Why do people pretend to be something their not when they want to get with you?
By Sha033
@Sha033 (29)
United States
August 30, 2010 5:26pm CST
Why do some men/women pretend to be something their not when they want to pursue a relationship with you? They say their this, their that, i'll do this and that for you. I won't treat you like this or that. I have this and that. They make themselves out to be the perfect man/women. If you know you are not any of those things why not just be honest so that way the other person can chose whether or not they want to except you for who you are and not who you pretend to be. Your true colors always come out eventually so if your lazy, broke, on child support, a jerk and so on... just say so. There's somebody out there for you. I don't understand why people do this. Anybody know?
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5 responses
@ikechukwu1000 (8)
• United States
31 Aug 10
while for me being a man, i think a lot of women love lies and they will never love you for who you are,they will always want you to be perfect like an angel.now that kind of expectation makes you fake up your reality dont you think so.so if earn 10,000per annum and i want to hook up with a lady who is beautiful but has high taste, i will tell her i earn 500,000per annum and i will borrow my friends car,house and bedroom to get what i want. now that`s watzup!!!!!!!!
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
31 Aug 10
i know :) we all want to look perfect bcs we are afraid to put person away with our mistakes :) about me im pretty honest when i love a guy i dont want him to expect too much about me and then see that all what he thought i was, was all wrong. you are right our true colours are shown sooner or later and then is even worse. other person has to accept us like we are. good and bad things. or else they are not loving us but a illusion of what they think we are. and if we love we must be honest and not hide and pretend even if our intention is good. we all want to look perfect for that person we love but for sure things we take as bad they will accept and maybe even like it ahah ^^
@GemmaR (8517)
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31 Aug 10
I think sometimes people get so desperate to be liked by the person they wish to go out with, they will do anything. I once did this to try and get a lad to like me. I totally changed my whole appearence, started wearing makeup when I never wore any before, and started to go to the same social groups as him, despite the fact that they didn't particularly interest me in the slightest.
In the end, we didn't get together, as I didn't like the person he was making me become. It messed me up a little bit at the time, but I am well over him now, with a lovely new boyfriend, so all is well!
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
31 Aug 10
It is quite unfortunate that people resort to pretending and in the interim set out to hurt people.
If only people behaved themselves they would probably not be so bad. These people do not realize that there are actually enough people around to go around so there really is no need to pretend.
However sometimes it is the insecurities, and or ego part of nature of a person that they just can't be themselves. I do not think that in our own life time we will actually know the actual reasons. We as humans need to be more open but always cautious at the same time.
Happy myLotting.
However sometimes it is the insecurities, and or ego part of nature of a person that they just can't be themselves. I do not think that in our own life time we will actually know the actual reasons. We as humans need to be more open but always cautious at the same time.
Happy myLotting.
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
31 Aug 10
Everybody just want to listen to all the nice things in life. NOthing likes hearing, "No, i can't do that, i can't be promising u anything". IF u were to tell your partner that, how do u think they will react? The very first thing that comes to mind is, they are not sincere at all, or they are not willing to try in the first place.
Men or women might be turned off by such attitude, and so it's better to be telling a white lie, to please, rather rejecting right? After all, it takes time to fulfil a promise.
