Love after marriage

After marriage, the children come in to picture and the parents need to learn how to give free time for themselves, in order to cherish them love. Love is just like a flower if you will not nourish it then it will just wilt. There are many married couples who stops almost permanently to hang out together, parents should know how to make free time for them relationship.

I still dont know if now a days if true really exist... nothing is permanent except change..... love will fade over a time... if only , I can hold love with me.. I will gladly do it... I just can't ...

I think it depends on the couple on how much they really love each other and how much they are bonded together. My husband and I are married for a year now and it feels like it's still our first month that we've known each other. I know it's still early to tell but we are still the same as before, we cuddle in bed, kiss and hug each other when we need to part ways, enjoy the same interests... We see to it that the love that we show won't easily fade away (we do our own responsibilities that would benefit the family, we always communicate so that we share the problems and come up with solutions) so that our children would know that we love each other, and they would grow in a harmonious family.

Love after marriage is what parents tell their son or daughter when parents happen to arrange their marriage. So far from what I observe nowadays, it don't apply to everyone. The fading love issue perhaps happen when either husband or wife are too busy with real life works or simply just being bored. Anyway, concerning love, it's up to each couple on how to maintain and preserve the feelings within themselves.

I don't think true love can fade, but I can't give any evidence to prove it. What I am sure is that if you have spent long experience with a person, then you'll habituate his/her existence. If it's long enough, you may feel you can't live without him/her. May it be a kind of true love?

love makes every relation successful!!

Hi Mabey, Welcome to Mylot! It is true that love loses its intensity as you get more comfortable with each other. Still it doesn't have to fade. Nothing can compare to that comfort of knowing that someone cares about you and loves you. That person knows your faults and has seen you at your worst and still loves you....you just can't beat that. It can get dull and boring and fade as you say but it doesn't have to. If you both are committed to keeping the love alive and respect the relationship itself as well as each other then it could last a lifetime. Unfortunately when bad times hit or things get a little dull, too many people are quick to end it and move on rather than to try to work thru it which would make the relationship stronger. What I see is that usually one is more willing to stick it out and work on things while the other is equally as determined to give up...not try. It takes both or it just won't work. I know people that have been together for years and years and are still very much in love so that is proof to me that it is maybe rare but for sure...possible. I'm sure that with a bit of creativity, you could breath some fresh life into your marriage. Don't give up!

Hi mabey1, Love, in the begin is like the fireworks on the Fourth of July. You are on a high most of the time, you can keep your hands to yourself, you can't be without each other for very long, and on and on. This passion is what connects and keeps a new relationship together. You may know very little about your new partner and that is okay, for a while. New relationships are like new cars with that new car smell, but the more you drive it the less intense the smell, so the longer you are in the same relationship the fireworks are less and less. Unless you work at it it won't last. If you get married, the relationship most times, will not be the same as when you were single and in love. You now have different priorities and they will get bigger and bigger as your family grow. Unless you make an effort to keep those fireworks in the marriage, maybe not as intense, it won't survive. When both partners no longer feel love for each other, what is the point in staying together, unless you get professional help to get those fireworks back in the marriage.

have read your feeling .i only just say that maybe your housband's love on you is not enough

Love is marraige. I've been married for almost 10 years and I'm 33. Now days thats like a miracle. I think it has to do with the thought that if you're married it's supposed to be bliss. No Way. We have our spats but our difference keep us individual. We joke and laugh but sometime we don't want to speak. And that don't go to bed mad, crap. Somethings can't be ironed out overnight. But in the end is it all really worht losing it all? Never. My husband is my best friend. We laugh together, we've cried together, we've fought and we've celebrated. Marraige is a commitment. They make it that way because if people could just get up and leave, they would, then regret it down the line. When you're married you are now family. I regard my husband as I would my father or brother. And vice versa. Love is work but the reward of having someone who loves you as mush as you love them is immeasurable.