A Friend told me I look disgusting because i like CATS....
@grecychunny26 (9483)
Philippines
August 10, 2010 11:14pm CST
I was hurt yesterday by one of my friends harsh criticism on me. We were having a break in one of the carienderia near our office when one big black and white cat came near us. I gave it an extra food under the table and I shoo it so that it will not disturb so of my company. I even throw a food far so that it will go away. I did not noticed that, that friend of mine was observing me. Then after we finished eating he come near me and said, "you look disgusting, you like cats?" so I was startled and ask him why? and he answered again "because you like cats, cats are the most horrible creature in the world and people who like cats are horribly disgusting" and he was saying this as he is like having fun telling that to me. I said to him "that cat is more look like a human compare to you, if you do not like cat, that's fine but saying that I look horribly disgusting because i like cats is unreasonable" and he was laughing like he like what I said. And he even said " I don't make friends with people who like cats.." then I answered "then move away from me, because I like to kill people like you". I was really hurt and really angry yesterday that I can't even do my job. What's wrong with him, maybe some cats have hurted him in the past, or any reason why he hated cats I do not want to know. But criticize you and said you look disgusting because you like cats....that's ridiculous. I respect those people who do not like cats, they have their own reasons, but to criticize me and says I am disgusting because of just that....gracious!
Moreover, this creature, my officemate went to me a while ago to ask forgiveness...I just give him the look. I can't forgive him now...i can't do it. I have to remove the anger I am feeling now to forgive him. I like to hit him in the head with a packaging dispenser a while ago when he came near me, I just controlled my anger.
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@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
Say what?! I think cats are adorable. Don't listen to that nonsense. That's blasphemy!
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@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
14 Aug 10
Yea, that's total absurd nonsense. Perhaps you should shoo away people like him.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Aug 10
Hi Grecy!
I think your friend has no right to say so and it is your personal choice that you like cats. He should not disrespect you on this account. Cats are not bad, they are creation of God and if human like them, there is nothing wrong in it.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 Aug 10
Hope you would not have taken your friend's comments to your heart?
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Yes, cats are not bad although there are so many who hated it.I am not against people who hate it. I love cats.
@jwfarrimond (4473)
•
17 Aug 10
I had to laugh when you said that "You gave him the look" when he came to apologise 
So he does not make friends with people who like cats? Works for me is all that I can say! My cat count is now up to 7 since I got two black kittens a couple of months ago.
So he does not make friends with people who like cats? Works for me is all that I can say! My cat count is now up to 7 since I got two black kittens a couple of months ago. @jwfarrimond (4473)
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18 Aug 10
Save it by all means. 
I've got more on my Facebook. I don't spend very much time on mylot anymore since I rarely find anything that I really feel like responding to - I just have a browse around every so often when I've got nothing better to do and maybe post one or two responses if I see something that interests me.
I've got more on my Facebook. I don't spend very much time on mylot anymore since I rarely find anything that I really feel like responding to - I just have a browse around every so often when I've got nothing better to do and maybe post one or two responses if I see something that interests me.@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I know you will drop by to this discussion of mine. I miss you jwfarrimond!
Yes, I gave him the look. It is impossible for me to forget what he has done. Anyway, it happen and I am okay now but we are still talking as a friend. I am just doing him a favor, because i look disgusting.
How cute is star and comet! Can I save it, I collect pictures of cats because you know what when I am tired at work and i look at the cats pictures the tiredness fades away.
@betlynfrnds (4069)
• United States
11 Aug 10
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I think I know how you feel. I have cats and I adore them. In fact, they are a major highlight of my life.
I agree with you that it's O.K. not to like cats but to be so mean and almost evil about it can be quite disturbing. I know some people who have said very stupid, negative things about cats and to be quite truthful with you, I don't consider them to be my friends.
I was at my local mall the other day and I went to the store where you can have tee shirts and hats customized with words and graphics. I was getting an idea of prices and I asked the guy what it would cost to have a tee shirt printed with a few pictures of cats and the line - - 'The more I get to know people, the more I love my cats'.
That's how I feel about it. 
As silly as this may sound it may help. If you get the chance to spend a little quiet time bonding with a cat, it can really calm you down. They are wonderful and relaxing to have around.
I wish you all the best.
As silly as this may sound it may help. If you get the chance to spend a little quiet time bonding with a cat, it can really calm you down. They are wonderful and relaxing to have around.
I wish you all the best.@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
My cats are my friends. Some of my cats who grew up with me acted like a real human now. They are sweet and they are besides me whenever they feel I am down. Although I do not hear some advices coming from them but from their look of their faces they do worry. Even my dogs. I am proud to say I adopt stray kittens. I can't fight the feeling of seeing them crying on the road and asking for food. I will grab them and take care of them as my own child. I believe that is my purpose in this world and I do not care if someone will tell that is a lame purpose. When it comes to animals I am very passionate and true to what i feel.
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@betlynfrnds (4069)
• United States
16 Aug 10
That's really special, grecy. I wish you all the best with your beautiful pets.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
wow,grecy,you really are sweet when it comes to cats huh?
how lucky they are to have you as their parent,
oh,i wish i could be a cat,just by hearing that,but no,i'm thankful to be human after all.and be your friend.you also have dogs,how many are they?just curious.i thought you just like cats,but i'm happy you also like dogs.
oh,i wish i could be a cat,just by hearing that,but no,i'm thankful to be human after all.and be your friend.you also have dogs,how many are they?just curious.i thought you just like cats,but i'm happy you also like dogs.
@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
18 Aug 10
I could never be friends with someone who doesn't like animals. Animals are pure innocents. They need our care and compassion.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Yeah, that is what I am talking about. The animals do not understand any words that have been said to them, so it is quite unfair to just to treat them like that.
@TheCatLady (4691)
• Israel
19 Aug 10
I like people who like animals. Liking cats shows a person is a nice human being.
@Trillionaire (73)
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20 Aug 10
people who does not like cats and dogs are animal themself, they need to check if they are human, they are... i agree with you!
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
should you call that a friend,then?are you really friends with him?he's too bad!he just can say he don't like cats,but to humiliate you in front of others,it's not a good attitude,dear!i agree with you,those people have to be killed, kidding! but he is really rude.if i am with you that day,i guess i would have given him a jab,
you know,i don't like cats,but i do respect people who like cats.and i don't have anything to say to them.we all have different perceptions and reasons why we do or we don't like such.we just have to respect people's point of views.
i guess it's not right to say you are disgusting.maybe he is one!
at least he ask for forgiveness,but still the damage has been done,we can't change what had happened,specially when you have been humiliated in front of others.i just don't like what he's done! i could hang him for a day,if i where you!
he's soooo bad!he has no right to do such things which will hurt other's feelings.
kidding! but he is really rude.if i am with you that day,i guess i would have given him a jab,
you know,i don't like cats,but i do respect people who like cats.and i don't have anything to say to them.we all have different perceptions and reasons why we do or we don't like such.we just have to respect people's point of views.
i guess it's not right to say you are disgusting.maybe he is one!
at least he ask for forgiveness,but still the damage has been done,we can't change what had happened,specially when you have been humiliated in front of others.i just don't like what he's done! i could hang him for a day,if i where you! he's soooo bad!he has no right to do such things which will hurt other's feelings.@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
I do not hang around with him no more... We are not in good terms, but for professional sake we are talking. He do not know how to respect others then he deserved to experience the same treatment. Our friends are planning to make a move for us to reconcile, according to him we were just fighting over the cats, but it is not the cat we were fighting about, the words that he said that I look disgusting because of feeding a cat is the real subject here. If my friends do not get my reason, then it is okay with me if they sided on him, not a problem with me, since everyday I see them always together with that monster. I can live a life without them though.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Maybe now he learned his lesson, that not all people will accept what he says. That his attitude even from before, he is being mean by our co-worker.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
you really are mad at them,huh? don't put too much anger in your heart,my dear! that's not healthy! but i do think you are right! if they want to be at his side,than yours,well then fine! they don't know what you really feel and i guess if they are on your shoe,they'll do the same as you do.there's nothing wrong with feeding the cats,what's wrong is the guy told you harsh things you don't deserve.well,anyone don't deserve to be insulted.if you have nothing good to say,then keep your mouth shut!that's how to give respect.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 10
Hi grecychunny, might the friend you memtioned above having incident which had got him hurt severely with before. If not what he gets so angry with cat as well as the person who loves cat. I think someone who loves cat did hurt him before therefor he dislike cat and treat people who love cat as disgusting ones. There is always story behind people who show their abnormal attitude while maxing with others. It's really interesting to find out the real reason hidden that makes him to hate cat and cat lover in such a strange way. In my eyes, cats are such an adorable creature, especially those little lovely kittens.
I understand that the critizing words he uttered really hurt you and made you to feel unhappy then. Forgiving someone is just same as to get rid of the burden on our shoulder. We would feel relaxed and easy after forgiving someone
Happy posting 
I think someone who loves cat did hurt him before therefor he dislike cat and treat people who love cat as disgusting ones. There is always story behind people who show their abnormal attitude while maxing with others. It's really interesting to find out the real reason hidden that makes him to hate cat and cat lover in such a strange way. In my eyes, cats are such an adorable creature, especially those little lovely kittens.
I understand that the critizing words he uttered really hurt you and made you to feel unhappy then. Forgiving someone is just same as to get rid of the burden on our shoulder. We would feel relaxed and easy after forgiving someone
Happy posting @grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
lkbooi, I haven't forgiven him. Actually we meet on the gate before entering our company building and I just look at him even he said hello. I will forgive him if I already overcome this anger. Who am I who cannot forgive him, of course I can do that.
If he will open up to me what happened in the past between him and the cats, maybe I will understand. Even he will not do that I will understand him, but he have no right to tell me I am disgusting. When he is mean, I can be meaner if that's what he wants.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
12 Aug 10
I hope your icy response upon his greeting at the entrance of the office would make him to think of what he had spoken to you ealier was quite indecent and this would hurt other even unintentionally. Yeah, a man shouldn't say a lady is digusting even he dislikes cat. At least he should respect other who has the different liking. He is really rude for doing so. I believe he would regret when he knows his indecent speaking hurting you deeply.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Aug 10
grecychunny26 that man must be nuts at the least and I would not
let his idiocy bug you as he is a fool. People who love cats and
dogs are the kindest nicest people in t he world and I would trust
them first over anyone else. I am proud of you for not hitting the
idiot. He must have some real problems but to say such things to
you was really hurtful.I am glad I was not t here as I might
have actually whapped him on he head with the dispenser myself.
lol
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
That's what i really want to do Hatley, to whapped him in the head and to see the blood flowing down on his end, but that's brutal. Yeah, I believe people that are kind to animals are with kindhearted and i believe God rewards them silently and them being born here on this planet has a soul purpose.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
So I need to help him for that , you made me laugh shibham. Maybe, maybe he needs that. No one will die because they look disgusting and if you are near the person who looks disgusting you will not die too. Some of my friends say I am just over reacting, maybe, but who is the first one who over reacted?
, you made me laugh shibham. Maybe, maybe he needs that. No one will die because they look disgusting and if you are near the person who looks disgusting you will not die too. Some of my friends say I am just over reacting, maybe, but who is the first one who over reacted?
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I know Lulu. However, we cannot just avoid each other here at work as we need to talk once in a while about the project. I set aside personal feeling so far. But until there is a part of me that still hates him.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
12 Aug 10
Oh wow I can't believe that your friend actually told you that I adore cats and I always give food to them if I see a stray. Well that was very rude of him to tell you that. If he said that then he is not really a friend. Because if a friend of mine told me that I was disgusting just because I like cats then I would not be friends with that person anymore because that would be of a great insult to me not nice at all that's just mean.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
I, however, do not judge him as a person when he said that words,but he judge me already and that hurts. I do not like making friends with people like that. It is not that i make the problem get bigger, but I am avoiding a possible problem to happen between me and him.
@christiana81 (717)
• Romania
14 Aug 10
Well, some people dont like animals...but i love them....and i think the animals make us pretty and healthy persons!
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
And you know what christiana81, when you are exhausted at work, but when you go home and see your dogs waiting at you at the door,wagging their tails like they haven't seen you for years, you will forget you are tired. This is what animals can give you. They are loyal, I mean the dogs. Cats have their own attitude and they look stupid sometimes, but spare my cats as they act as a human now and they are really sweet.
@chargeman (6)
• China
12 Aug 10
my dear friends ,you are really a person with great love ,never be annoyed at the
word of your officemate who always shoots from the hip.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
I agree, and I avoid him too since he told me I look disgusting. For sure he will not make friends with me because I look disgusting.
@gemini1 (67)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
Hi grecy, Surely your friend who did that to you has been traumatized by a cat before. He must had a very horrible experience that he lost control by saying bad and un acceptable things to you. just wondering, have you forgiven him?
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
I already forgiven him but i cannot say we are back for being friends. As of now we haven't talk for a while because I am not working.
@aditya540 (328)
• India
11 Aug 10
let him go to hell and hell with his opinion...!! never change your thoughts and likes for others..!! what s there in that so disguisting??? crazy people wanted to lower other and make fun
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
He is also mean to others, actually I am the very closest girl to him. However, he showed me an example and that's what he got from me.
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@jugsjugs (12967)
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11 Aug 10
I think that there are alot of pathetic people out there that say alot of stupid aswell as nasty things.I think cats are really nice,after all they do not ask to be born,but there are just some people out there that just hate cats for some unknown reason.People that need to just grow up,aswell as keep their opinions to themselves.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
There are so many reason why people hate cats, but there are people who cannot say what specifically they hate about it that i hate mostly. We cannot force them to like the cats that is why give them respect and the respect we need is for them to understand that we like cats and we are not shameful about that. Yes, they need to grow up.
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@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
11 Aug 10
Well, I think that your friend needs to chill out. I hate cats too, but that doesn't mean that I'm going to hate people who like cats too. Everyone has the right to like or dislike things, you can't choose what you like or dislike. People with different likings can live together in harmony
I hope he was just having a bad moment and reacted in a stupid way because of that. Otherwise, I think that person is really mean.
I hope he was just having a bad moment and reacted in a stupid way because of that. Otherwise, I think that person is really mean.@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Yeah, people who do not have the same like can live in harmony as long as they give respect on one another.
He is having a bad moment and he is really mean madteaparty.
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@akopoaysi (739)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
that is so mean. how can he tell that to you? being a cat person is not bad. at least you care for animals. and he needs to respect that.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
First of all I like the avatar!
SEcond, yes any differences we have from other people needs to be respected. And maybe he think I am that kind of person that will just be quiet after humiliation just like what he does to my other co-employee.
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@lindaharding627 (1442)
• United States
11 Aug 10
I don't see how liking cats has anything to do with you personally. I think he is not much of a friend if he judges you that way. I too like cats because they are lovable and sweet. I have a pet cat and had many of them when I was younger. Cats are actually a lot cleaner than some people out there. I think it was horribly disgusting of the guy to act that way.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Yes, Linda you are right! People like him are more disgusting if he cannot prove the reason why i look disgusting for liking cats. i learned he was having a tough time that day, but it is still not right to be mean with others because you hate something. Not all people can accept it.
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@colanah (15)
• United States
11 Aug 10
He might have been speaking in a manner that he thought was jesting or teasing in a sarcastic way without really putting a thought behind what his words might have done to you or your feelings.
He doesn't seem to understand that what he said had such an impact on you. If you can't speak to him face to face, take a few deep breaths and try sending an email or writing it out in a letter. Just to have it come across that you need space to deal with the things he said and that you did not appreciate them or how he worded his views towards you or cats.
In time you'll be able to speak to him again but not if the anger festers.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Thanks for your wonderful advice Colanah. I will take note of that. As soon as this anger is remove, I will continue the friendship, however I do not know when. Moreover, he is still speaking to me professionally and I am the same. A cat is like a family to me, if I look disgusting out of loving a family then I will feel hurt and it is never okay.
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