Why do so many people believe they only have one true love?
@jupitercrashing (635)
Canada
August 26, 2010 1:35pm CST
I've never understood the prevalent belief in 'soul mates'. Even otherwise rational, unsuperstitious, and/or nonreligious people think that there is one right person out there for them. Even if it were true, it almost entirely guarantees that you will not end up with this one right person because you will probably never meet them, let alone speak the same language.
I think more relationships would last if we were able to shake this fairy tale idea of our 'one true love.' In reality, there are many people out there who we may be very compatible with. There are many people who you may fall in love with and want to spend your lives with. Whether or not it happens depends entirely on how willing both individuals are at making their relationship work.
What do you think? Why do you think so many people are obsessed with finding their 'one true love'?
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@zenarblade (6)
• Romania
27 Aug 10
People are searching for the 'one true love'(perhaps in the soap operas)? I don't think so. In these days, when we are so busy, we have time for love? Definitely not! I agree that the one true love exists, but we don't search it, it just find us.
@jupitercrashing (635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
Yes, people definitely are! I don't think it's rational to think a one true love exists and that it will manage to find us in such a huge world. Love could definitely make it's way to us, but a 'one true love'? That is wishful thinking.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
27 Aug 10
I have never understood when people say soul mates. Sometimes opposites attract and sometimes people believe to fall in love later after knowing each other for a while.
Perhaps saying soul mate is just a matter of preference.
@jupitercrashing (635)
• Canada
27 Aug 10
That is true, in some cases it may just be a preference to use a term like that without realizing the implications.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Aug 10
I think that there are many people who could potentially be compatible. But if you find one of them, and it works out, that can "turn into" your one true love. I mean if it's right, even if you meet another one of those potentially compatible people, you are hopefully not going to ditch the one you are with for the new one...
People are obsessed with it, because it's a "feel good" thing, and because they've been fed romantic ideas all their lives...
@jupitercrashing (635)
• Canada
26 Aug 10
I completely agree, although I have known people who have met someone else they're compatible with and chosen them because it was new and exciting. It almost always ends poorly.
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@GemmaR (8517)
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26 Aug 10
I believe that there are soul mates, but I also believe that with the amount of people who are in this world, it is incredibly unlikely that you would ever meet that one person.
Some people might, but the majority of us would not.
We are happy (or seem to be, at least) to settle for second best. There are a lot of people who are almost compatible to us, and the good times outweigh the bad times, and we would be happy for that, which is what most of us end up with.
@jupitercrashing (635)
• Canada
26 Aug 10
Why do you think soul mates exist, out of curiosity?
I personally don't think anyone has to settle for second best. There really is no perfect relationship, it's all about making the one you have as close as possible.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
26 Aug 10
When we find that one true love, we expect to have it forever. if we lose this true love, we don't think there will ever be another love to match it. True love can come along when we least expect it. We are lucky to find that true love at least once in our lives. It is still possible that we can have it more than once.@jupitercrashing (635)
• Canada
26 Aug 10
I agree that we can have it more than once, but that we are lucky to find someone who we feel that way for.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
27 Aug 10
well me too im one of those people that want find my true love. i think there is only one true love also people believe bcs this gives them hope to forget those that hurt them. about me i loved guys already and they always ended disappointing me so i guess maybe is bcs they are not the right guy yet and when the right guy comes will delete all bad that happened^^ but you are right if both dont work in relation it might not work but some work on it and it doesnt get well anyway. so i guess is destiny^^
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
I never believe it too unless it happen to me. i am still in let see and wait attitude. But would not like to depend on it. Life goes on as usual whether with soul mates or none I just going to do the right things being a responsible individual. I would not seek for soul mates whatever the destiny it hold for me so in the end I would not regret later waiting for nothing..Not interested anymore to find it just elude the more other seek it. For other it just comes naturally even without too much expectation..
@voldrox (7191)
• India
27 Aug 10
Hi there,
People say that for the person they want to spend their lives with. Not that there is only one person in the world who would match them but the person who is willing to spend their lives with them. People who find their soulmates are lucky enough to have found themselves the right person. I would say a soulmate is the right person and not like there is only one such person in the whole world. They just need the right person for life. I have my girlfriend right now and i am looking forward for a very long relationship with her. I just hope everything goes well. Good luck. 
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
I dont believe in soul mates. I dont believe that we all have it. True love is a choice. To be with the one whom we think is our true love, is also a choice. Its also our decision to make that relationship true. Everything has something to do with decision whether you make or break the relationship.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
26 Aug 10
You may have multiple loves or partners in life. But its just the one that you will have more feelings towards. What ever may happen it is just the one that will be your true love.
