Hi, Who pays the dating bill when you are dating with someone?
By gongchhua
@gongchhua (272)
China
August 14, 2010 3:58am CST
Hi,mylotter!
Last week, A guy said, the young girls have changed their world value views. Because he thought if you dating with a girl, the boy will pay for the bill. One friend told me that who pays the bill depends on how close they are, another friend told me that who pays the bill depends on who is elder. some friends tole me that it is the tradition that the boys pay the bill. A young friend said AA is equal, is best. So, what is your opinion? can you share your opinion with us?
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11 responses
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
14 Aug 10
Well it depends. Usually the person who asks the other person out is kind of expected to pay. It just happens to be the guy who asks most of the time.
If you've been dating them for a while though you might start to split the bill. My boyfriend usually pays because he gets more money than me, I would pay though. He just insists on being the one to pay. 
@BigTips (304)
• China
15 Aug 10
I can't agree with you any more. There are no certain rule who will pay the bill during a dating with someone. Of course, it may be better that the person who asks for the dating to pay.
If the two persons pay much attention to such a tiny thing, I think it is unnecessary and a waste of time. It is the tradition that the boys pay the bill, but if the boy and girl have a good relationship, why lay too much emphasis on the money?
If one can make more cash than the other, then the one who makes more money can pay the bill.
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
15 Aug 10
Exactly! We don't have a set of rules we have to go by. I'm sure every relationship is different. Some people might be very traditional.. In my boyfriends culture it's just the respectful gentlemen thing to do.
And yea.. If I asked someone on a date, I can't really ask them out and then expect them to pay for me. It might give off a bad message like "Do you want to go out and buy me dinner tonight?" So in that situation of course I would be prepared to pay for the dinner myself so I don't seem rude.
But like you I don't have any rules. Relationships require a lot of give & take. So if he wants to pay for the bill, fine, I just do other things for him, like surprising him with little gifts. 
So in that situation of course I would be prepared to pay for the dinner myself so I don't seem rude.
But like you I don't have any rules. Relationships require a lot of give & take. So if he wants to pay for the bill, fine, I just do other things for him, like surprising him with little gifts. 
@Ingkingderders (3832)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
I agree with the, it depends on how close they are. Hehehehe. If they had just started dating then it's definitely the guy, but if they are officially together, then it really depends on who is treating that day. Hehehehe. My boyfriend and I had a rule before that we split everything in half, but a couple of months ago, I changed the rule, since I thought it wasn't fair, cause his salary is two times bigger than mine, so we decided to split everything in relation to our salary, so I pay 1/3 and he pays 2/3 of all our expenses when we go out. Hehehehe.
@henryfranz2005 (3)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
of course the male or guy would have to pay the bill. I mean I live in the country where there is a level of respect to the girls. :) It's like I just don't see my girl paying (for example: my food, gas, movie tickets etc.) That's all :)
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
The dating scene has changed over the course of many years. Before it was really the guy who would foot the bill. But now, I just read somewhere that whoever invites or initiates the date will be the one to pay the bill. I guess the it is up to the couple, in their communication who gets to the the paying of the bill. I believe that everything will be resolved if both communicate. We get to feel now the equality of both sexes when it comes to dating.
@lindaharding627 (1442)
• United States
15 Aug 10
Before I was married, I went out on a date with a guy from another city. He said that he wanted to get something to eat then go to a coffee shop so I paid for dinner and expected for him to pay when we went to the coffee shop because he was the one who wanted to go. He told me he didn't have any money on him so I had to pay for that too. I was mad because he was the one that insisted on going to a coffee shop which is more expensive than just getting a coffee to go. Needless to say that blind date didn't work out. I never heard from him again.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
14 Aug 10
I am a woman and when I go on a date with a man I always make sure that I have enough money to pay half of the bill. Going dutch is very common in my country and I am always ready to pay my part of the bill. Sometimes the man insists on paying the bill, but I don't expect him to pay and I always offer to pay half of the bill. Sometimes the man pays the first time and the next time we share the bill. My husband bought me coffee on our first date, and after that time we shared the bills.
@bwaybaby (903)
• United States
14 Aug 10
My boyfriend almost always pays, even when I say I can. He works year round and makes significantly more than I do. I'm in school most of the year and, even when I do work, make only slightly more than minimum wage. He feels bad, I guess, and doesn't want me to spend my money. But I am more than willing to pay.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
14 Aug 10
Well, i haven't had any dates with any girls...
Good to hear right? i'm single and unmarried and i'm young !!!!
I have heard through my friends, that boys do pay the bills, where girls never open their wallets to give a penny!!!
Boys do pay for everything while the girl asks for more..
In my views, the bills should be shared on mutual agreement..
In these days, boys are paying the mobile bills for girls and they provide gifts when they are dating and girls never give any gifts ..
@sweetmary86 (822)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
this is funny topic. during the few first dates the guy is expected to pay the bills cuz theyre the ones asking for dates. but later on when you get into a relationship it must be a give and take depends on who has more money or you can split it. if the guy's only a friend you two just hanging out girls can pay the bill or split
