Do you regret having the kind of parents you have now? Why?

Philippines
August 25, 2010 12:39am CST
None of us got to chose our parents. Redundantly, we were born to parents not of our own choosing. Some were born to godly parents, some were born to rich parents, others to poor parents, and others were born to seemingly loveless parents. Do you ever regret having the kind of parents that you now have? Do you think you can be better parents than they?
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@joyce318 (139)
• China
25 Aug 10
You question is very unresonable. You also know that we have no choice to choose our parents, but at the same time you ask people whether they regret having the kind of parents. No choice, no regret. Since the parents are destiny,it is no meaning to be regretful. People are always regreful after choosing or making a decision.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
it is not necessary that you have a choice before there can be regrets. Ex: Some people regret that they were born in this world.
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
25 Aug 10
joseph, I think you are mixing apples with pears, sort of speak. People that regret being born (I agree with joyce, children can't decide to either come to this world or not), it's just because they're angry, sad, depressed to say the least.
@joyce318 (139)
• China
25 Aug 10
Some people regret that they were born in this world? OMG, it is a terrible logic. The parents can choose whether they born or not, but chilren can not choose to come the world or not. That can not be decided by the children. You can say that you are regretful to go school, to fall in love with someone. But can you say that you regret coming to the world. You can kill yourself in mother'belly.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Aug 10
Although I am happy that they brought me into the world and raised me, my parents are kust getting on nerves. I can't really stand them actually.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
25 Aug 10
I meant just not kust. Sorry. It was a mistake.
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
25 Aug 10
I think your question is more like a contradiction, if you didn't choose your parents, how could you regret having them? You can't, it wasn't up to you. If you had good parents, good, if you didn't ... so what? Every one of us, at some point in life, we are as free as we want to, we can choose, we can decide. Can I be a better parent than my own? I had a bad childhood, can I still be happy? Will other people always have control of my life and decisions? This I can respond for another half hour or more, but my point is, NO, one just can't blame him or her self for their parents, again, it wasn't our decision to have them.
@joyce318 (139)
• China
25 Aug 10
I total agree with you. You can not choose our parents, how could we regret having them. Rerger always happens after making a decision. Be rich family, or poor, it is destiny. You can not choose the born, but can create the life. Don't think about the contradection, but think about your own life.
@DenverLC (1143)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
No never at all. I am who I am now because of my parents who molded me to become a child both for them and for God.. I am so proud of my parents, all the unconditional love and care they keep on giving to me are priceless and well appreciated.
@tatturoy (139)
• India
25 Aug 10
i agree with you.
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
no i don't regret of my parents because they show that they value me as their child they do everything for me to be a good christian. They guide and molded me the good values, despite of financial problem they do everything to us to have a good future and I'm not what I am now not for them
@chinoxads (255)
• United States
26 Aug 10
They are things that i'm desagree with my parents, but i not regret them, because in some certain way the teach us what they think was good for us, and they learn that from their parents like us, i always will be thank for them, because the care about us, they give us education, give us a house to live, they protect us, and no matter what we do, wrong or good, if we need help they are there for us. We can learn from them and we can learn from others parents too, like my uncle said, you have know the wrong and the good things because of that you can decide what to do in the future.
• United States
26 Aug 10
There really isn't much that you can do about your parents, you didn't choose them. I didn't choose to be born to the parents that I have, it just happened. My parents are who they are and I can't change them. If I could choose to have different parents, I don't think that I would want those parents either. I wouldn't be satisfied with any parents that I have.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
My parents is poor and we are always struggling for money. But it never has been a hindrance to me and my other siblings. We study and work at the same time. If my parents can't give us the bright future because they are poor. We can surely work it out by striving hard. Even do my parents was not able to send us to good school I still love them and I'm proud to be their son. My parents is very special to me and there is nothing that can take away that love I had for them. I will never ask for another parents only them.
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
26 Aug 10
I dont regret the parents i have, of course we fight and everything and we arent exactly rich but that is how we learn in life. I wouldnt trade them for nothing.
@jamed28 (1903)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
Even our parents, none of them got to choose their children. And my parents don't regret me for being their son, so why should I regret them. Even my parents turn out to be the most horrible parents in the world. I won't regret them, because they are the reason I am here, alive and typing this post.
• Canada
25 Aug 10
It wasn't a choice, so it's not something I can regret. I could wish I had different parents but regret isn't the right way to put it.. And everyone could be a better person, so I'm sure my parents could be better parents than they are. But anyway, they are my parents, and I wouldn't change that even if I could.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Did I ever regret? Nope. I'm proud to have my parents around. Very supportive and guiding me all the way up..I 'kinda think of the opposite, what if I don't have them as parents, then that would be my biggest problem, I guess.=) Somehow, I was blessed having them since birth but I never did encountered any cruelty from them like beating, non-ending scolding etc... Of couse, I'm not perfect, (that's even a well settled rule for me=)) and because of that, at times my parents birds eye cannot let them pass without being unnoticed, but they just do their duty to point it out and communicate it to me the best way they can. I must admit I was scolded, but not in a daily basis or oftener... I can argue and insist my point to them but I tried not(better to eat nuts=)) for I always admit it to myself that "Yeah right, I did a mistake". This is because I know that they are not that foolish enough to incarcerate or prosecute me when I did nothing wrong(of course, they knew also that I can shout for justice,if they will be unfair=)). The good thing about my parents is that,they consider us siblings as their own friends. But of course, we knew they are still the authority so we draw limits to ourselves too. And if I could be a better parents than they?, Yes I can!=) But of course how my parents brought me up is beyond comparison for that is very personal and special to them too. I will put in mind the precious lessons they had thought me and pass it on to my daughter with the aim of being best from the better parents that I had !=)Why not, it's doable, my 4-year old daughter and I are bestfriends!=) Great question, friend!'Love it!=)
@tatturoy (139)
• India
25 Aug 10
no i dont regret about my parents.on the contrary, i feel proud for them because they are the people who has shown me the day light on this planet.
• United States
25 Aug 10
As much pain I'm going through and all, I can't regret my parents. They brought me into this world and I'm very grateful for that. So no I don't regret them even though they have their flaws.
@jazzhere (137)
• India
25 Aug 10
yea i am suffering from them right now they are very cruel to me