The more you hate, The more you love

@gaiza12 (4884)
Philippines
September 5, 2010 7:20pm CST
Do you believe in this saying? When you really hate someone does it really mean you love that person? The homily of our parish priest said that he believes in this saying. The more you hate the person for doing things that you know can do nothing good to him means you care for that person and caring means you show your love to him/her. Sometimes you just get too emotional when it comes to love. Sometimes you hate the person too much because you love him too much and the deed he made has hurt you very much. And no matter how hurt you may be you are still willing to accept forgiveness.
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@dogsnme (1264)
• United States
6 Sep 10
No, I totally disagree. Hatred and love are total opposites. Also, assuming that you are speaking from a religious point of view since you mentioned your parish priest hatred comes from the devil and love, real true love comes from God. Put simply, hatred is an absence of love. You either hate someone or you love them. It can't be both ways. Now, maybe your priest is really trying to say that sometimes the actions of others can anger us so much that it seems as if we hate them. That I can believe. It doesn't mean we really hate them. It's just that our anger toward them is so great that it seems as if it will boil over into hatred. And I believe sometimes that is possible if we let that anger get the best of us. Or, maybe he is referring to hating the bad things they do. Even God himself can be angry but that doesn't change the fact that he loves us all equally. God loves us dearly but he hates our sin. But, it is impossible to love and hate someone at the same time. That you can be sure of.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
Well what i mean was he believed in the saying..i only made my own stand on the saying. But you are correct..and yes you have made your stand so strong that my im having 2nd thoughts on believing on the saying now :P Thanks for sharing..again i learned something new today! :)
@dogsnme (1264)
• United States
6 Sep 10
Oops! Sorry if my response came out wrong. I know you were just stating what he believes. But, thanks for your comment. And I'm glad I was able to help you learn something new. If you want to learn more about love from God's point of view read the Bible especially the New Testament.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
It's ok..i know i will be learning something that's why im asking for your opinions. And yes, i do read the bible, but im still on the old testament..i want to read it from cover to cover. Many thanks. Have a good day :)
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
7 Sep 10
Yes, it is correct. That's one of the reason I don't want to hate. Also, hating others is like a cancer in the body, it will eat away our spirit and life.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Hating is not bad for those who has hurt you..i think its normal to hate someone. But if you are a kind hearted person then i think you have never felt being hurt and hated someone in your life ever. Stay as kind as you are then.. Thanks for sharing :)
@jennyze (7028)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 10
Oh, I do hate, but I don't like it. So, I make it a point to forget my hate, as soon as possible so it will not become a cancer in the heart.
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
The people we love are the ones who can hurt us the most because they are in the softest and most tender part of our hearts. Hate and love are both passions, and as such, they are not opposites. You can love and hate a person both at the same time. The degree of love or hatred that you feel for the person depends on how passionate you are about him or her. The opposite of love is indifference, when you no longer care about the other person.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
6 Sep 10
There is a thin line between love and hate. they are both powerful emotions that can control our minds and hearts. If we hate too much, it brings bitterness and frustration to our lives. It can change our behavior away from what we want to be. The more we can love, the more our caring and compassion for others can shine. I don't think we love more by hating more and we don't hate more by loving more. Crossing the line between love and hate is a choice we have to make and what we have to live with.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
You also have a point here.. But sometimes we hate the person we love for doing something stupid like driving while drunk which i could say could push a bad conversation which would then lead to hating that person for doing the act. We hate because we care too much and because we know we love the person.
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
The saying bears some truth based from what I've experienced. Even the angriest person I encountered had me as a friend despite our fights during the past. Because hate is a temporary thing that is not concrete that it can't be controlled, love always have a chance to return to a person's heart. It is because as humans, we can choose freely what kind of emotion we feel.
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I agree..well we can't fell both emotions at the same time but for sure we get very high emotions for our loved ones. We can control the hate after everything has already been settled and talked to.. Thanks for sharing
• India
6 Sep 10
hatred and love are good friendz but some time the intensions makes us so worst that we could not control of hatred feel then start making cruel intensions sometimes the opposite loving each other in the most case
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
6 Sep 10
I think this is true. A stranger can't make your tears drop. You will care about the one who you love the most. So once there is something wrong with it, you will feel so hurtful. And many emotions such as the anger, rage and so on. I love China
@dhawanbm (3705)
• India
7 Sep 10
once in the life you dislike and hate a person its for ever and you cannot change the life style and liking, its better to be off with the limits of life!
@atv818 (1980)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Sep 10
In my opinion, they can never be the same because they are extreme opposites except in some occasions when you hate the person because he/she is successful. This means that you are envious and you ached to become successful yourself. Sometime you crave to be more successful than them.
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
For human level , hate and love those mix together sometime.During the early courtship the love brossom and love is high , and the end of the relationship , the love cease and hatred start to settle in , the feeling of being betrayed like in adultery affairs will increase and such.Your can see many examples in celebrity divorce and such. Love and hate do collate and cause more pain.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Well yes, i think for those whose relationship don't end happily, what you are saying is true. But i still think that love and hate are two feelings that we all feel when we are in a relationship. Thanks for sharing :)
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I disagree with this saying. Sorry. :) For me, if I really hate someone, rest assured I really hate someone. I abhor someone or I disses someone. Its a black and white thing for me. Nothing in between. Yes means yes, No means No. :)
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Ok, i respect your opinion. Yes to you mean really yes and No is really no :D Thanks for sharing
• Portugal
6 Sep 10
to hate really i dont know bcs when we hate someone bcs of love we hate bcs that person is acting stupid to us so we feel sad and hate bcs we love but sometimes there are people that hate others bcs they stole guy they loved or other reasons. hate is not just for people we love i guess but sometimes it is true :) bcs to hate someone we need to love much first but also there are people that hate for other reasons that is not bcs love them but bcs of jealous or envy.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Well yes, you have a point too. Not all the hate only pertains to your partner. You can also hate for other reasons. You can always hate someone from stealing something to valuable to you and you can never love them in return..
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
It depends on the situation, I guess. People are mysterious creatures, logically, why hate and love at the same time? Maybe because their hearts are longing for love from the person they hate or vice versa.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Because i think when we love someone, our emotions are triggered to the highest extremes that even when we feel hate towards that person in one time..in the end our love still will prevail. Happy myLotting :)
6 Sep 10
for some reason it may be true. for me the more you hate the more and more you become angry. the more you love means that you care, love and give your everything to that person. its takes all the effort of anyone to love another person and when you are in that kind of situation you are able to deal with it because you want something better to waht is going on that is why you feel the hatred just to warn that person of not doing such. its really the good and not the bad thing that makes you upset.
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Yes i was thinking of hating the person in a positive way or in a way to correct the thing he did wrong..