How long before marriage?

I would want to choose the one i am going to marry very carefully. Because she's the one i would have to be with my entire life if she's my wife. SO i need to each and everything about my would be wife. I would want to date her maybe for a couple of months minimum or more i can. I wish to know her and she should also get to know me well... Only then can we understand each other and get to know strengths, likes, dislikes and many more things. Cheers!

I guess the longer engagement the better chances of getting to know each other really well and see their negative attitudes for us to decide if we could accept that too.., But I think.., time is not really important.., as long as you feel the happy and sure about everything.., then don't let anything hold you back..,=)

I think that really depends on the person is different and everyone is too close to their own situation to really realize what's going to happen. I knew someone who was 18 and dated their boyfriend for 10 months before getting engaged and I thought it was a bad idea, but she swore they were in love and this was the course of action. It was another 6 months I think before they broke up and they had a really rocky, nasty break-up. Then again, my husband and I only dated for about a year and a half when we got married, but we thought it was the right time. Then again, we'd been friends since Kindergarten and been good friends since probably 7th or 8th grade, so it wasn't like we'd only known each other for that year and a half, either. And everyone had been expecting us to get together since about 2nd or 3rd grade. xD But I do think it really depends on a lot of factors and who am I to tell other people when the right time for them is?

Sometimes if its the right time already and you found the right person whom you wanted to be with, then there's no need to wait. Some get married after dating for only a month and some get married after dating for years. It depends on the timing and we cant exactly say when its going to be.

i never doubt at least 2 years to knowing each others and get feeling in view months and get married until you relationship under 2 years too never long or will go fly away again

I personally think you should date someone atleast 3 years before you think about deciding to get married. The first year they are still trying to basically get you. The second year if your still there they are doing whatever it takes to keep you. The third year usually by then if you are still there, then they think they have gotten you. From that point you will see if they are the same person that you met. Their true person should have come out by then. If you are happy with how they are at this point and you think you can tolerate them for the rest of your life then i would say go for it. If not run!

Change is the only truth of life. Any deadline one fixes for entering into wedlock after dating does not serve the purpose unless a mutual understanding is reached. Even people having get married after a brief spell of dating and meeting have been blessed with very happy marriage life.Of course, longer the period of dating,one finds ample opportunity to know the other person more closely. But stretching it to an excessive length may cause counter productive result. Thanks.

I think you should date for a minimum of 20 years. Then date someone else for 20 years. After two divorces, I don't advise anyone to waste their time getting married, building a home and family only to have your heart and possessions destroyed. But then again, that is just my point of view on the matter. Do whatever you feel is best for you.

Hi dream_ozn, In today society, marriage is not a top priority. Just being in a relationship is enough for some people. For those who wants to be married, they need to know that this is one of the biggest decisions that they will make in their lives. Some relationship are not mature nor are the partners mature enough to talk about marriage. The partners in today's relationships are getting younger and younger, so to say how long should you date before you get married, would have to be answered for adult relationships, only. I personally would not stay in relationship, and not know where we are headed, for more than a couple of years. If I have not decided where my life with my partner is in a couple of years, then I have to move on, if I am looking to have a permanent relationship with someone. Partners in a relationship need to have the same agenda about the future.