what to do after a relationship just ended, how to deal with the pain?

Recovering from a break-up is not easy especially if you're so emotionally attached with the person. But I've tried dealing with the pain in two ways. First was right after breaking up from a 5 year relationship, I dated someone new a month after that. I thought seeing someone new and doing a new relationship over again helps me deal with the pain. But I was wrong. instead of getting myself better, I realized that I was not yet over with the break-up and worse thing was I had to broke the new guy in the process of dealing with the pain I was still feeling. Second, upon learning my mistakes in the past.. I took some time off. Gave myself a time to relax, to think things over, to burst out my emotions. I realized that even with the pain, I can still manage to be happy. I met new people, new friends. Eventually, I got better. I guess the quote "Feel the pain till it pains no more" is true. And that there's nothing that time could not heal. That's just about it. :) Best of luck

There are painkillers called 'sleep pills'. =)) Okay, I'm kidding. When you are just done with a relation, give yourself some time to gather-up emotionally. Get involved in different activities such as sports, games, meeting new people, doing something good for the society.

I go for a good drink to settle my pain.

Perhaps a prayer of thanks that you are finally rid of what is causing you pain is a good place to begin. Spiritual therapy is always good for the soul and will help one to consider the positive side of one's experiences. When there is pain and hurt in a relationship as you say, it is not healthy and the best thing is to get out and thank God that the pain and hurt were not fatal. Consider what you did if anything, to make that relationship the way it was and develop a strategy to eliminate that behavior. And move on to a fresh start. Do not make the mistake as many do to try to immediately replace what you have lost since you could be jumping out of the fat and into the fire. After ending a relationship I think the best thing to do is spend time alone and regenerate you self esteem while reexamining your future goals. Good luck to you.

Getting over a painful experience is not easy as saying goes is "much like crossing a monkey bars" but no matter how painful it would be you have to let go at some point in order to move forward just believe in God coz when we put our cares in his Hands He puts his peace in our hearts then counts your blessings,not the pains or troubles I am sure you'll make it through whatever comes along.

I think one you used to do in order to cope the pain in your heart is to make yourself busy, think any activities that can get your attention and make you enjoy and can make you feel tired so that you can sleep more in the nights. And there are times you will remember him just think his negative attitudes the bad thing that he done for you so that it will make easy for you to forget the heartache with him. Try to move on, that's life full of pains that can help us to be a stronger person and hope you can find someone that is worthy to your love...good luck

hello dear, No one can help you but yourself alone. It won't be easy to have a broken heart,but if you think that it is useless to go on with any relationship,it is better to end it on an early stage rather than keeping some hope and still it will end up to splitting. Time matters most,we don't need to keep longer the suffering when we know it is time to say "it's over". You can moved on,just be strong and think that you don't deserve to be treated that way and you deserve a better person that the one you had now. Love will find a way,and love is not to beg. True love will come unexpectedly at the right time and with the right person Have a good day always

Hi Allyssa_Marie, Ending a relationship is never easy, even if you were in an unhappy one. The end of a relationship for many people seems to mean failure. There is always a painful reason why the relationship ended in the first place. The question is, would you be in more pain if you had remained in the relationship that obviously was not working for at least one of the partner, or would you rather ending this relationship, hurt for the lost, then move on with your life to find deserved happiness? At the end of any relationship, there are choices to be made. Will you wallow in self-pity, feeling as if your entire world has collapsed, which isn't true, or you will you accept this painful experience and learn something positive from it? Maybe increasing the chances of a more successful relationship in the future. As hard as we may try, there is no way to avoid pain in our lives. To help rid ourselves of pain from our woes, we must find other things to keep our minds from constantly be focused on the source of our pain. We have many options, such as taking up a new hobby or taking a college course, volunteering in the community, and many many more.

It seems so easy to say that you can do this and that to overcome the pain after a bad break up. But the thing is, it is never easy. Sometimes it takes months or even years to totally say you have moved on. But perhaps, doing something to help you move on is better than sulking in a corner and wallowing to that pain for the longest time. Acceptance is the first step. He's out of your life, accept it. Cry. Might be days or a week but don't cry for months r a year because of it. It will become a very bad habit. Get up. Dress up. Fix yourself and meet new friends. There's a whole wide world waiting for you outside. See yourself in a bigger picture. Happy and contented. Go for that goal. Do not deprive of yourself to be happy and contented by thinking how hurt you are. Believe that you deserve to be happy. And you will be happy again.:)

i'd share how i'm getting through, hopefully i could be of help... n_n i just ended one with someone special, it's platonic, but nonetheless it's special, and nonetheless it's ended, badly if i may add... but there, it wasn't easy at all, but i allowed myself to have a meltdown and spend some time to grieve, until i just got worn out of the miserable state and decided to just shrug it off and move forward. to me eventually, he became nothing less than a state of mind, he crosses my mind every now and then, but i couldn't feel anything anymore, it's like he's just an empty thought. my friends were a huge help. i'd usually love to spend my time in solitude, whether i'm happy or sad. somehow it gives me time to contemplate and bore out wisdom out of whatever that's happening, but after having a relationship ended, having thoughtful and sweet friends around, they've almost swarmed me with love and not permit a split second unoccupied. though, in spite of my friends, i still sought for time to pull back my pieces together on my own, until i develop that enthusiasm to start again, solo. i tried to fetch my life ten years from now, and imagine how i'd like to see myself, and things that i could do now to get there. i also thought of mastering old skills or finding time to learn new ones. cook, bake, paint, workout, write, learn how to play an instrument, mountain climbing, photography, a new language and what not. i also came up of things that is lovely to be spent with a couple, and dare to do them alone, like watching the movies, dining in an beautiful resto... once i've had my alone-ness rationalized, do i only find myself ready to make new friends, else everyone who comes along during my recovery period are nothing less acquaintances. oh, and i also stopped listening to sad songs, eating chocolates, and entertaining the people whom he is, by any chance, acquainted to his existence. n_n there, i hope i was of help. :)