Do you think a step-parent has rights to correct childern from their spouse?

This can be a touchy subject with some. I feel that a step parents has some rights. This is something the parents should sit down & discuss. Each step parents should know the does & donts. My sister married recently & she has 2 kids & her husband has 1. I see my sister correcting her husbands child & I see her husband correcting her kids. I see nothing wrong with it. If the childrren are staying the weekend or however long with you & their other parent, I feel if you need to step up & correct the child, you shoild do so. After all, you do realize that even though its called "step parent" there is still the "parent" in it. Maybe sit down with your partner & find out what role you play. GL!

I cant say I have this problem. I have a 7 year old step-son that I have been raising since he was 2 years old. His biological mother, you might as well say she has no room to say anything. We used to live down the road from her and she never saw him or bought him anything. Now we live 300 miles away from her, and she still never calls. I'm dreading the teenage years because I will have 3 teenagers and an elementrery child. Sorry I cant offer much help. I can say if the kids biological mother doesnt play an active roll or the kids spend more then half the time with you and your husband, she really has no room to say too much. Expessially if the kids are in your care.

this is something that I would certainly bring up with my spouse. Me and my fiance have a combined family. He has six children from a previous relationship and I have two from a previous. Discipline is one of the first things we dicussed when we moved in. I havenever had a problem with his kids since his youngest is 11 and the oldest 19 and they are very respectful. However with my two kids that are 2 and 6 he does discipline. No spanking but he does correct them when they are wrong and they no not to try anything with him that they would not do with me. This is a very sensitive subject in alot of relationship especially if the other half is not willing to compromise. I just think if the kids live with you in the home then they need to respect you and your spouse needs to enforce that rule especially as teenagers. good luck to you and your family it will get better.

If the father gives you permission or if he says to the children, now you have to do what we say, then you have the right to correct the children. However you should allow the father to do the spanking or the harsh corrections. If the father refuses to do so, then perhaps that is the reason why their mother divorced him, that she wanted to be more strict, and he let them get away with murder.

Who is the one shutting you down your spouse or the child's mother? I would have to say that as a step parent you should have some say as to disclipine especially if they stay in your home for any period of time. Now I can understand if the children do not listen to you as they are not used to it, but when they are in your home they should abide by your rules and wants.

I've never been a step-parent and I've also never had a step-parent. However, that doesn't mean that I've not thought about those kinds of situations. I would think that if I was ever to end up in a situation where my children had step-parents, I would want the step parents to act as a parent and to be a disciplinarian to my children. The main reason that I feel this way is because of the fact that it takes a village to raise a child and I would want someone to stand in my place if I wasn't there to do it myself.

My step-father did. He corrected me without any problems or argument from my mother. My step-father also thought that it was right to verbally abuse me, and tell me what to do, and I couldn't protest. Talk about being Cinderella.

Since the kids are living with you, you have every right to correct them as you deem fit. Its your responsibility and if some untoward incident happens, people would obviously point fingers at you. If its your spouse that’s stopping you, then you should really talk and sort this out…either as a parent, you have a right to discipline the kids or you take no responsibility for their upbringing…it should be clear to everybody around. Also, the kids need to be talked to…kids that age are very very sensitive and they may not like the idea of a step-parent disciplining them in any way… its then for your spouse to come in and tell them that they are expected to show the same respect to you as to their natural parent.

I think it would have to be what is okay with the natural parent. I have three children and my boyfriend has two children. He asked me what he should do if my children act up and I said that he should tell me because I did not want him correcting my children and I do not want to correct his children either. I don't know if this is the right thing for us or anyone else, but that is the way I feel most comfortable.

When my partner and I got together 20 years ago, we both had two children from a previous marriage. The day we moved in together there was never any distinction between his children and mine. Neither one of us ever called them our stepchildren, they were our children. We had become a family. They were all treated equally depending on age and all of them were disciplined when they needed it. We had our problems but we worked it out as a family. The kids were, 19, 17, 15, and 14. We had our hands full. Today we have 9 grandchildren and none of them have a step in front of them either. Kids don't like to be called step-children. It's like they're an afterthought. Once you are married do not put a label on the kids from the previous marriage. Eliminate the word.

A step parent is still a parent. i firmly believe that they have every right to discipline a child in their care. Sometimes there is friction between the biological parents and step parents. A mutual agreement must be made between them when it comes to the discipline and care of the children so there can be a happy exiistence for everyone.

i think even step parents have the right to correct the children of their spouse. the spouse shouldn't disagree with it, children with no discipline will come out bad. and since you said they haven't been abused or whipped telling them or restricting them in some minor way won't hurt. they (the children) are lucky to be living in a country that that spanking or physical discipline is prohibited but that would also be hard to discipline them. that's just my opinion. for me any parent have the right to correct their children and remind the other parent that being to lax won't help them grow up well. i know that, since my dad has really reared us well, i call it harsh and strict but i do appreciate his ways although it irks me.

i had a bad experience with my step mom. i hope you can educate your child with tenderness

yes a step parent its part of accepting the life of your husband and being also responsible person.

I would talk it over with my spouse and the mother of the children because if you are trying to set ground rules and boundries and discipline all the shutting down is going to teach them is to keep on disrespecting you in your home....I would have a talk and explain how you feel to who is shutting you down good luck

Ideally, in my opinion, every adult should warn a child for their wrong doing no matter the relation. Every child should be thought of as all our children. I've scolded a few children of strangers in a public store that I worked at. It is for the benefit of the child.

i guess u have the right to say stuff to discipline them. but frist u need to talk to ur spouses about it.

Of course you have the right as their step mom. But make sure and let them understand that want you're doing is for their own good. And try not to harm them physically, particularly these kids was never been whipped by their true parents. And let them feel that you're a mom to them and you're a shoulder to lean on at times they have their personal problem.

Well.. i guess YES! because for me they are the second parent of the child. if i were the child i would rather listen to them respect them than to fight them back.. i can say that im really thankful that they adopted me to be their child.. for me they the right to correct but not to abuse the child..

At 13 if they have never been disciplined you might as well pack your bags and move out because things are only going to get a lot worse. If you husband doesn't have enough respect for you to correct the kids or back you up when you do than I would ask why are you even there?