Am I Being Morbid
By lilkitty15
@lilkitty15 (115)
August 4, 2010 4:21pm CST
I mentioned to a friend the other day that I had written a list of things I wanted to do/achieve in my lifetime (so effectively before I die). She told me not to think like that and that it was a horrible idea. I personally didn't think there was anything morbid about having goals with a deadline (excuse the pun) but to others it seemed like I was planning my own death...which it was certainly not what it was about.
There are just some things that I would like to achieve or do and I don't see how writing them down on a piece of paper and crossing them off as I achieve them is a bad thing. It keeps my goals in view and I when I'm feeling down or like I don't do anything, I can look at that list and tell myself that isn't true. They're all memories in the making and I don't see that as a negative thing.
What do other mylotters think? Does anyone else have a list of things they want to do or achieve that they look at and update regularly? Is it something you would consider doing?
8 responses
@quarvalsharess (989)
• Malaysia
4 Aug 10
That's just a bucket list, a list of things you want to do before you die.. I think it's normal for people to have it... It's not morbid.. you will die eventually, it's not like your chasing to do it right now thinking that you will die soon, it's like a list of goals that you'd like to achieve before you die.. I think that is normal..
Don't everyone have goals in their life? If they don't have it, then what's the point in living? It could be something as small as having their favorite food for dinner, or maybe going traveling somewhere.. those are goals too!
@lilkitty15 (115)
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5 Aug 10
Exactly!!! That's what I was trying to explain to my friend and she really didn't get it. I have got things on there like travelling and the places I want to visit. They're possible memories in the making.
Do you have a similar list?
@quarvalsharess (989)
• Malaysia
5 Aug 10
hmm.. I used to, now I don't even have the time to do so.. lol.. Maybe once I've got time!
@lilkitty15 (115)
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6 Aug 10
You should post it up here and then we can all cheer you on...once you have the time of course. :P
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
5 Aug 10
The way I see it you are being realistic.
The fact is none of us can live forever. Having a list of goals before kicking the bucket is one way of attempting to make full use of the time left. At least you have a list while most of us never even thought about it.
With or without a list we will all die.
@lilkitty15 (115)
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5 Aug 10
Thank you for posting.
'At least you have a list while most of us never even thought about it'...does that mean you haven't thought about it? What would you have on your list?
@lulu1220 (1006)
• United States
5 Aug 10
There is nothing wrong with doing this. We have to be realistic. We are all going to die one day and we hope it happens when we are old, but it could happen at anytime. So why not list things you want to do? I have done this and I hope to do them all!
@lilkitty15 (115)
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5 Aug 10
Would you mind sharing some of the things on your list? I hope to accomplish everything on my list and keep adding to it.
Thanks for posting.
@nancy0618 (477)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
i do not see anything wrong on making plan list, how come your friends reaction have to be like that? you are just simply planning for the future, well it not necessarily mean that you should achieved it, you just list plan that you want to have in the future
@lilkitty15 (115)
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5 Aug 10
I'm not sure why her reaction was so negative...I don't know if she felt uncomfortable with the idea that my deadline was my D-Day or if it struck a nerve with her...no idea to be quite honest but I really want to look back on my life and be happy and content with everything that I have achieved. I don't see that as a negative thing at all.
@ronaldallan1916 (154)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
That's not ghoulish at all. I would actually do the same thing.
@GloomySky (35)
• Bulgaria
5 Aug 10
Maybe your friend is lacking imagination and is taking your plan too literally. Like she or he is visualizing that when you finally do everything from your list, you will sit down and wait years and years doing nothing, just waiting for the end of life and become depressed for the rest of it. But it isn't working like this.
Everyone is having dreams, goals and deadlines for them. But we add constantly new things to the list and life keeps rolling.
Personally, I have a list of exciting things to do in my head. When I was younger I put lines on those exciting things but never quite managed to keep them. Now I live with the feeling that my dreams will come true sooner or later and I try to enjoy them the best way.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
well it is more of like a plan. you can just write down the things you want to do in life then drop of the line before you die. but then it is just being added for you to be able to make things more serious than they really are. It is kind of scary though but then If you put these kind of remark with any question, it is likely to be more serious. I would want to have a family of my own and be able to make them all successful in life before I die. are you able to notice how impacting it is as you read it rather than saying than you want to have a family and see them all successful. I hope you get my point lilkitty15.
@idaten2311 (16)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
hi der lilkitty,
it's okay to have a list of your plans, least you know were you going to in this journey called "life" morbid maybe to others. having list gives you the desire to move on, to strive even better, it gives you the goal. just keep doing it. i also have my list to. enjoy life!!!!
