what would you do if the guy or girl you love says that he loves other girl...

Here is something that i saw work before to actually get that person. Just accept it but still try to stay close that person. Share your life experiences with that person and hope he/she does the same. Just make sure you get so close until she/he would come to you for any problems they are having. Then just wait for a problem to occur. Make that person know the position is still up so she/he can still become yours but at the same time tell the person to give his/her lover another chance. This is so to show your lover you only want the best for him/her. He/she might not give her lover another chance and she/he might come to you then. If she/he does give his/her lover another chance that mean. The next time the lover mess up you will be the replacement. N.B. It has work for me before, not positive if it will work for you, but you can still try. Another thing still try not to annoy him/her just make sure you are always the first one there for them but dont annoy. If you have any questions feel free to ask.

For me I think I will accept.. My situation is similar to this.but she doesn't say she want to try to love me.. ...so I choose to leave her..though we are already soulmate..but I still can't accept this..but anyway ..there are difference..cuz before she told me she love another one ..I discovered that she is not honest to me....but anyway if she told me that and later tell me if she could try to love me I think I will accept abusolutly..she is my first love..

It would be a quite sad thing for everyone, I think. But with the time passing, and you have cured the smart from the difficult time, you will be thankgodness you have known him/her in time!

Hi sweetloveforeve, If I was the girl who was in a relationship with a guy,and he comes to me and tells me that he is in love with another girl, but he wants to keep me around because he knows the other girl will not love him back, I would slap his face! What an insult. Being number one, being the only one, is the only way that I will stay in a relationship with a guy. I am not that desperate to sit around hoping that he will love me. "Move on Jack! You are not God's gift to women." would be my words two him. Of course, these would not be my final words. You, son of a b--t-h. My life is too short to live in misery with a jerk that would take my loving him for granted. If it is not all about me, then it is not all about him. I will throw out my line and catch a better fish.

I would definitely be a crushing blow to know that my guy loved another girl. I would think there was something wrong with me. Somehow I had made this happen. I don't know that i could accept my loved one wanting other without feeling angry and rejected. I believe that friendship could be remain but it would be a difficult road to travel after a romantic relationship. It would take me some time to work through.

A heart can be stubborn, some may accept those kind of set up. For me, I dont think I would. It will be like exposing yourself to the fire when you are already burned. As they say, we should never allow ourselves to be just an option...we should know our worth before others see it...besides if you enter that kind of relationship, you are just giving yourself a false hope and will never have the peace of mind and security knowing that any moment the guy can leave you when the girl she loves pays him attention

That is a bit difficult. But I would do the same thing - tell him we'll be friends until he realizes who he really loves. Because well, that will be unfair for me and for the other girl. A human has only one heart, therefore he must love only one, well on both me and the other girl. He must figure out what he feels for me and the other girl. And if he figures out, I'd be really happy for his decision even if it wouldn't be in the end.

probably what you should not address it as love.!! change the term to attraction or flirting..!! true love cant desert you at any point of time..!

Ouch! That could be very painful.But, no I wouldn't let him hurt me any further.It is enough that he told me he doesn't love me and love someday else. I will not take insult for being the scapegoat and be his convenience.I will not settle for less. True, may be I don't love him that much to take that crazy risk but this is not the end of the world for me. Besides, he is not the only man left here on Earth. For sure, I'd be able to love again another guy who will love me in return because he truly loves me and not because I love him. Good evening, Sweetlove.:)

Well as for me I wouldn't accept that because I know that it won't be real love it will just be fake love and I would not want to live with that. Love is something that two people feel for one another if one is just not feeling it and pretending then it is not really love and that's no good right there. It will be like living a lie even though you want it to be real it will never happen it will always be fake and a lie.It's just really sad how some people will accept this because they love that one person so much even though they are not getting the same feelings back it's ok with them because they are with a person that they love even though those feelings may never be returned back really a sad story to me I just won't accept that. You should always be with someone that will love you back and not just pretend that is just unsettling to me.

you are exactly correct, cause there is no use of living with a person who is already in love with somebody, it leads to many problems and i can say that his love not confident and real.

wow! maybe i'll give him a right hook the instance he uttered those words (the nerve!), and no i won't accept him. i dont think any woman on her right mind would like to be treated as second best or a spare tire. as a woman, i know my worth and i do know that i deserve better than what that guy is offering. maybe ill consider accepting him as a friend for his honesty. lol

ill let her have her way.. she'll then realize that nobody could ever love her the way i do.. by the time she comes back, i've already moved on...

That is awful. I would rather be a friend than hurting my own self. At least he is there with my even if he is just a friend. My love for him will be there. We never know, maybe in time. His feelings towards me will develop and will see me more than friends. When time comes that he already wants to be with me, we are confident that our love will be solid because we have built a strong friendship first.

Quite tough situation. I am in that situation now. I never thought I would be in a situation like this before. Besides, I was then in a safe and secured situation prior to my present one. But, as many people may say, love is sacrificing and ironic. Truly it is because I may be happy with the man I am with now, but hurting because I share his heart with another. Some may say, it is stupidity when you deal with the situation, but it is strength and courage when you take the risk and one time you tried to follow your heart. When m bf told me that he has another, I was shocked. At first, I do not know what to react and took me for a while to realize what to say and do. I asked him if he want to break up with me and I will accept it, but he said he does not because he loves me. I again asked him how could he say he loves me when he also love another, then he said, it was the girl who assumed that they are in a relationship. I wanted to shout at him and spank him because that is an alibi, but I just can't. My hands got numb and just started to cry. My mind is still rebelling with the situation because I am the one adjusting. Before, I may say that it is ok, but now, I realized I want him to be mine alone. It may be selfish, yet I want to fight something that is really mine.

sweetloveforeve, I am really very interested with what is this guy's interpretations on commitment, faithfulness, dedicated and devoted. Morally, I wonder if he knows what they meant or mean? Or, if he has any of them at all? What do you think?

Relationships grow when two people are in love with each other. If he's just trying to escape from his heartaches, why would you accept him? You might get involve in a more complicated relationship. Maybe he can rest his heart for a while and do not disturb yours. Wait until his heart has healed already.

Is the better question: Why would you settle for being " trying to be loved" than to be completely loved? Please remember if anyone devalues themselves no one else will find the true value they actually have.

atleast hes being honest...but it isnt fair that ur not the one he loves and ur just a proxy for someone he cannot have so u better exit