How Can You Go ON Loving When it Hurts?

Your always going to hurt if you are away from the one who brings love and happiness into your life. The only way to attempt to lessen the pain is constant reassurance. When you find yourself getting sad and missing your loved one. Write him a letter tell him how your feeling and what your thinking. Then when you get the chance to communicate with him read him what youve wrote. Remind yourself multiple times a day if need be of just exactly why you fell in love with him to begin with and just how much happiness he brings into your life. Like i said youre always going to hurt while your seperated but if you try to have a tiny distraction itll make time go by quicker and the day you are together again itll feel like the best thing in the entire world! :) hope i could help.

Other than the obvious answer of video calling maybe you could take a trip over to him soon so that the time apart isn't as long. I hope it works out for you.

If you truly love him and want to be with him, you will find a way to make a long distance relationship work. There is no reason why it can't if you both love each other and trust each other. I was in a long distance relationship once and it worked fine.

Hi JOIEMARVIC, I was a little worried about you when I read your first discussion about the boyfriend who wanted you back after five years. I see that you did get back together, but not physically, and now you are sad again, but in love. While a year is a long time, it will go by very quickly if you keep yourself busy and happy. Being in love should not make you unhappy, even if it is a long distance romance. You should just think of the reunion that you two are going to celebrate upon his return. Spend the time that you have, think about how to have a bright and happy future with him. Do some projects that will enhance your life and take your mind off of the fact that he is not there with you. Time flies by very quick, so don't waste a minute sulking and worrying. If the trust and love is there, time apart will only strengthen your love for each other. You will know what is feel like been without each other, and therefore you will not do anything to mess it up.

as i was reading your story, the word came in my mind is fear. I know, you are afraid of the things that will come your way as lovers. You also stated here that, that after 5 long years the love of your life took you back. I cannot blame you maybe, you have experienced happen in the past concerning about him, and feared that it might happen again since he was so far away with you. Try to trust him again, since you accepted him back, and invest another time and love. Even he is far away from you keep your communications open with him and tell him how'd you feel. Prayer also lighten your load. I know you missed him terribly and let him know it. In a relationship the two of you will work for it. As long as he have plans for the two of you in the future, nourished it. Don't confuse him.

its fear ,we feel fear when a relationship turns out to be anything other than what we want it to be, if its Hurts then i dont think its Love , because maybe you have an expectation that doesnt match with reality the pain , hurt, wounds , scar, all live in the gap between what we want a relationship to be and what the reality actually is the wider the gap the more were attached to how we think IT SHOULD BE the more hurt and betrayal we feel, theres no perfect relationship , do what you really feel in the end your the only one can decide and tell how you want it really to be :) i hope you get what i am trying to say :)

JOIEMARVIC, Everything is a sacrifice. If you have to sacrifice part of your mutual commitment for your individual pursuit in life, then naturally it will cannibalize into your relationship. And there's no right or wrong in both perceptions - it's a matter of choice - the choice to pick him as your partner and your choice to steer your relationship into. Sometimes, the direction we steer bring us to the rock, even if we never wish to head towards one. The theory of distance is often not physical by nature - more often than not, it refers to the absence of emotional presence. Think it over.

You're so sweet Joiemarvic, Your statement in your first 2 sentences are confusing, you used "after 5 long years" and the word AGAIN. Did you mean that you've been apart before? If so, then you can say that you would be able to accept the situation now of being apart for the second time. After that long years, and yet you're both still love each other and give another chance for your feelings means that you have a good foundation for your relationship. Your only problem is the distance, but there are so many ways now to communicate with him and ease your pain of missing him. For sure, he feels the same as you do. Just trust him and always let him know your feelings. Good luck.

I have been in this situation before I got married to the man.:) We were together for a couple of months and I left him in the province because he works there and I work in the city. For a couple of days or weeks I was often crying because I was missing him so much that it hurts a lot! We kept on texting and talking, though, it was really costly but it helped both of us lessen the pain of being separated. But, there was a time that texting and talking doesn't seem enough. so what I did was to write him a letter even if I know for sure I will not send them to him. I poured my heart out in those letters. Telling him there how much i love and missing him. Everything and anything for him.:) It is better than you feel pained because you know that there's so much love between you. So make it as a motivation to make you stronger. Let that love be your inspiration. You'll soon be together again.:)

Love is an emotion that we can not conrol. We can not choose the person that we will love. We can't promise how much or how long that love will last. As long as we love someone, we can endure any pain simply because the bond of love is strong. Love is stronger than any pain that is inflicted. We have no choice but to go on. The alternative is not something to behold.

It is very hard to lessen the pain because you will not be able to fully eliminate it. You should try video chatting with him and talking on the phone with him as much as possible. If you truly love him you will be willing to wait around for him and stick through these tough times. After all that is what truly love is, "Through bad or worse." Maybe you can even go and visit him if that is at all possible. good luck.

ohh sorry for it :( cant you go to live with him in saudi arabia? i know that it must be expensive for you but if you be near things will be easier and better^^ is still a few time till june also after june he will be back working right? so if you dont go live near each other it will be very complicated for both. why doesnt he take you with him to saudi arabia? talk with him about that^^ bcs even you show care from far and things can work it will be hard for both.

I am also hurts some one. I would Like very much of that person. they are not near me so i feel very much of thing that person so i feel very sad. that person also come in Deepavali.

That's a problem many persons come up against. Falling deeply in love with a boy is most important,it's not wise to drift apart for miles apart.

i dont think there is nothing you can do to eliminate pain. i remember year 2000 my wife worked abroad. she was my gf back then. she worked at japan and even there was internet services already chat was not yet that popular. and in a country where it was so hard to learn the language she can not find an internet shop where there was someone who can speak english. so communication was just phone calls but still it was both expensive for the both of us, but we were together with the pain and the happiness. now we are married and we will be celebrating our 8th year this coming end of august. we survive all those hurt and all those pain with love in our hearts. in a relationship there is always sacrifice and it the end of the day you will realize that the love you feel for your partner grows stronger and stronger everyday.

I'm afraid that there's now way to eliminate 100% the pain because of long distance, except a technologies, like phone call, video call or anything that you can contact him, or maybe if he is willing to move to the same country where you live, maybe your feeling can be eliminate 100% from the pain How about ask him to move? Can it work?

I know that you will make work somehow because you have so much love for him. So I really do wish you the best in this because no matter how a part you may be from him love knows no boundries.

If you think this person really gives you happiness despite all these pain that you feel inside, then fight for it. But if you think the pain that you feel now will be lessen if you chose your freedom, then move on... In any relationship, there are sacrifices along the way, bottom line is your happiness with or without the person. . .

if you are sure with your man that he really loves you why you can trust him? Let the long distance love affair work between two of you I know it's not easy kind of relationship but I think the two of you will exert effort to work the relationship and let the communication in both of you open always

If you really love that person you will overcome all those pain. I know it is difficult especially on your part to handle this kind of relationship but if you really into that person you are willing to sacrifice everything. as long as you give TIME for each other and trust each other you dont have to worry.just stay in touch.don't think too much,enjoy life and cherish every moments you have.