Should I forgive my friend?

Im going through something like that now with my best-friend of 18 years, its been a year now we haven't spoken but the difference here is that your still hurt and you miss her. So if your feeling like that than I would say forgive her swallow your pride and patch things up.

I've been through the very same thing! It was like reading what happened to me. I read very little so my story could be very very different from yours, but here we go. We were best girlfriends for years, I would be a very giving friend as asking her to call me even at 3am and she did. She had so much trouble in home that I even told her I would take her and her kids in my home and even afford them all until she walk with her feet. It was the last time I was such a good girlfriend. I've changed after that. Not because of her but because I can't. After years helping her out, like you ignoring things that she would say or do that really bothered me I got it out and told her. We argue and I didn't see any patience or understanding like I had for her and that was preatty shocking. I also suspect she got apart from me BECAUSE of I was needing help, not about money but you know that I could call her, and not after midnight. She was always saying she was getting buzy but I know she didn't got a job or anything, nothing changed so I still think it was because she didn't want to have the trouble to listen to me once in a while. Well, I gave a time for her and then I got apart. Didn't like her anymore, I tried to hold on until when I could but I realised I was a normal friend while she was a poor human being. I deserved better and found better, way greater friends. After 2 years or more, she missed me. I know her other friends would make fun or run from her whenever she had problems, and that's the only reason why she missed. She came after me and again I spoke my mind, many times and she was pissed. As she made more mistakes I didn't forgive her cause she never asked too and I am better off without her. It was only when we got apart that I realized I had a weight over my sholder the whole time she was in my life. So what I learned is: if your friend is not good to you, than...it's not a friend. But the difference is that you miss your friend, so listen to your heart. Always, that's the only way you don't regret. I don't miss my friend, I'm really glad she's far away.

I think if you miss the friendship then it's worth a try to forgive your friend and try to get the friendship back. Did you ever talk to her about things and tell her she hurt your pride? Maybe she didn't realize how bad she hurt you. Chances are she's been missing your friendship too. I say it's worth a shot. I recently tried to establish a friendship with a girl I was friends with in highschool too. We were friends for like 10 years but we had a falling out. The short story is, I ended up dating and marrying her crush from highschool and it bothered her. That started the strain on her relationship. Then he got a job out of state so we moved. She wrote me a note giving me money she owed for rent and put "have a nice life" basically saying we couldn't be friends since i was moving and leaving her behind. So being young and hurt i wrote her a letter and got pretty mean in it saying some things I wanted to say for years. I haven't talked to her since. She tried to get our mutual friend to choose her over me but she didn't. Anyways, 10 years and 2 apology letters later and she still won't even add me as a friend on facebook. She deleted her account rather than add me. I think if you both can be big about what happened that you two could repair the relationship and it may even be better than ever.

Whether you ever actually patch things up with your friend or not, you should still forgive your friend. Two years can change alot between 2 people. If you don't try to patch things up for anyone else, try for yourself. It sounds like you feel guilty and you feel you've lost someone dear. It's okay to try. My best friend lives miles away. We use to be inseparable. Despite the fact that we haven't even seen each other in over a year, doesn't keep us from keeping tabs on one another and sometimes that's enough.

you didn't give any details on what your argument was about nor how she hurt you before.. but for me, i think that you should forgive her.. forgiving does not necessarily mean forgetting because i guess that's kinda impossible specially if what the other person did affected you deeply.. to forgive means to accept the person wholly again without feeling anger or remorse towards them and what they did.. you'll know when you have truly forgiven someone when you no longer hurt or feel bad when you think about what happened.. on a more personal note, i think you really miss her.. you should try to reach out to her.. i'm pretty sure she misses you too but might be shy or afraid to make the first move because she thinks you resent her.. forgiveness does not happen in a jiffy and will take time.. but it'll help when you patch up and become friends again.. :) i hope this helps :)

friendship is more then any thing in the world according to me some of the arguments or disturbances may cause ignoring between them according to me by understanding to each other it can be solved in the right way

No. You should not.If, what she did hurt your pride, let her make the first move. But make an objective analysis. Did you hurl words at each other ?WHo provoked this? Here it seems that you are the offended party. Was there any justification? Every individual has self-respect and no other human being has a right to trample upon this.If she did it on account of some superiority , forget her.Let her approach you.You cannot always be subservient just because you need friendship.It is a two way street.

Hi devjay78, Yes, I think you should forgive your friend, not for her sake, but for your own. It has been two years and this situation is still weighing heavily on your mind, which means you have not moved on and probably won't until you have some closure on the matter that happen between the two of you. This argument must have been pretty heated, to the point where two long time friends are not talking to each other. Friends do have disagreements, but they get over them and remain friends. It would take an almost unforgivable circumstance to end a relationship. You seem to have held some hurt in for a long time before the explosion. This may not have been a wise thing to have done. Confronting the problem earlier could possibly have avoid such drastic decision of ending the relationship. Can this friendship be mended? Yes, it can, but it will never be the same as it once was. Would or could you trust her? Can you truly forget what happen between you two. Was it something she did to you, therefore she should be asking you to forgive her, not the other way around? If she did something to you and hasn't called, then it would she doesn't want to patch things up. Yes, forgive her for hurting you, even if you don't be come friends again. You really don't have to see her to forgive her. You can forgive her in your heart and set yourself free to move on, because you got closure.

For me we must do hat because we all got sin we inherit the imperfection of what Adam and Eve done.

First thing, if you were hurt because of your pride then it must be easy to forget. Yet if it's your dignity then,for me it should be talk over. I think you and her are good friends. Keep in touch with her again and try to forget it and live happy. Conflicts happen and should be taken care of if not it could ruin someone's life by living in the shadow.

i think you have to forgive her and be friends with her again... from the childhood means both of you were good friends .... i think both of you are never apart each other..... so go and call her .... and renew your that old friendship.....

hi, in friendship there must be no pride, sorry... if you miss her and still consider her as your friend, just give her a call. I'm sure she is in the same situation like you. Life is tooo short and you never know what may happen. Just call her and maybe later you can tel her how much you were hurtt. Like this, you won't be confuse because if she is your true friend she will understand.

Life is too short to spend it in fights. Just think whether the argument was worth for blowing up a long friendship. I think you should sort it out together and give your friendship another try. Friendship is about being frank. If you disapprove certain things abt her, then tell her about it. She might improve.

I know just how you feel devijay as Ihave a very similar situation myself...I had a really good freind for many years and we had a falling out, probably because we didn't discuss the real problem early enough I think. I haven't spoken to her in 3 years now and recently I have been thinking about her and thinking back to the fun times we had and what good friends we were. I know that if we were back in touch it wouldn't be quite the same but I'm sure we could work on it and make a new freindship , having learnt from past mistakes. Sadly , she has now moved house several times since we last spoke and I cannot find her , but I often think about her. It depends what your disagreement with your friend was about, and if you feel that you could forgive and move on..if not then there is no point as you would only be bringing more heartache into you life...but if you were really good friends and you want that back again AND you feel that you could swallow your pride and contact her...go for it. We get one go at this life and one day it will be too late, so you need to make a decision and stick by it. :o)

Hello, I think it depends on how you feel. Is your friend being absent unbearable to how much your pride was hurt? It depends on which hurts more. Have you been able to go on with your life without her? People change and things change and mostly you change. I think moments people have will never be the same but it can be better or worse. It's a gamble... and you choice of how much it is worth. Best wishes.

Well, in my opinion, yes and no. It sounds like you felt you had been hard done by her. You should definitely try to patch things up with her, but not at the cost of your pride. Call her up, and tell her you have been hurt by the things that she has done, but you miss her. If she is willing to own up to what she did, then I would think she is worthy of you. If she is not willing to own up, my advice to you would be to just forget about her. She will do the same thing again, and you will get hurt yet again. So, what is the point?

Depends on your friends pool.If u got many friends maybe can let this slip.I guess your fren also did not come back to u for friendship. Personally you have to ask yourselve whether u did wrong and your ex friends did wrong, if u think u did nothing wrong and not your fault.Then forget about your ex fren.However if u lack frens and miss your x friends and it is partly or wholey your fault then maybe give him/her another chance.

hi,devijay78.I have a friend for ten years.we also are best friends for so long time. to my surprised ,we don't have an argument never.i have supper with her every friday tonight at her home and be sleep with her.she is sleep at the bed and i am at the floor.Because it is too hot to sleepping at the bed. we will share ones's story,such as love, success and so on.I know her advantage and she knows my fault. devijay78,friendship is a very precious things that i hope you forgget what happens with your friend and what she did- hurt you,maybe there needs be a conversation with your friends.LOL