What can I do if I don't love my family?
By Polang
@tkonlinevn (6438)
Vietnam
August 7, 2010 1:35am CST
Sometimes, I feel that I only pity my parents. I do not feel love them. And They don not love me too. They only care me because they must do that. I am very sad and suffer about these my feelings.
8 responses
@hotwheels20 (400)
• India
7 Aug 10
You are thinking in a wrong way. There is no parents who don't love their child. They care you, what is love??? It is only the care, if your parents don't care then it means they don't love you. But in your case they do care you, it shows they also love. And you, how can you hate your own parents. You need to change your mind...please
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
16 Aug 10
Thank you hotwheels20 and all my friends very much. I think I will think about your ideas.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
14 Aug 10
Sometimes people get busy with life and forget about the important things like showing love. Your parents love you more than you know. So it's time to take action. Show your love to them. Say I love you often. You will discover that love you give comes back to you. If it feels funny, start slow then bulid up to much more.
@mevidalady (51)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
You're post really caught my attention. I can't imagine parents not loving their own child. I would like to think that maybe you just thought the wrong way towards your parents. Am sure they love you. Maybe they are not the showy with their feelings towards you coz there are people really who have a hard time expressing themselves. Why don't you talk it out with your parents? I think it is very important for you to communicate more often with them. Try being more showy with your feelings too. You guys should talk to resolve this issue or else it will create a more chaotic relationship. Just be more open minded,understanding and love with no conditions at all. have a nice day
@lilangelspreschool (1129)
• United States
7 Aug 10
I understand where your coming from. Most people that have good parents will tell you that your parents do love you. They cannot possibly know if your parents love you. Your the only one that can know that by what you feel. I think my parent's care about me also, but am I sure they love me? Not so much. I feel like my dad probably does love me but not sure about my mother.
I'm sorry you don't have the best parents, I don't either so don't feel bad. I hope you feel better =)
@vikkitita (194)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
No parents no matter how bad you think they are, would not love their child. Your parents may not be demonstrative in their love, but deep inside them, they love and care for you. Their method of showing their love for you may be different from your expectations. Parents normally desire to shape their children to become good person that they tend to nag always. That is the common mistake of parents. They tend to nag more than show affection. They tend to criticize more than to praise for the good things they see on their children. And because of that, children hate their parents. Parents, most often than not, are often misunderstood by their children.
I was like you when I was your age. I was young and restless that my parents wanted to control me. Just like you, I thought that my parents don't love me because all they see are the bad things that I do. I felt that I am a "no good" person in the eyes of my parents. Just like you, I learned to hate my parents to the extent of running away from home and never communicating with them for several years. That is why I understand how you feel.
The only time I understood my parents was when I became a parent myself. Especially when my children became teenagers. I, too, have children your age. You'll understand what I mean when you get to become a parent of teenagers yourself. Then, maybe someday you'll find yourself giving advices too to parent-rebelling teenagers just like you are now.
Don't be sad. Your parents just mean well. Just show them your love and affection. Be good to them and you'll see, their attitude towards you will change. Find some bonding time with them. Remember..."Love begets love. Hatred begets hatred."
@cwy648723 (10)
• China
7 Aug 10
I do not think so,parents are geat,confcern for you is the embodiment of the love.
@traveling (87)
• China
7 Aug 10
In my opinion, all parents love their childen.Maybe sometimes you made them angry and they scolded you,so that you felt upset. However, you couldnot think your parents didn't love you. You should take more attention to them.