Any suggestions on potty training my son??

United States
August 14, 2010 12:25pm CST
OK i have a set of 30 month old twins. a boy and a girl. My daughter was so easy to train, she had it down pat in a week, its been 4 months now and she has had only 1 accident and that was in the middle of the night!! My son started off easy loving it peeing on the big boy potty etc. BUT never really got the hang of it, for every pee on the potty id have 4 soaked pullups. he will go to the bathroom to do a poop but not pee. and he knows when he has to go cause he will hold him self and say " gotta pee" If he is in a pullup he will not even attempt to go into the bathroom, if he is naked he will use the toilet all day long, if i put underwear on him with in seconds after putting them on he pees right through them, but if he is in clothes without underwear he will not pee in them... and this is only at home. the moment we leave the house its a whole new thing.. just like diapers all over again peeing and pooping in the pullups, i dont know what to do!!! Any one have any suggestions on what i can try??? thanks so much!
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8 responses
@damned_dle (3942)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
WOW. Twins, boy and girl! I have the same problem with my son, he still poop on his diaper and he is much older than 30 month old! Right now I am talking him to use the toilet bowl and in exchange I will give him a toy that he really likes. He still can't do it, but atleast he is trying to.
• United States
15 Aug 10
yes WOW lol thats what i thought when i found out.. girls are soooooo much easier in soooo many different ways!! my my boy is the more loveable huggable snuggable one.. lol so in a way i truely dont mind if he wants to stay the "baby" but at the same time i would so love to do without buying and changing pull ups! LOL good luck with your little guy! i guess we both in the same boat
@lacieice (2060)
• United States
15 Aug 10
Get rid of the pull-ups. They are the same of diapers. Get him really cute underwear that he likes, and deal with the accidents. He is still rather young for a boy to be potty trained, but it will happen.
• United States
15 Aug 10
thank you for the advice i think the pullups are heading to the trash!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
26 Aug 10
Well, you've already discovered that girls are far easier to potty train than boys. That said, my son is almost four years old now and he only got fully potty trained about four months ago. I realized with him that it was easier if we let him go without underwear. So, the majority of the time I will let Paul go without underwear. No one but he and I knows the difference and he does always use the potty now.
@momof3kids (1894)
• Singapore
15 Aug 10
I think it would take longer for a boy because a girl matures faster. Maybe you should try what the moms above me have suggested but I think hes taking longer to potty train because he hasnt grasp the idea. Stay positive!
• United States
15 Aug 10
i have also heard that boys mature alot slower then girls. thank you so much for your response
@katland05 (136)
• Guam
15 Aug 10
My son is 3 years old, June 1st was his birthday & off pampers for 5 months now. I just stop using pullups & have him use underwear because I find that using pullups is still like using pampers. He wouldn't tell me if he need the toilet but uses it in his pullup. Also with him being a boy It was hard for me to show him how to pee, teaching him with pooping was easier, the peeing his father taught him by showing him when he(father) need to pee. Us women when we pee we sit on the toilet, we cannot show our boys that way so I had his father show him how. When I showed my son by him standing & me holding his private, he would laugh, so have his father show him how to pee or you will see him sitting on the toilet. Other then that it took my son about 3 weeks with maybe less than 10 times peeing in his underwear but he never poop in his underwear.. I just give him less to drink when it's close to bedtime so he doesn't wet his bed. It's August now & he hasn't have any accidents even when were on the go, I just bring extra pair of clothes & underwear just in case.. Hope that helps you, just be patient every child is different & he will learn.
• United States
15 Aug 10
thank you so much, your comment has been much comforting to me! everyone tells me to do without the pullups. I have the same issue with trying to hold it for him and show him how to use the toilet. HIs daddy works such weird hours that he is only home for about 2 hours before he goes to work while my son is up and usually coming home at bedtime... he tries on the weekends and what not, but he has 10 days straight off of work for vacation and we are actually on day 2 of it and surprislingly my son has been in underwear for 2 straight days ( except at bed time) and has had 1 accident. hes been telling daddy when he has to go and he LOVES the cars on his undies.. i hope that this will work for him, although i fear that when daddy is off vacation and back onto normal work scedule my son may fall off the wagon so to say.. i hope not!! BUT thank you SO MUCH!!! for your advice
@gnomeland (421)
15 Aug 10
try getting him to aim at a piece of paper in the toilet. some children find the 'game' of sinking the paper gets them to aim and things become fun and not so streeful. failing that bribe him with a special toy that stays where he can see it and will be a 'special reward' for big boys who stay dry. don't compare the children though as everyone gets there in the end. good luck.
• United States
15 Aug 10
i was told to try this with cherrios but it didnt work that well my son wanted to eat them!!!! but the toy in view on back of toilet sounds like a great idea!
@wendyloo (184)
• France
15 Aug 10
Yep boys are lazy,they dont seem to care like girls do. The only way really i found is to make a big fuss of the success and a long hard look for the dissapointment. Think how he feels if he gets it wrong,all day being told off. Have you an event coming up,work him towards that maybe,you need to be a big boy for this so lets work hard on getting this right,you dont want ur sister going to the loo like a big girl and you in nappies. Also 30mths for a boy is a bit young I found nearer 3 worked well....
@aurorastorm (1131)
• United States
15 Aug 10
First of all stop putting so much pressure on your son to get the potty training done. Do not punish him in anyway and do not make him feel ashamed. Boys typically take longer to take to potty training than girls. My son was 3.5 years old. I waited until he was good and ready, then he was trained within 2 days and has never had an accident since. Sometimes the pressure makes them revert back to diapers and makes you crazy and lose your patience. Take the pressure off for a few weeks, make sure you are not making him feel bad and you will be surprised at the results.