Watch out what you say............

Oh, you are right. That happened with me today but i wasn`t that one who said those insensitive things. But it hurt much more if that other people doesn`t understand what is he done. So, yes, think people before say something.

I think this is so true and not enough people really think about what they are saying before they say it. This happens to be the case also with what people write on here and on facebook. I have a friend that just last night wrote a status on her facebook where she wound up offending a lot of people because she put a status up instead of a personal message and she still does not even get what she did. I really try to watch what I say, because I do not like hurting other people's feelings.

Hi, mary, good advice!Actually, I always reply too fast to think of my words before. I do understand your advice. Even if I apologize later, I feel the hurt is there, both of us cannot treat it as it doesn't happen. So...there is a saying in China - The words spoke out is like water sprinked. That means you cannot withdraw them. Now I'm learning what you said. Hope I can do it finally. It's really a good tip in life.

That's right. But still we keep committing this mistake over and over. Have you had any recent experience that is connected to this post?

Hi marrusagi, You are giving some good advice here. We should think before we speak, because we could say things about another person that we will regret, but cannot take back. Even if the person of whom we are speaking about is not present. The words could get back to them through other people who were listening and didn't approve of what you were saying about the other person. Gossiping is never good. It usually leads to someone getting their feelings hurt or worse, someone getting physically hurt. If the(emotional or physically)injured person is kind and decent enough to forgive the gossiper, it should serve as a lesson learned about words. They are like arrows that leave the bow, once they are said you cannot take them back.

Yes i always apply this to myself i alwasy watch myself of what i will going to say especially when i am mad coz you cannot retrieved what you said. Just like if i and my husband are fighting i always hold my tongue and try not to say anyhting that later i will regret. I already learn my mistake from my past and it was painful and i do not want it to happen again.

That is what people always say, but the problem is people cannot deny how they feel. Because if you do deny how you feel, it will eat up from the inside. It will consume you.

I think that you are soo right that you should always think before you speak.There have been times in the past that i wish i had not told a friend something,as no sooner i had told her she was telling everyone else,so now i hold back before i say anything to her.So i do agree with you there.

This is very true. However, as cautious as we can be sometimes we can hurt others unintentionally. It has happened to me too many times because I am such a talker! I hate it and try to be careful but there are times you don't know what someone has come through and it may trigger a bad memory that you knew nothing about!

I agree..We should be more sensitive to the feelings of others. We should think first before we say anything. Even if we say things in a way of joking but we don't know that that person might not be enjoying the joke. We, ourselves, for sure doesn't want to be hurt by want others might say to us, so we should also be sensitive to others feelings as well.

Apparently so...I don't know what I've said or not said, but I'm paying for it now and no hope for reconciliation on the horizon. The bad thing is I'm genuinely a nice guy and I don't know what I did. I would never do anything to be insensitive but...My closest friend online has completely "disowned" me...or however you might want to put it..."unfriended" me on all three sites that we both belong too. No discussion...nothing...just gone. I'm not saying I'm perfect...I'm just saying I can't figure it out...pretty brutal right now!!

you're right. I'm that kind of person that chooses its words wisely, though there'll be times when I'll get really angry and I'll blurt something out which I'll regret later, but still I'm trying hard to be as nice expressing myself as I could be.

one day i have had experience speaking in front of others and to convey a wrong thing in the presentation , after the presentation during the three days i could not sleep thinking about the effect of the errors i conveyed