what if it hurts???

I am reminded of Yet by Switchfoot. In that song, there's a part there that says "If it doesn't break your heart, it isn't love." Being in love is not all about being happy. There will surely be a time when you will feel hurt and sad because of your love for someone. When we love someone, everything they do will have an effect on us. Since we are not perfect, there will always be something about our loved one that will irritate us, or make us angry or hurt us. Again, we are not perfect, and so are they. we should accept that people have flaws and people commit mistakes. That's normal. It's in how we recover from that mistake or how we make up for it that decides whether we are capable of keeping the relationship or if it's better to just let go.

Hi dear, I have experienced both in its fullest strength. The highness of love upto the heaven and when it fell down, there is no more space to go bottom of it. Still I am living as if I never experienced such a feeling ever. Perhaps, that could be the reason why life is called life. Why are you not in myLot? Thank-s

sincerelyne, In Love, so what if the relationship fails? What's with this obsession or rather apprehension with a failing relationship anyway? Have we become so rationalized with obtaining 'perfect scores' and 'good results' that we cannot have the imagination and higher understanding that there are times in love (and life) when we must fall in the beginning to win later? Failure suggested growth and not degeneration - the latter often revealed an unevolved soul. It is not that a relationship is detrimental to our individual ideals, but rather, it is part of a greater understanding to promote the beauty of understanding, compromising and acceptance. Surely, if the structure of the relationship constricts certain things in life, something has to sacrifice a little. Sometimes in life, it's difficult to have the best of both worlds The irony of Love is that why focus on the fact that a relationship would fail when one should focus on leading the relationship while it last and make the best out of it? Interestingly, you don't always lose when you have lost your relationship. Think about it.

hi there. if it hurts then you should stop. personally,i must say that if love starts to hurt then we should let it go. the longer it takes, the more it hurts. if this happens to me, i'd rather suffer the pain now because of letting it go, than holding on to it and prolong my agony. besides if it starts hurting, it has the possibility to replace the remaining love in your heart with anger and hatred. for me, i want to remember the person with good memories. who knows, after all you could still establish a good friendship. happy mylotting.

So many things can happen to us when we fall in love. Sometimes those experiences will be filled with joy and happiness. other times they will be net with pain and sorrow. it is something we can not control. We just have to accept what love brings to our our lives or reject it.

When you start hurting in a relationship, I think it usually because one person is more involved emotionally than the other person...but there are other reasons and perhaps specific behaviors that can cause hurt also. I think one needs to evaluate what is going on, determine if the situation is temporary are likely to be long-term, and determine if the situation can be "fixed". If it can't be fixed (or if it keeps happening), or if one is in for long-term misery, then I think it is time to let go.

it depends it if its worth keeping, remember that relationship is not all about love, it's the big part but not the whole.

Don't mean to sound negative but any love u have will always have some hurt to it sooner or later.

forget the pains of love takes a long time. But the pain of love had to be let loose and forgotten because if we continue to remember it, the pain we feel will be more pain and more torture inner and our minds. For this reason, I often forgotten and try to find another love

Dont cry bcos its over, But be happy bcos it has happened. It always happens that you get a good feeling when you are in love, but when it breaks you feel bad. Its a difficult situation to handle but need to carry on with life.

Any relationship is not "a bed of roses". Just like there are thorns in a rose, you should also expect that in any relationship, there will also be challenges. Challenges that may hurt you. But how you overcome those challenges is what will make your relationship stronger. Before jumping into letting go, talk about your differences first. Talk about what has caused you to get hurt with your partner. Both of you should consider that you two are different person, with different personalities, and with different folks, and different strokes. And the way you react to certain things may differ. Try to save your relationship first by talking with him first and opening up your feelings to him. He may not know the reason why you were hurt in the first place if you do not tell him. Don't expect him to read your mind. And after all the measures that you have done, and he still keep on hurting you...then he is not worth your love, I guess. Then it's time to let go. You will be better off with another guy that will make you happy than make you cry all the time.