Ex's Gifts

Although those things are very painful to see, I still keep them in honor of what my ex and I shared before. I feel like disrespecting the love we shared if I throw away the gifts that she gave me from her heart. Ok, I'm kinda getting mushy here. My point is that yeah, it doesn't help with you moving on. But those things also represent fun and good memories that you shared when you were still together. And I know, that when we're finally over our ex's, we'll be hurting to see the gifts they gave us and then we'll smile when we see them because we'll remember the good things in our relationship. I really don't want to do things I will regret just because I acted because of the pain I'm currently feeling. I want to remember the good times we're really happy in those times.

To me this just depends on what the items are. I have to admit when my break ups happen they aren't usually very pretty but I do tend to keep the stuff that the other person got me unless it is of no value to me. So if the gifts are things like electronics that I can make some money off of because I never use it then I will sell it. Stuffed animals and such well those usually no matter who they are from end up on the floor in my room until I clean and either donate them or give them away. So like I said it just depends on the gift. I guess you could keep things for sentimental value but to me it just isn't worth it. Give it up if it keeps bringing back memories you don't want to relive because it's not worth the pain that it sometimes causes.

I still keep them. Well you don't really have to throw your ex's gifts just to forget the person. I agree, keeping these things because of special memories doesn't necessarily mean you're still attached with your ex. It's just good to remember those happy memories especially when you have problems or when you're down. And why would I throw a watch, 2 bags, ring, and an iPod earphone. They're too expensive! haha

I used to return the gifts that my exes gave me back then and throw away the others. But how can I burn or throw away a Tiffany necklace, silver earrings and necklace, digital camera, and iPhone among others? I placed those things in a paper bag and insisted that he take them back, but he's equally persistent that I keep them. I still use those things and I'm still in the house that we used to live in together. The only thing that he took with him was the diamond engagement ring that I did not accept. We're still in good terms, as far as I know, and we've both moved on with our lives.

Those are special moments and heritage in his life that I would return the items to him. I understand the special link the jewelry has with you and him but someday you both might meet someone else and when I think of items like that that should be passed down through the family, I would genuinely put my feelings aside and make sure he gets them back. Who knows he might have a little girl some day that it would be special for him to give to her. Other momentos that are less significant in heritage that would be your decision on how you feel about keeping them or giving them up. I am still friends with my high school sweetheart after 40 years we realize we did not make it but our friendship has lasted and now that I am cleaning out my house he had lost his year books through the years and I told him I still had mine would he like to have them He was THRILLED. And I am glad they are going to someone that knows our past in school. I hope this helps you make some decisions that I know are always hard to come up with from your mind and your heart. Good Luck

I would definitely keep them for memories' sake. Whatever it is that separated our ways, past is already past and those gifts have nothing to do it. But then again, who knows, maybe someday we'll cross our path and realize we still have that special thing that could bring us back together again...

It depends what it is really. I would throw away any cards or anything that was reall personal between the two of us. Things like jewellery and perfume, I would keep, as I don't see why I should throw nice things away that I like just because I'm no longer dating the person who gave them to me.

Just like you, the gifts and letters given by my ex-boyfriends are stashed in a box. It's fun to keep these memories. I especially can't forget the day that I opened the box and smiled at the contents. That day I was able to affirm that I have truly moved on and no longer bitter with the memories. The letters and gifts made me smile and appreciate the happy memories.

I would definitely throw them away. And I would probably tell my ex to return all my gifts that I gave him. It's such a waste of money, and effort, and time to have enganged yourself in such relationships.. so normally I would never want any trace of those. I would not want to remember anything about my exes, eventhough we had fun times, but still..

I think it really depends, if it is something extremely expensive, then I say you should give it back, but if it is just regular small things, I would keep it, unless the guy wants them back for some reason. But expensive and valuable stuff like engagement rings should be given back if you ask me!

ohh your story seemed like movies stories :( so sad that it ended. you did right thing keeping some things bcs you had good memories^^ also maybe you can be with him again bcs life changes. me i kept a notebook where i put drawings, poems, stories to my ex. it really was a cute gift and he couldnt receive bcs we lived far so the mail came back to me and i keep it till now^^

There's no need for me to burn it.., I hate destroying things even if it's given to me by someone I dislike.., So i will definitely give it to someone else who might need it and appreciate it better than I do.., or if the object given to me by an ex is something I like,.. I'll keep it to myself and forget that it was given to me by and ex..=0

Keep them you wont hate her forever and later they will be grate treasures of moments of happiness. take care

i still keep them ..i even use some of the gifts in the present ..i dont really care if i still have the feeling back then, the point is that gift is given to you so you should use it in your advantage ..lolz

I would not give the gifts backl, contrary to the others who would return their gifts to their exs. Me i would keep them, still use them and throw them away when they can't be used anymore. I think this is the same as receiving a gift from your friends. When i keep these gifts, it does not mean i still have feelings for them... it also does not mean i can't move on...

I would allow time before making irrational decisions and if after an allotted period I would see how I felt about them. If a person feels so strongly about being rid of such items perhaps donating them to a charity or cashing them in and donating the money would be ok with me.

Hi! When I was younger I'd give away or throw my x gifts or his stuffs that's with me, lol. But now, whatever gift I had from my x, I still use it. It's weird I just don't have any memories link with it, lol. For me it's like, it's his gift so it's mine. Just like gifts that I had given to him, no need to return it, it's his.

yah it's true that there were things that you really can't let go. As for me, I keep it all inside a box, sealed and well kept in our attic. Keeping those things doesn't mean that I still love her nor still have feelings for her. It's like a thing that will remind you of the days you fell in-love with each other, the days you shared together and the days you learned to let go. ;)

even if my ex and I had a hurtful break up, we remain friends. I still keep his gifts and even letters. It is not because I still feel the same way about him, but because I just think those things are parts of good memories that we had and I believe such memories are worth keeping and something to be treasured. But of course I don't read or look at it anymore, I just store it in a box and in the cabinets.

for me it's ok to keep it you have said it have sentimental value for you and you learn to let go the past and move on