Being closed with my friend's kids....

hmmm... the kid mother is your friend, isnt it. and so the kid. if i were you, i would to find out first, why the kid closer to me than their mother/parent. seconds, in what subject they close to me ( i think not every aspect of life the kid closer to you). from that 2 question, perhaps i can talk to my friend (kid parent about their kid) of course not a detail information, just the basic line. EXP: if kid talk to me about their lover, perhap they are ashamed or maybe scare to talk to parent, coz parent want them not having a lover during school. Or maybe parent to busy to talk about it... so, with know what the cause, you will find the alternative solution...good luck !

i can say that no one is narrow minded, each and every relation has a limit, it may be between mother and a son or between friends as of you, if we exceed that limit, you will problems. here in your case children are involved, as they dont know any thing and due to some reasons they came to you and explained their problems to you, thats a very common thing, as children feel afraid or feel inconvinience with their parents, they dont say any thing to them and they go to persons who are close to them and thats what has happenned here, so dont worry about it and dont make this issue come to your mind when you are with your friend and be as you were before o.k bye.

I was once very close to one of my nieces. I motivate her to study English, to be an outgoing person, to treat other people even her maids kindly, and to love reading. But her mother, my cousin was jealous of this relationship and forbade my niece to go with me and did not take her daughter in any of family gathering which is done monthly. I understood her jealousy, but I only wanted to fill out the long vacant hours because my cousin is a very busy businesswoman in the city. At the time her daughter had shown a tendency to treat people under her mother payroll badly, not wanting to study, not caring at all. I took her to meet my friends from Australia and America. I took her to watch movies like Harry Potter together with some of my other nieces and nephews. I bought her books to read that she enjoyed. Her grade in English became good. She even turned to me when she got chicken pox, because her mother would not take care of her herself, only asked the maids (she got several in the house) to take care of her daughter. If the situation be reversed, I would be grateful if my daughter has someone to confide and to go to, then I would have just asked my friend to tell me what she told her, that way I would know how to deal with her.

I think your friend is being narrow-minded about it. However, it is normal that she may feel a bit of jealousy especially if her child seems to confide more in you. I guess the best way to deal with it is to reassure her that it is not like you are replacing her role as their mother, and that she should be glad that through you, she may know things that may not be spoken of her kids with her. Or you can talk to her child too and ask if their mother know about it, and make some ways to make them closer too

You are actually being a very good person and the mother is just jealous. Some parents are too harsh to their kids or just don't get along with them which causes the kids to connect with other people. Those kids probably need you as you are their outlet and consultant but at the same time the mother should be trying to form a better relationship with her children.