My best friend loves me, should I accept him or not?

You must ask yourself: Do I also love him the way he loves me? Or do I love him merely as a friend? If you do the former then go for it and lavish that relationship. If you do the latter, continue being a friend--just let him understand everything how you feel. If you're confused between the two though then I advise that you both give each other a space to think and reconcile things. If time comes that both your mind and heart seek for him fervently, then I must say it must be LOVE. Hit it then!

Well, it really depends on how you look into this or how you feel about this. If it feels good then go for it. I personally think that any romantic relationship should have friendship as a basic foundation so that it will be in a more stable ground than infatuation. If you are in doubt, ask God for guidance. Good luck!

christinachow, Let's really be realistic and factual with yourself. I am coming from the fact that your indecisiveness, shock and lost is that you did not expect your friendship to progress. In other words, he is the last guy you'd ever consider to be romantically involved with. There's also another part where I am anticipating that you are actually in a love relationship with someone else and as such you are feeling awkward if you should leave your current boyfriend for your best friend. Hence, whether you should change and accept his proposal will really depend on how you had consider him to be an unlikely candidate or the reasons for remaining as best of friends all these while. If it is really incompatibility, then I just have to say that sometimes incompatibility when coupled with wrong frame of time... sometimes... makes the most suitable thing unsuitable. Be objective and honest with yourself here.

Hey there Christina! First of all 6 years is a very long time. I am sure that you have also got some deep feelings for him and if you really wanna know the answer you should just look in the mirror and ask yourself. Your best friends suddenly asked you out means that he needs your presence. As you said that you are staying in different cities i thinks he wants to be more close to you than ever. He misses you a lot everyday and has probably been thinking about you every single time he gets. You should sit and have a chat with him and let him tell you how he really feels about you. Every girl has only one aim. Her lover should love her more than anything else in the world and it maybe easy to say that but it is really hard to prove it. Your lucky that your best friend has asked you out but i am thinking maybe it's because of too much loneliness. But hey i am not the person to tell you that! Just talk to him more and enjoy the moment. Ask him to express his love to you in a more suitable manner in ways which you would like. That way you could really get to know how much he loves you and since hes been with you together for so long he would know everything about you. Well almost now... Cheers!

my sister ended up marrying her friend, a very close friend during high school. in their college years, they had boyfriend and girlfriend. and these serious relationships lasted for four years. then, they broke up with them.. when they were already working, they got along, hang out most of the time. and finally, the guy admitted that she fell in love with my sister and that she had a big crush on her since high school.. when you feel the romantic sense towards him, then go. ;)

it depeds on your feelings. you might be confuse if you love him as a guy or as a friend. if in the end you realize that you love him, go for it. you've known each other for years anyway. just follow what your heart says..?

I think it depends entirely on how you feel. Do you love him more than just as a friend? If you are not sure, perhaps you could tell him you need some time to adjust to the new way your relationship is going, and that you need some time to process the change in your relationship. Some things are worth going for, and if you love him too, then this would be the time to go for it.

Hi there Christina Chow! I think that you should be honest with him since he is your best friend. The best thing to do is to assess how you really feel about him. Ask him for some time to do that and I'm sure he will understand. Just weigh the situation, which one you value more: the friendship or love that you feel for him if ever you realize that you do love him.

Hi Christinachow, Welcome to mylot! It sounds like you need a little time to think this over and decide how you feel. You don't want to go along with it if you don't feel the same way because that would end up hurting both of you and destroying the friendship. I would first off let him know how much you value your friendship with him and that you would not want anything to ruin that. Then tell him the truth....you are shocked and need some time to sort out your own feelings.

Dear Christinachow, As a general rule, every person has the right to be given a chance. A situation wherein he or she can express the emotions and show what he or she feels. However, whenever there is a general rule, there is always an exception. In relating this statement to your query, as far as I know, your bestfriend should be given a chance and be accepted for what he is offering. But, you should examine and check carefully the feelings that you have for him in order for you to avoid hurting him that much in the end. Since you will gonna enter into another level of relationship, it will not be that easy especially if you unnoticeably hurting him, for sure, the friendship that you have had before will somehow be affected. Though, the love of friendship will not be lost. On the other hand, if you are really certain that the love you have for the time being is only a bestfriend's love, then, you must talk to your bestfriend slowly. Until he comprehend all of the things you want him to understand. For sure, he will get over it and understand everything. Without putting your friendship at stake.

by all means, sort out your feelings and follow what your heart tells you... don't forget, the mind also helps...

hI Christinachow Since you have known him for 6 years i guess you know a lot about him, and you should also ask yourself how come for all these years you did not realise it??? im sure he was always very nce with you and doing his best to please you , or always trying to protect you... and may be he was expecting you to find out and im sure he loved you a lot to keep that for himself for all this time.... Try to see thru your heart and understand the feeling you have and see may be inside you also might love him or may be you did not even let the love develop into you... Take your time and take a good decision.. good luck

why not if you love him too ,if you think he is good and charming person and understand your feeling ,then you should enjoy life and companionship with him ,god bless you with new venture and may bless you with all happiness of this world.

why not,,,,, i am married to my best friend and we are married for now 5 years after 5 years of friendship..... then also take your time talk it out with him. Its a very imp. decission of life ....... think it over well.....

Maybe youre shocked but think about it. Do you like him. If you dont have your bf yet and he is good and he is nice why not think about it. Your frienship is a good foundation. But if you only like him as a friend then inform him. Its nice to be honest.

give your self some time and ask this question to your self: 1. are you happy being with him? 2. do u love him? 3. do u need him? 4. do u want to be always by his side? and if all the answer is yes, you know where to go now

Do you think he is good guy? If so, and of course you are very familiar with each other. it is very important that you have same feeling to him. Ask yourself,please.

why don't you give it a try. friendship is a good foundation in a relationship. love comes when you least expect it and it involves taking risk. just go for it especially if you think you also have feelings for your friend because the two of you will make a conscious effort to make the relationship work .

If you feel the same way then why not give yourself a chance! Don't let this thing pass you, or you might be sorry soon! But if you don't feel anything for your best-friend and you're in love with someone else then be true to yourself and to your best-friend. He is just true to his self telling what he really feels for you and there's nothing wrong with it.

unless you are sure of your feelings for him, and it's the same as his then there's no problem in changing his role but if you'll do it for the sake of your friend and friendship i guess it would be better to tell him what you really think. it's a difficult situation you are in especially that you've been friends for a long time, but telling the truth would be safer than letting him hope or believe that his feelings have been reciprocated. hopefully this would be helpful.