What is more important? Family or career?
By rappeter13
@rappeter13 (8608)
Romania
August 5, 2010 3:13pm CST
I think I prefer career instead of family, and when I say career I mean something that brings a lot of money. Of course, this doesn't mean that I am a material person, but I know how does it feel like when you don't have enough money. I want a lot of money because I like the luxurious life and I also like making donations. It is a great feeling to give, when you have a lot. I would also like to have many children, but I don't feel like having only one wife. I just cannot imagine myself being loyal to one person all life long. And in this case it is better not to marry. First of all, to not complicate the divorce process and second to not make false oath, especially in the Church in front of God and so many person.
I was as honest as I can be. Please be the same when you share you opinion about this. So what is more important to you? Family or career?
4 responses
@lulu1220 (1006)
• United States
5 Aug 10
If you know or uncertain you can be faithful to one person than maybe marriage is not for you. If you love children, then you can always volunteer to spend time with them such as being a big brother or sister. I think it is great you donate some of your money to charities.
For me I am married but we have no children. This is by choice. Plus we cannot financially take care of a child anyway. As for careers, I would not say we have dream careers, but one day we hope to change that.
I think it is great you are successful at your career and give to others. Be proud of yourselves. Just don't let family and friends convince you that you need to have a wife and children. Do what you feel is right for you.
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@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
8 Aug 10
Thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it. It is really good to know that there are persons in this world that don't care for what people say and don't let their lives be influenced by others who believe that everybody should live like they live.
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
8 Aug 10
It was a hard process, wasn't it? To become so independent in beliefs and not to concern about what others say about you. Anyway it is good for you, and I hope that I will really reach that maturity that I will be totally immune to what everybody says. I think I am on a good path, but I still need some self-education.
@hfromf (4)
• China
6 Aug 10
How to deal with career and family? To me, i don't think must to distinguish No1. or No2. They are both important in my life. There is an analogy: whatever you are a man or a woman needs to undertake two barrels of water which means career and family. Someone wonder whether should i carry one barrel to save breath? But the principles of mechanics tell us will not. You will feel heavy when rise on barrel with one hand. If use a bamboo hung two barrels, these two buckets have a balanced relationship, will more easily carry. All of us can never avoid this "two buckets". In people's life will certainly be the "two bucket", sometimes will not as heavy, and sometimes water will spill out. But people is balance two buckets as possible, hoping to not spill too much when reach the finish line.
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
8 Aug 10
Like I said before, I totally agree that most of people would choose both of these two, but it is more interesting to find out what would you do if you would be put in a position where you have no other option but to choose between career and family. please think about it. By the way, thanks for your answer, it is very interesting.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
5 Aug 10
To be honest, without money it is really sucks, and you don't feel like you will have any self - esteem. But without a family, or someone you love to share your success, it also feel lonely, and extremely sucks too. So, what makes it more complicated, I want both of them. If I can have an understandable family who really understand my needs, then it will be great.
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
8 Aug 10
I can totally agree with your logic, but I proposed a hypothetical situation, where you would be forced to choose between career and family, what would you do? Of course, that the majority of people would take them both, but it is more interesting to find out if a person should really be in a position to choose, what would be his choice. But thanks for your answer, I really appreciate it.
@yogie_gayo (64)
•
5 Aug 10
of course i selected a family,
money is important,
but will be useless if you do not have a permanent place to share..
@rappeter13 (8608)
• Romania
8 Aug 10
Thanks for choosing one of the two option, that was the whole idea of this discussion, to see what would a person choose if he really has to. Either career, either family. I appreciate your answer.
