have you ever had to lie to keep a "friend"?
By keshia2007r
@keshia2007r (2880)
United States
August 13, 2010 7:25pm CST
ok, so I've been in this situation, but i was the victim. And it was a bit of drama involved. So someone who i thought was my "friend" i heard talking about me. At the moment i was very surprised, because it's me, what is there to talk about concerning me and behind my back at that! but i realized she talked about everybody in our circle so why should i be surprised that she was talking about me? so i found out, and asked her about it, at first she lied. nothing new, she tried to be friendly with me again thinking everything was good between us, but she finally came clean and she said she was "sooo sorry" for saying what she said. but i'm like at that moment you wasn't sorry. so way are you sorry now? so she bascially lied to keep our friendship but later told the truth to what she said. have you ever been in this situation? what's your story?
p.s. we are no longer friends
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9 responses
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
14 Aug 10
its completely ok
im not sorry
but thanks for sharing!
and good for you!
lets just hope you wont be in such a situation!!
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
14 Aug 10
thank you for your concern!
I too hope to never be in the position again!!
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@therenthead (298)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I'm so sorry. In my opinion, if you have to lie to keep a friend, they're not a friend. Friendship should be built on honesty and care. Not lies and hurting the other person.
@therenthead (298)
• United States
14 Aug 10
You're welcome. Glad you agree :) You deserve GOOD friends.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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14 Aug 10
I think that there are alot of friends that say things to other friends.I think that two faced people are not worthy of my time.I try to not say anything to people that i do not want anyone else to know about.I think that if a person says things to you about other people,then they are the ones that will talk about you behind your back.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
14 Aug 10
yes!
I completely agree w/ you!
My former friend talked about everybody in our circle to me.
Turns out she also talked about me behind my back as well.
Thanks, I will now know to watch out for people like this!!
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Again thanks for sharing!!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I don't remeber a situation where i had to lie to keep a friend. If it was worth the friendship to begin with, there would be no reason to lie. The bonds of a friendship are strong. We have to look for our strength there. Telling a lie to keep a friend just builds a relationship on dishionesty. Nothing will destroy a relationship faster than a lie.@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I agree with you completely! I too never had to lie to keep a friendship. If I must say so myself, I'm a really good friend to my friends.
but anyway
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thank you for sharing!!
@mcdavies (11)
• Benin
14 Aug 10
WELL sometimes certain situations warrant u telling a lie just to keep a friends but in your case...it ain't worth it cos she did it intentionally..and i can say she never regret doing it.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
14 Aug 10
thank you for your comment. in major situations your right. you shouldn't lie to keep a friend. it is whatever it supppose to be.
thanks again
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
14 Aug 10
No unnecessary drama will ever be in my life. I have three friends who will only look out for my best interest. My husband, my sister and one friend. The rest have been left in the dust.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
14 Aug 10
thank you for your comment! I too try not to have any unnecessary drama. i'm such a drama free person, and i try to keep myself away from that, but it found me :( lol anyway, i'm over that situation. but again thank you for your comment!
@amrddy (215)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
Hi Keshia2007r,
That happened to us last March of this year. We were backstabbed by a very close friend, but now she is back and we are friends again. Friends will come and go but real friends won't even if they are far away. If you feel that she is no longer important in your life then you can let go. I am sure you will be able to find new friends again.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
14 Aug 10
hello, your right. i can find someone to replace her and i did lol. i felt she used me for my car anyway. so i don't see us being friends w/ her anymore.
thanks for sharing!!
@bookjhayar (63)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
I've been to that situation many times but often, the greatest solution is to really be open to each other. In the first place, there's no such thing as friend when he/she would talk anything bad against you behind your back. A friend is somehow who can tell you who you are even how hard it is for you to hear such a thing. I believe that there's no such thing a REAL friendship when there are lies involve in it. Like any type of relationship, transparency is very important to keep it stronger and live longer.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
14 Aug 10
agree, i'm over the situation and she just lost a good friend. because of this situation and MANY MORE she actually lost 3 former friends. her lost, not ours.
thank you for sharing!!
