just somehow get attention, even if it's negative attention. Then you have the ones who get attention because they do so poorly. On the other end are the kids who do fine, but are well behaved and quiet. Basically if you learn quickly, work independently, and find something to do when you're done, you kinda get ignored as far as extra attention from the teacher. I can't say it's the teacher's fault that she was stiffing the exceptional kids later in the year, but it was also her first year teaching kindergarten, she was used to 3rd graders.
If a teacher is unsatisfactory because the kids are not learning - or the child is uncomfortable in the class, it's probably a good idea to speak to the principal and suggest a classroom move to another teacher.
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@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
2 Aug 10
We have been lucky mostly with our children's teachers so far in that they have all been pretty good. They have had excellent and really helpful teachers most years and there has only been a couple of years in which their teachers were just OK.
We have however had a problem with a female relief teacher that the school uses. She firstly bullied our daughter one year and she stood up to it fairly well but did complain to us about her. Then the next year, which was the start of this year, my son had this teacher for a week and was also bullied by her.
He came home complaining about the teacher and said that he did not want to go to school. We then asked him what happened and then found out that it was the same teacher that our daughter had problems with. My wife then went in the next day and spoke to this teacher but the teacher just treated my wife like she was an idiot. She spoke down to her and was really unfriendly!(any wonder our kids did not like her)
My wife then went to the office and spoke to the vice principal of the school about the woman and he promised to take her off the schools top list of relief teachers. My wife then came home and wrote notes out for the kids to keep in their bags saying that if their classes had this teacher again, then they were to be removed from the class and either put in another class or sent home. The notes were also given to the office. My son has had the teacher twice since but only for 2 hour periods each time so he was kept in there.
@puddinggirl (93)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
I have two kids , a pre-schooler and a grader. So far , so good. I am satisfied with the kind of teachers they have . I have great appreciation for their job . For me its an achievement for 20 some children in a class that would be able to read and write and all at the end of school year!. I can see how great the teacher's effort is every time I will see an improvement for my children because believe me no matter how smart the kid is .. they would still learn nothing if not for their teachers.
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@Laurelle11 (409)
• Australia
1 Aug 10
Yes, my daughter ended up in learning support because of this teachers lack of education and patience. As a result of ignoring her students needs a lot of the other students also needed extra help to learn the basics of reading and writing. They were only in 2nd grade so how hard is it to give the kids the help they needed. The irony is that the teacher is still employed by the same school, teaching the same grades and apparently getting the same results. I told her she was a pathetic excuse for a teacher and told her to go back to school and learn how to be a better teacher. She had me banned from school grounds.
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
1 Aug 10
Although I have no children of my own, having been a teacher I can tell you I saw some pretty bad ones. I think sending your kid to school is a bit like playing Russian Roulette (I hope that is not considered an ethnically insensitive term these days, BTW)
However, if parents teach their children that they can learn something of value even from the worst person, even if it is to grow up and be different from that, and here is the big thing, if they supplement the education at home, then children are quite resilient and probably will be fine. I do remember having had quite a few awful teachers myself, and I still grew up with a love of learning and an insatiable desire to keep learning lifelong.
Parents do not need to be "experts" to make sure their children know the basics of arithmetic, spelling, reading, etc. It is possible to supplement children's education without contradicting it. The next most important thing children need to learn is self-esteem and a thirst for knowledge.
It is important for you to just do your best and take the high moral road without any concern for what people will think of you. You will be a role model from whom the children must learn not to cave in to peer pressure.
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@shaggin (72131)
• United States
25 Nov 10
My daughter is only 6 so she went through Kindergarten and is now in first grade. Her teacher seems really nice but is to strict about some things. My daughter can take water to school for snack time but she cannot have any water bottles that do no have a sports spout on it. It also cannot be flavored water. Really I dont have any other complaints besides that and thats really not a big deal. The most important thing is that she is nice to the kids and my daughter likes her.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
1 Aug 10
Oh wow, teaching is a hard and thankless job, and when my child does complain, I do bring it up with the teacher to get her side of it..(Know how many times it is actually the child and not the teacher??) I am not a teacher in the sense of a job, but I did teach my son when he was four, taught him his ABC's and numbers. And now I teach him G♥d's Word which is difficult too..So in a way, I know what it is like and I am sure that you are a good teacher. Just be prepared for the parents who are closed minded that they think their child is perfect, those probably are the worse...
@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
1 Aug 10
Teaching is a hard job. I think with every teacher there will be good and bad. In our school system I have only heard of a few teachers that people really liked. Some of the teachers bring their personal emotions into the classrooms and go off on the kids for little things. That's very unprofessional. My daughter has never had any problems in school with her teachers. However, she is only going into third grade this year. So far she's only had one teacher that I can honestly say was a great teacher and really cared about the kids and that was her kindergarten teacher.
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@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
1 Aug 10
I think teachers do not get as much appreciation as they should. They help to shape our child's lives and I for one appreciate them so much. I have been very lucky so far and have loved all of my child's teachers. They are very hard workers and know how to treat children correctly and have more patience than most people.
If I ever do have a situation I would try to speak to the teacher first and if that did not work out well, then would try to talk to the principle if necessary.
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@binlilien (18)
• United States
2 Aug 10
teach is not a easy jobs. your child do poorly at school because maybe they didn't do good at school. student's teachers it the same at teacher they just new. all you have to do it talk to the student teacher tell him to explain more to your children.