So you call the house...
By ElicBxn
@ElicBxn (63567)
United States
August 6, 2010 10:13pm CST
and you want to talk to one of the roomies...
Instead, you get me.
I tell you: "She's asleep (at work, don't know where she is) but I'll tell her you called."
I know, you are thinking: *I'll never hear from her, I got Elic on the phone.*
I assure you, I've either told them - maybe not the first instant I see them again - but I tell them - or I'll leave them a note.
Then, if you don't hear back - it ISN'T because I didn't tell them, its because they didn't want to call - either right then or whatever.
I have no control over them calling you back - I'm not going to NAG them - and maybe they are tired of talking to you or just tired of talking at all. After all, the one interacts with the public all day on her job and the other has those days where she's interacting with customers a lot.
So, just because you called, don't blame the messenger for them not calling you back, I told them!
in fact - this evening the roomie got a call while we had someone over for a few and I put her caller off and then nagged the roomie after the visitor left to call her back.
Do you ever feel like the messenger who's being shot for deliver the message?
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16 responses
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
7 Aug 10
Sometimes I feel like I would rather get an answering machine than a person (if it's not the one I want to talk to). If I don't hear back from the person, I admit I think "he probably didn't tell her I called". It seems husbands or sons are the worst at not giving people messages. I never thought about the fact that they might have gotten the message and don't want to call! I hope that is not the case, but it's possible I guess.
@GardenGerty (160392)
• United States
7 Aug 10
My hubby will take the answer off the machine and then will forget to give me the whole message. He often deletes it as well. grr.
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@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
7 Aug 10
It seems some men have the attention span of a little baby. They see something shiny and then forget all about what they had to tell you.1 person likes this
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
7 Aug 10
Yeah, my husband is bad with getting back to people and I have to bug him.
I just say that I will leave a written message for him and I do say, "But he is bad at getting back to people."
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
14 Aug 10
Nah...I totally avoid any social interaction by living alone...except for the critters of course. We have ways of communicating. I think. You probably should ask them.
Why don't you give us a call one day and I'll see if one of the goats or maybe Banjo wants to speak with you. 
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
14 Aug 10
OMG i HATE callers that think that!
we have one jerk who calls the house every day sometimes 3 times a day for the old man..
and you can just hear the attitude when he gets me.
it's like ever think you're being annoying,and maybe this person doesn't want to talk to you,mr told 3 times today he's not here?
rrrr..sorry.i got a big wild hair about this dude.
rrrr..sorry.i got a big wild hair about this dude.1 person likes this
@ElicBxn (63567)
• United States
14 Aug 10
ya know what? I've gotten where I won't answer some times, just let the machine pick it up, they can't say it won't be delivered then, because I've heard both of them tell callers I won't pick up the answering machine - not entirely true, but pretty close
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
14 Aug 10
i've been debating getting a new machine..
or silently blocking the guy..
@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
16 Aug 10
I just deliver the message.
Whether the other person WANTS to call them back or not; it's my position that this has nothing to do with me. I may mention it again if only to remind them of the call. Other than that, I stand firm on my decision NOT to get involved. It's safer that way.
cdrxo
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@ElicBxn (63567)
• United States
16 Aug 10
I deliver the message, even write it down if I don't think I'll see the person, but that doesn't change the fact that some people just don't seem to understand YOU (or me in this case) aren't RESPONSIBLE for the person not calling them back!
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@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
17 Aug 10
You know it!
I'm in total agreement with you.
What gets me though is, sometimes the the friend that you've so graciously taken the message for, DOESN'T educate the person who called them, of this fact.
cdrxo
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@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Sometimes it is a pain to have a phone. People just need to relize they are not the center of the world. Other people have lives that include being tiered and working. talking is not the first thing on my list ever. don't feel bad just live a not and if they don't call them back it's not you falt. The next time the person calls and tries to blame you i would just say "i'll tell (insert name here) that you called bye" then hang up. don't let it stress you out. well not to much anyway. good luck.
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@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Yeah. people don't trust. and if they don't it's there problem. just belive in your self.
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@GardenGerty (160392)
• United States
7 Aug 10
I would be the one you might have to nag to return the call, but since you took the message I would return the call just to not make you look bad. It is frustrating, I am sure.
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@clocks123 (1225)
• United States
7 Aug 10
i wouldn't answer anymore calls for someone else. it is sad that the sender of these calls can't get the message that the other person dosen't want to call them back. it isn't your fault.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
27 Aug 10
Makes you want to stop answering the phone doesn't it? We have caller ID and we call people back. If people don't want to answer the phone or call back, then they could just pay for 911 calling, much cheaper.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Aug 10
hi ElicBxn no I am happy to say I am not in that situation but my roomie
is getting so confused she resents me getting anything she does not have although common sense should tell her whatever I have I had to pay for.but I know she is not thinking straight these days. When I saw Lori yesterday she gave me this huge lovely bouquet. when Kathie saw it she whined nobody ever brings things like that to me.well kiddo this was a first for me too. but why did she have to try to dampen my joy over my bouquet.Now if I get a call downstairs for anyreason Kathy is calling ou t do they want me too? and I have to disappoint her,no Kathy that call was for me. I tried to explain to her yesterday about mylot but she does not remember an hour later, so I just sort of give up. But she could not dampen my joy at meeting our mylot Lori, this was just fantastic for me. what a lovely day for me. I told Kathie to pretend the bouquet was for both of us. I do feel so sorry for her, and her sister being on vacation for two weeks is not helping anything at all.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Some people are so thick headed & conceited it never dawns on them that someone doesn't want to talk to them. 
. I'm like u i deliver a message if need be but don't blame me if they don't hear.
. I'm like u i deliver a message if need be but don't blame me if they don't hear.1 person likes this
@ladybugr2d2 (575)
• United States
8 Aug 10
yea. the worst with my old roomate was she would perpusly have me ancer the phone so she would't have to talk to some people. It gets agervating some time.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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7 Aug 10
I use to pass messages to people from other people.Like you say it is not your fault that they never rang them back.I use to get angry when my daughter never called her friend back,but in the end what i done was i gave everyone who wanted her a mobile number and told them to let it ring and leave her a message.
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Absolutely daily, how I respond basically is he is not home sorry try him back later as the last thing I need is to make excuses for someone else neglect.
@Hoshi_Reed (257)
• Brazil
8 Aug 10
It always sucks being blamed. At least I never got that, but then my roommates lived in the barracks with me so we had the habit of logging all calls as if we were manning the duty desk.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
7 Aug 10
Hey Elic! That's not fair to make you the scapegoat or
so to speak! Since I'm the only person to answer my phone
know that if I don't answer, I am sleeping, watching my
soap, don't feel like talking or just don't feel like
talking to "you" and get over it! I will return "your"
call when I'm good and ready and if you don't like it
and you keep calling me, it might take me even longer
to call you back if I'm in "that" kind of mood!lol I
learned that last one from the bf, because that's what
he does to me and I don't like it one little bit!~ He's
such an azzhole sometimes!
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@wennyyih (26)
• China
7 Aug 10
well ,maybe the roomie just forgot.if one really want to connect with others or he had something emergce , i think he should call more till connect that guy.
Anyway,we shoudn't blame on the roomies,it's definitely unfair.
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