How can i enjoy life if someone hate me?

Philippines
August 3, 2010 1:44am CST
How can i enjoy life if someone hate me? i can't do what i want to do i feel uncomfortable, my friend told me someone hate me i don't know who She or He i feel someone watching every move i make every mistake i made i feel He/She wants me to be unhappy i don't know why? i don't know if i disappoint the person or what one thing i want to do now is explain and ask for forgiveness if i hurt Him/Her i don't want enemies i want all person around me will love me the way i am I'm happy to have a lot of friends, hope you can give me some advice for things happening.
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41 responses
@will_win (222)
• India
3 Aug 10
What i will say is enjoy your life with your beloved ones and let it be until and unless if you have done nothing bad.You just pray to god that every thing in your life to be good without any problem.
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• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Yes i think it is just a trial and i know every trial has a reason and God gave me trial with a good answer i know God testing me in case of trial am i going to call on Him right God knows the best so i will learn how to wait, pray and be patient of every trials after all that i will be happy again thanks for giving me some advice my friend God bless you
@rose005 (254)
• India
3 Aug 10
You have done anything bad to other people? I think you didn't rite? So let them hate you until and unless you didn't do anything wrong. You enjoy your life fullest rather than thinking about the person who hates you without you doing anything.
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
1 Dec 10
just ignore him/her. pretend that she/he is not there. just act normally, and if u make mistake, tell Ur self not to worry. human made mistake
@camomile07 (1420)
• Germany
3 Aug 10
Until this enemy doesn't appear, don't worry about him or her. Don't stop living your live only because maybe someone might not like you. If your "friend" tells you things like that, maybe you could ask yourself: is your friend really what you think he/she is? Maybe this person who told you that doesn`t like you or is just jellous. I personnally wouldn't worry about that. Nobody is perfect, everyone has got one or more enemies. Jesus had plenty of them and he was/is perfect. You don't depend on anybody. Keep on living your own live. If this enemie appears in the future, try to have a talk to him/her trying to resolve the problem he/she might have with you. Otherwise, forget this comment of that person and keep on living your live.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Wow i really appreciate that, thanks now i know what to do i have strength to go outside and meet a lot of people for friends or everything i need a lot of things to do but i wont let Her/Him to pull me down i will rise up again i have my God He is mighty to save i know God will never leave me, God bless you for your advice... take care always my friend.
@damned_dle (3942)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
Then ask your friend who hates you. That way you can confront him/her so you can move on....
• Germany
5 Aug 10
Maybe your friend (is he or she really a friend?) tried to make an ugly joke. If I would know about someone who hates another person, I never would comment it. Why should we comment those normal things in life? Otherwise: "the tongue is a very small member which is able to produce an irrefutable pain". So we have to be very carefull about not only WHAT we say, but also about HOW we tell things, even to whom we comment. Sometimes it's better to remain silent to avoid problems or to damage the other person we like or love even as a friend.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
i already ask my friend but no comment no idea i don't know kind of weird aha but i understand my friend just to get rid about the issue aha.
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
3 Aug 10
We'll be hated by this person and we'll be loved by other one. This is very normally. It is truth life. So, I think that you should be enjoy life instead of worry about the person who hate you.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
actually after reading the response i suddenly think about my life if i let Him/Her to do what He/She want to me i cant be happy again with my finally or friend then suddenly i finally decide to live happy with or without the one hate me just to be happy and to enjoy life in the fullness of Joy thanks my friend for responding God bless you
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
12 Aug 10
I think your friend is not a good friend and that she is making a mischief for you. You seem to be a sweet person so there seems to be absolutley no reason for someone to hate you. Someone might be jealous or someone might like you from a distance and want to be your friend buit that's all. If there is someone IO think they are being a bit childish. I think your friend is also being childish and has made this up. My advice to you is to forget about it and be happy. Failing that, insist your friend tell you the truth so you can sort things out. Be strong.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Hi, mcmflores. I say the same thing too. But you know what, I will enjoy life even if they hate me. Continue to live your life and never mind the haters out there. Nine times out of ten, they are just envious because of what you may have.. You can rest assure that God does not hate you, he loves you.
@lulu1220 (1006)
• United States
5 Aug 10
If there is one thing I have learned in life if that you cannot please everyone. Someone will always disagree with your opinions, your choices, your clothes, your friends, etc. I used to be like this too then as I got older it did not bother me. I no longer base my decisions on what others think. If they do not agree with me, then so be it. Just be a good person and be yourself. The people that are truly your friends will like you for who you are. For those that don't like it, then they were not worth your time.
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 10
Hi, I definitely won't enjoy my life if I have a friend who hates me. For me, I prefer my friend to tell me straight forward on my mistakes(unknown to me). I don't like people talk at my back. I can accept criticize and suggestions and I am a reasonable person, as long as ,the logic is there, I will accept the statement.
• India
5 Aug 10
Hello welcome to mylot This is a nice discussion, if we love others, don't hate others, we expect the same from others too, why should some body hate you? But some person are there who get some kind of pleasure in this.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
• Philippines
8 Aug 10
One thing you learn in life is that you CAN'T please EVERYBODY. And you have to let it go at that. Don't mind that person, or else it's gonna eat away at you. You'll just get stressed-out. Go on with your life, thinking about it would only ruin your happiness.
@triselle (55)
• Canada
6 Aug 10
Don't be discouraged by people who dislike you. There will always be people who will criticize or be judgmental of others. You're probably thinking in your head " Why is he/she hate me? What did I ever do to make you hate me?" You should not blame yourself and worry of the opinions others.
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
You cant please everybody.. just ignore them and don't be affected.. Live your life just like you want it to be and let the haters live with their troubled mind.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
4 Aug 10
who gives a crap. there's always going to be someone who doesn't like you for one reason or another. you can't allow that to make you unhappy. you have to just continue being you and living the kind of life you want for yourself.
@jdyrj777 (6528)
• United States
4 Aug 10
I believe someone has to know you to either love or hate you. How can somebody just say they hate you and they dont even know you??? Just keep being the person you are. Be yourself and dont worry about this hater that you dont know.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
4 Aug 10
here is my advice. i had the same thing happen once and my other friend said, this person is just jealous of you. dont let it bother you. its a problem with them obviously because everyone else likes you. so, there must be something wrong with that person
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
4 Aug 10
You need to talk to your friend and find our exactly what has caused the bad feelings. It may be something that can be worked out between the two of you. If the reason this person doesn’t like you for no valid reason and is not willing to work at changing the situation you may be better off moving on and accepting the fact that it is your friend’s problem and not yours.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
4 Aug 10
I know how that feels, knowing that a person doesn't like you and you couldn't do anything about it. But mcm..., we can never please everybody, and everybody is not pleased by us. And besides, that is just one person! Why should you let your whole life be affected by just one person who in fact may even be far worse than you are? Or who doesn't even know or care who you truly are? So just cast all your cares upon Him, and be still. If you think you are not doing anything wrong, then have peace of mind. God sees your every actions. If this person is really bothered by a certain trait of yours, if he was brave enough, he would have confronted you about it. Instead he remains in the shadow, hating you in secret. That's cowardice!
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
4 Aug 10
You can't actually please everybody, even the fact that you are really good enough that having moral values then one way or another there will be other people that will hate you. In the sense that they were insecure because you have something good that they don't have or it is just that they just don't feel you at all. We don't know but then don't turn your world around them especially you are not yet seeing them. Just love it for hating you because you are right.