Why doesn't he listen!

Hi momathome Have a heart you have a four year old boy. Did you know that when my daughter was at that age she practically runs all over the place. Please don't shout at the child and don't do anything that he will surely emulate. Talk to him I am sure he will be able to understand what you want him to do. Children normally don't answer to shouts and spanking anymore.

You may want to try to teach him some quiet activities. Like get him some books to look at or something else that he does that is quiet. I know it may seem like nothing he does is quiet. Sometimes if you whisper, I know it sound weird, it will get there attention and this could even become your que that it is time to settle down. The theory is that they will see you but wont hear you so they will stop to see what you are saying. Also that the volume on the TV sould never be to loud that way they have to be quiet if they want to watch it. Now that one I use and it works for me, most of the time. You could try a game, lets see who can stay still the longest and let him win but each time make the game go longer and longer. The hardest part is to be consistant with whatever you choose to do. It may take a while but don't give up it will never work if you stop trying. As he gets older he may get better at it to. Try to do some activies that will interest him but let him know that he must sit quietly or you will not be able to do them. He will need to start practicing to sit still as kindergarden is just around the corner. Start small with quick activities like coloring a page, or maybe even a cutting activity, yes I said it hand the child saftey sissors and a big piece of paper. Or possibly even some flash cards or some baseball cards, or something like that that he would enjoy looking at. Remember it will take some time and you have to be consistant and he should catch on hopefully sooner rater than later for your sanity, I only have one 3 year old and we have our days. Good luck and don't give up.

Have you had him tested to see if he's ADD? If he is ADD, it's not that he doesn't want to listen, he can't. It's how his brain is wired. By the way, Einstein was though to be ADD. There are techniques for ADD kids that also work for normal hyper kids. Look for a good book on the subject. Maybe your health service can provide short term counseling or training on how to deal with a hyper 4 year old. He must learn to sit in order to do well in kindergarten next year.

I have a son that is about this same age. There are times that it seems like he is not listening. I think that the reason that little boys in this age range are so difficult to get to listen is because of the fact that their minds are so active at this time. Everywhere that little boys in this age range turn, they are learning something and they are craving the learning that they are getting. For this reason, the best way to get them to listen to you is to get down to their level where they won't be distracted by something else.

I have the same experience with our youngest son, very active. I buy him toys which are supposed to be played inside the house and that will need adult supervision., like Lego,building blocks, puzzle toys. and sometimes when he dont listen i would grab his face and point it in my direction (but not too heavy, it did not hurt) my point is, you need to practice a lot of interaction with your son so he would be acquainted listen/talking with you. Sometimes i would not talk to him at all and wait for the time he would have to start conversing with we will let him play all day long, although we have to take a look at him the way he does not notices it. he is now 7 years old and i think what i have done has paid out. He is a good listener now and has respect for elders and parents of course.

Well, he is a very little kid, he is a boy - if he is energetic, that's fine. Imagine, if he was staying quiet, looking at one point - you could think that he is ill. But you should try a way to speak, not to yell. I know, it's hard. But you should find a way to explain the things to him without getting angry.

Children have a tendency not to listen when we as parents yell at them. I would say eventually he will simmer down but that is no guarantee, so I suppose taking away privileges may help. But that means you have to stick to no and not maybe or tomorrow. A tiny humor for you he is a boy and generally males never listen. Good Luck with your son.

I have a 3 year old & we have our days too. When he yells I just let him yell until he stops, & when he see I'm ignoring him he usually quits. I don't spank him I use time out with him sitting on a chair facing the wall or sitting on the floor facing the wall. My son is also very active & can't sit down for long, so I printed some pictures, letters, shapes, etc, from the computer & he sits down to color them. Those really work & he learns letters, shapes while he does them. Just make them big & fill the paper up & I keep them in a binder when he's done & he can go back to them to study them like flash cards. He also will sit down to look at picture books or to listen to me while I read to him. Hope this works for u, but I know boys can be very active the whole day. I wish I can have their energy for the whole day so I can get all my housework done before everyone gets home. Be patient, I always say that to my self. Good Luck!!