do you check on your partner's cellphones and emails?

hey.. lol its me again.. your topics seem to always get my attention. I guess its because I can relate to some of them. :) Anyway about this topic, I'm guilty! When I had a long distance relationship before, there was no chance for me to check his cellphone so I always check his email and friendster (messages). But it was not because I was jealous or being possessive, it was because I was really curious about his activities. It wasn't a big deal because we were both open with each other so I didn't find anything that I didn't know. However with my current relationship now, I must say that I became a jealous person. Because this guy had a history and you can pretty much call him a flirt so it was not easy to erase my doubts. He gave me his friendster and email credentials. When I checked it, I found lots of stuff which is not healthy for me to see. Because yeah past is past. There were a lot of stuff there about his past, about his flirting history. But I appreciate his honesty. Then I got paranoid that he might do the same stuff so I secretly checked his cellphone. Don't know if its fortunately or unfortunately for me but I found something there. I found some lies then I confronted him about it. The reason was acceptable but my paranoia did not go. So from time to time I still secretly check his phone, email, friendster. But didn't find any so instead of building my doubts I learned to fully trust him. I learned to respect his privacy. It all happened 2 years ago. But recently I actually did this again, 3 months ago just to check since we had a fight that time, luckily didn't find any. :)

If the partner is ready to show the mail,.. then no problem..... other wise i that is not a good thing to do.....

I do not check my partner's cell phone or emails to find out any hidden secrets because she does not conceal anything or any information from me.

Well guilty over here! Ive been there before, but only if Im given a reason to search and be Miss CSI (as my friends call me).. If given a reason because there acting funny or secretive then yup, because 9 out of 10 its always something. I wouldn't call it possessive or jealousy though at least for me it more of Im not going to be in the dark and look stupid.

When we started going out, I use to ask her about her text messages and phone calls. But later on (and after all these years), I don't do it anymore. Not that I don't care what she is doing, It is much more like I trust her, and I know that she trusts me too. If we did not, then we wouldn't have lasted all these years. Nowadays, I even ask her to check my e-mails for me, and she would do same thing every now and then. But I do admit that I am possessive to certain extent. I love her and don't want to lose her, that makes me possessive. Sometimes, she understands, sometimes she dont, and we get into little quarrel about that sometimes. :))

I don't do that things because my wife since we where dating, she demostrate that i can trust her and she can trust, she doesn't do that to me, we think that if one of us do that, we can even thinks things that are not true and it make untrust the relationship.

I wouldn't want any of my friends to do it to me so why should i do it to them and thats i gotta say

I don't think it's right if you check your partner's cellphone or email. In a relationship you should trust eachother, and if that trust isn't there than maybe you should not be together! If you think your partner is cheating on you, you should confront him/her first before you go behind his back. If he/she isn't cheating on you and he/she finds out you were checking his/her cellphone and emails, your partner might break up with you because you don't trust him/her.

i don't.. whatever is getting out from being engrossed with his phone or emails, i trust him. it's his problem if hes dong something bad.. my partner checks his phone from time to time and i have never ask him or check it whenever it rings. i don't know.. i guess it's already private becuase in my case, i don't want him reading my messages too not because im hiding something but because i simply dont wan thim to read it.

For me i would never do such a thing but if i start to suspect something going on. I would unexpectedly ask them to show me, and that would give them no time to delete. Well if they deny i would start to suspect more and i would become uncomfortable and i would make her know that, but i would not carry it on any further by forcing her to show me.

If you have respect to your partner you don't have to check his text messages or emails, if there is love there is trust.

I am a jealous person but checking my bf's emails and cellphone is not my doings... it's a private things ! ! ! TRUST and LOVE must be there :)

I think it is not right. It shows that there is no trust. Suspicion is a cancer in any relationship. It does not show maturity in any way.

Before I used to. Now that my bf and I are together for 7 years, I've trusted him that much. I know those messages he got are from his clients.

I do not check messages, email or whatever belongs to my partner. I do not want to disturb my partner's privacy, unless my spouse allowed. I'm not one to investigate the privacy of people even though my partner. Unless I was told. If my jealousy would have, but I did not show excessive.

I don't feel the need to check a partner's cewllphone or emails. Relationships are built on trust. If we invade our partner's privacy by checking up on their messages, the bond of trust can be broken. Once that happens, it's difficult to get the relationship back to where it was.

I have read an article before that you should trust your partner. You shouldn't read his emails or cellphone messages and calls to build a strong relationship. But even if I know that having trust will help a long lasting relationship, I still get to read my boyfriend's messages in his cellphone. I don't get to read his emails to give him privacy but I sometimes am tempted to do so..but no I won't do that not unless he would want me to. I also have access to his facebook account since he doesn't care about it. He only made one because I force him to do so :D

.n0!definitely n0t...i d0nt check my partners cellph0ne,emails and his wallet.c0z i believe that th0se are private things.it is what I call respect the privacy of that pers0n.i jUst wait if he will share st0ries about text messages or emails he received 0r pers0ns wh0 called him..i d0nt ask..i d0nt pry!c0z i want him t0 do th0se things f0r me too..its the g0lden rule..d0nt d0 unto others what you d0nt want others d0 unto you!you have to trust them.