When your spouse says...

well, all things that are said depend on the way they said it. If one said they are used to you, it may mean a lot of things, it may either mean that he's used to you that he is comfortable around you, knows what you want, and can deal with you in a more amicable way...this is a good thing, since you don't have to tell him what you need and what you want, it doesn't necessarily mean that your are boring when you are predictable anyway...the other may mean, he's used to you that he knows you can't do certain things and thus he prefers to do things his way, at this note, you may need to adjust so he won't lose confidence on you...I think you should see his comment in a constructive way so that instead of feeling about it, you'll be motivated to show him that things will always be exciting and harmonious at the same time in your marriage

This looks like another example of the old "Men are from Mars Women are from Venus" philosophy. women seem to always look for a hidden meaning while men seem to alway assume they are clear or that what they say should be literally accepted. While I sort of understand this philosophy and might have said it a differnt way, I would think that what he is saying is that he has adjusted to a life with you. Look more for the end result. Many times if we look at the end result we can determine and individual's motivation. Ask yourself, are your physical, emotional, and psychological needs being met? If not, then perhaps you can attribute that to him being bored or something with you. But if you are having your needs met, then it is just what he is saying, he is used to you and does not want to change anything. For you and most of those women out there I would say "stop always trying to read messages between the line" There may simple not be any when it comes to men.

hi likangelspreschool no I really think its more he is comfortable you and he means it in the best possible way, he is happy that he can be himself with you and you can be yourself with him. Marriage is not like courtship when you are f ull of passion all the time,its even better as now you also have friendship with a lover too, and it enriches and makes your marriage smoother, not so full of hot passion but of warm life long love with both of you in sync.love becomes richer all the time when two people in love work to keep the sp arks going. I do not think it was meant as a bad thing or that he is at all bored with you.I think it was meant as a sort of compliment instead. ask him if you are worried. he he he

I also don't like that line. my bf always tell me not to get used to something or say "i can manage." i realized he got a point then. it could be predictable i think. =)

for me, it is not. he is used to you because you are together most of the times he knows you that well so he predicts your move every now and then. why dont you amaze him do something more exciting. try to be adventurous. do something new together that can be exciting. go travel to a new place. and i think it is important that you need to have other world besides him. dont revolve you world around him. make new friends or do more things that can make you happy. and i think you should let him do that too. so you could talk about it. and sometimes make fun of it. happy day to all!

Well, we could be predictable in some things and unpredictable in some. I don't think it's bad if both of you are comfortable with the predictable things. Maybe sometimes we just need to break the monotony and surprise them once in while.

I would not take it that way. It is only a bad thing if you think it is bad. Do you have a favorite outfit, or a favorite pillow? You are used to them.When you are really used to your spouse, you do not get upset if they have a bad day. You understand their feelings and wants. Of course we did not hear it in the context that he said it in.

Hi! I think, if anyone's spouse says that s/he is used to the other, it is derogatory. Each partner should respect other partner's sentiments. If my partner says like to me, I will also feel bad.

Hi there, Or it could mean that he is "used to you" meaning that he is comfortable with you which is not a bad thing. Or it could mean that he knows you. What exactly prompted him to say this? Say you were being grumpy in the morning and then apologized later for it and he said, "Oh it's ok...I'm used to you." I would take something like that to mean that he's gotten to know and accept even my not so easy to live with ways. I wouldn't jump to take offense to it.

yeah when you are with someone for awhile you get pretty used to what they do, me and my wife been together for 26 yrs, and we know what each other is going to do and say. we got a pretty boring life. she wants to do some traveling and me nothing.. but i am the one who wants to go and see people where she dont. sometime i think we need to do or try different things to throw each other off.

After some time, you get to know reach other so well that you can predict each others thoughts and sentences. You know how they will react to certain situations. You do get used to each other. As for the comment he made, it is hard to say how I would take it. I would need to observe his body language and listen to his tone of voice. A change of routine might do you both good. Maybe a last minute trip on the weekend. Making him a romantic dinner for a surprise one night. I think we get so busy with our daily routine that we are just existing and not living life.

Okay, when we get used to each other, then we think we have become boring, because we are not seeing the change. But it doesn't mean one becomes boring for the other. Anyone who says so is definitely a stupid person. I mean, I've been with my mother since I was born, so do I have the right to say that 'Oh mother, we have been living together for too long, you have become boring now'?. Surely Not!

Well, I guess it is open to intrepretation, but it could mean he is comfortable with you, so it's not necessarily a bad thing. It could also mean he understands you, and that is definitely not a bad thing.

after passing time altogether,almost we both get aware of eachothers likes, dislikes,how he would speak,when he or she get angry etc It is a good sign of love that we are predictable but never try to realise opponent you know what he or she is thinking. Just do it as very first conversation when both couple met. When you feel enough bored, not looking anything good that time it would better both couple would go for a holiday outing nearby some hill station etc.......... it is a amazing way.