If your lover had another affair does it mean they love you no more?

My husband did that to me, my first one. He always cheated on me. I even caught him a couple of times with a girl. He would come to me and beg me to take him back claiming that he loved me. He would cry like a baby and beg me to take him back saying that heno way he could love me and do me like that. That he did not have anyr loved me and that he would not do it again. Each time he did though. The last time that I did not let him come back. I told him that he was a lier and that there was no way he loved me and he did not even respect me as a person, his wife, or a lover. That not only that he is sleeping with others and there is no telling that I might have some type of disease from him sleeping with others. I did not take him back again. He was the type that just can not be faithful. Some men and women are this way. You can not let him use you and make a fool of you. At least that is what I decided with mine. I was no longer going to be his devoted, faithful wife being kept in the dark thinking he loved me when he kept coming back to me. He did not love me or he would not have done me that way the first time much less the other times after that. I did not need nor want his kind of love. He could not and would not be faithful. He did not truly love me. He was using me. Just as yours is doing to you. I wish you luck and hope that you will not let him keep using you and causing you pain. You deserve better than that!!!!

Hello, in a situation like the one you just said its very difficult to get a solution. There can be multiple possibilities, but there's one thing i think everyone deserves, is a second chance. And your husband should get one. Best of luck

Strangely enough it often happens that your lover will love you MORE BECAUSE of another affair. 1. He might appreciate you more in comparison. 2. Affairs are usually short and you are someone with whom he has a long time he has a long time relationship. 3. If he has other relationships he will probably demand LESS from you and be happier with what you DO give him.

Not actually.. Maybe, because some guys have affair to look for some excitement. Sometimes guys finds something new or better in their affair that their lovers don't have. It's just about a curiosity in having affairs on other woman. But still they care and love for his family.

Man that having affair with another woman doesn't mean that he doesn't love you anymore. It is just that they are a bit sick and tired of their wife. It's just like food. If you keep on eating and seeing this food, you would be sick and tired on eating it. The same with woman,having them all the time makes us sick. But you know favorite has been the favorite. We always go back from our original taste and like. Just let him know that you are aware about this thing. And ask him clearly about this thing.

for its yes...because why he finds another if he still loves you?or maybe he is not satisfied with the love and care you give to him...

Hi dear, Love is such a thing it never get reduces. It grows and move across any side, where it deserves. When I read about you I get surprised. I think this kind of life style is rare in our area and that may be the reason why I am little exaggerated. Here, one husband one wife, single lover and one love etc. Once I come to myLot, I get a lots of experiences like this, "my husbands ex-wife, my third lover is in an affair with my friends second wife", etc. etc. Here once divorced, there ends everything. Here I think your husband is a nice person. He comes to you for love and I think he likes you also. After all it is the case of man, he will come. I don't know your personal surroundings too much so that I cannot tell you more on that. But man are like that if they found good, they like very much (this is my case). Also, if you husband want to come to you, there is no love is required. He can come at any time mainly because, he is/was your husband. But, as long as he is lovable and caring, he is a nice person. Be good with him, it will make him and you also happy. Best regards, Thank-s

i am sorry to hear that czanwell_30. but if i am in your shoes. i think i wont be able to take it and if he doesnt leave. i will. and if i have children ill take them with me. even how much sweet he is. i know this is easier said than done. do you really think he loves you so much even he cheated on you? how can he do that if he really loves you or your family, right? dont be mad at me because we are not on the same view but i am at your side. and whatever decision you make, since it is your family that we are talking about. i respect you and your decision.

Men's weakness has always been temptations from aggressive women, but for some they manage to divert themselves and keep them away from committing an affair that may lead to sudden chaotic and shaky relationship from his family especially his wife when revealed. But only strong family ties and the strength of a woman will keep him away from being tempted again. The affair may have passed and doubts may already arise but it doesn't mean your husband doesn't love you anymore. The relationship can still work out that is if you do treasure your family and love your husband still, in that way he will feel the urgency to do away from any temptations that may arise soon. Hope this will help.

That's a tough question because I also see couple who have gone through the same ordeal as your marriage. The guy will have an affair then eventually keeps on coming back to his wife. I also wonder why men do that. I guess if he really loves his gf or his wife, one mistake can be forgiven and that he might just lost his track that he was tempted to try another relationship. But if he again do it, then I dont think he loves his gf or his wife, because i am sure the first time he cheated on her, her heart was severely wounded and she might have cried a lot. So if he loves her, he wont bear to see her hurting again

i can understand why your husband did this, it's because he's a man. i don't know why but we have this thing about getting all the women before it's too late. I've been cheating with almost all my exes before we broke up and I've also cheated once a few years ago to the girl i am with today... i don't know about other men out there but after doing these cheating thing, at the end of the day, before i fall asleep, there's only 1 face in my mind and that my girl. i'm happy to say that i've been "clean" or the last 6 years. cheating is one way for some guys to grow up... but that's just me, can't say the same about other dudes.

It's a very difficult situation and perhaps his sweet and loving ways are an indication of his realization of how good he has it at home. Perhaps you can forgive and maybe even forget one time, but in the end actions speak louder than words...and if he goes astray again, then you will see the problem for what it really is. That's not saying that is has to be over, but if the guilt from the first time does not lead to change then the problem has to be addressed in one way or another.

That's very sad czanwell, how can you still say that you're husband loves you so much if he keeps cheating on you? He doesn't respect your love and marriage. I know someone who does this to his wife, cheat on his wife and still treat his wife like he's the most loving husband in the world. He has been like that(cheating)even before they were married. I thought he has changed but when we (hubby and me) saw him with another girl I couldn't believe it at all. I see how he lovingly treats his wife in the house like a queen really, to the point that I sometimes wish that my husband would be as showy as he is. The way I see it, cheating husband tend to be more loving, sweeter than ever to make the wife think and feel that he really loves her despite his cheating. I hope you find the courage to really see the truth. Just because he tells you everytime that the affair has ended it doesn't change the fact that he cheated on you. Why don't you talk to your husband and find out why he keeps cheating on you? Maybe you can work things out together since I think you don't want to break the marriage.

actually you cant say whether he still loves you or not.but generally it is seen that extra marital affairs are not love but its only physical attraction.love is always for long run and any other relation is short term.if he is going with someone else,that means he is missing something with you,which he is searching in someone else.so dont worry,if love exists,he is bound to come back.

Hi, czanwell. No. he does not love you. A man should never cheat on his wife at all. Not once and not twice. I say, leave him, he is just playing around on you. This is not love. I say that it isn't. Sorry.

Well I don't really know sometimes it means that they don't love you anymore that he is fed up, but other times that's not the case and it just may be because they were in the moment. Still if he keeps on doing it then you know that he is not really sorry and that he knows that you will always take him back is why he feels that he can keep on doing that to you really hurtful and sad.I don't like it when somebody does that to somebody I just don't know how they can live with themselves doing that knowing that they have someone and not being loyal and faithful how they should be. Anyway in the end you should be the one that decides if this is what you really want. If I was married and my husband kept cheating on me I would leave him with no doubt in my mind because I don't want a man that will just play with my heart and toy with my feelings my mom taught me better than that. Their are plenty of fish in the sea and one can always find a kinder fish. If you get what I am saying plenty of loyal ones out there that truly will fall in love with one.

I can yes, your lover loves you less but not love you no more. He/she might be looking for something that he/she might not find in you. But it is sad to hear that a lover has another love.

Hi, if I can, I will give you a big hug. Yes, it's really painful to have a husband like that. My ex-boyfriend is just the kind of man as you mentioned about your husband. You know, in the ancient China, man can have several wives. My ex-boyfriend really loves me , but that can not stop he loves other girls . so maybe some men can love several women. If you can accept, he will still be your excellent husband, but if you can not , just like me , leave him is the only choice.

I have this favorite scene in one of the movies I recently watched, wherein the guy who cheated on his girl is talking to the girl's father. The guy swears that he loves the girl so much but the father rebuke him and told him that those words doesn't matter, that what really matters are the things that we do to the people we say we love. As they say, "action speaks louder than words."

Do you believe that there is such perfect relationship when love doesn't fade? When there's no betrayal happening? Or no pain occurring? One in a million couple probably has such ideal relationship but one way or another it does happen because of the fact that people naturally are not contented. Just appreciate the fact that he still stayed, it means that he loves you and he wants you. Its hard to cope with the idea of him probably doing the same thing over and over again but its a matter of positivity. Cheaters will get tired eventually. I just hope the people who love them won't grow tired loving them and understanding them.