Who will take care of your parents when they get old?

hey nice topic santos... we have to take care of them.......they have done alot for us and we now are in this position only because of them....i din't understand how people doesn't take care and are busy with their own life's....i do discuss this with my sister even

well i am the only child so definitely i am the one to take care of them actually i am already doing so, my mom is over sixty already and i would take care of her if it is possible forever

I really want to take care of my parents when they are older. I was the first child, and the only female. As the oldest child, I shall take care of my parents. But according to tradition, a girl, are not obliged to care for the elderly. Because as women, should ask for approval of their husbands. I hope that my husband gave me permission, to care for my parents.

Yes we did. My youngest brother will take care of our parent. But not the whole responsibility will be shouldered by my brother. We agreed that we still be there to help our brother in taking care of our parents. And I'm strongly agree to you that we must return our gratitude to our parents for having us here by taking care of them when they get old.

This is one of the most endangered times we are in these days. I Think it is very important to make sure that we love our parents as they have loved us. They would have cried when we were hurt a little, they laughed when we laughed. The most important part would be to be doubtless when it comes to serving them in need. I don't know how it matters to others, but I have left my job now as my dad is not well. I have decided to stay with him in Hospital till the time He is healthy and back to his best.

I have thought a lot about this thing and discussed it with my brother. It's good to find out that we are on the same boat when we discussed it. I preferred to take care of my parents as they grow old, not just because they are my parents and out of gratitude but it is because of my love for them. I cannot afford to see my parents in a old for the aged house. I claim it as my responsibility for them, to take care of them and give them the right care that they deserved and return all the goodness they have shown, the love and the care they have given me.

The situation my husband and I are in is a difficult one. His parents are still together, my parents aren't. We would be taking care of his parents because his half sibling probably wouldn't that and we would be closer. My mother and father are not together as I said before. I am my father's only child. I am the third child of my mother, but my brother has already passed and so that leaves my sister and I. My sister and I aren't very particularly fond of my mother. We love her but she can be a bit to handle. I am not sure who would take care of her husband's parents but they are closer to the age of needing help but they are also in another state. As I said I am my father's only child and so I am not quite sure what we would do. Most likely put him in a nursing home when the time comes he needs to go somewhere, but we'd put him in one as close to us as possible, so that everyone would be grouped together. Honestly, we just need a BIG house and move them all in lol.

i think we'll do it together, i mean me and my sister. there's only two of us girls in the family....so we're definitely gonna need each other in everything in life when we grow older. we actually have plans to stay in the same area as much as possible, maybe not in the same house when we have families of our own, but definitely not too far away.

I actually tend to believe that this is going to be somewhat of a fight with my siblings and myself when that time comes. However, the fight that I see happening is that we all want to take care of our mother when she is older. We were raised in a one-parent house and our mother has always been more than generous to us and we also saw how she was with her mother in her later years and we all want to be able to do this for our mother as well.

Here in the Philippines we prefer to take care of our parents when they get old. Traditionally and it's our custom to do so. We love to have our parents with us whenever we can.

I am the eldest child too.., and we actually had this topic discussed between my younger siblings informally.., all of us didn't have any arguments about it.. we all are willing to do our share in taking care of our parents when they become older.. =)

the children s are responsible in taking good care of parents as a child also I already think that situation since our parents take care of us since when we are small it is the time to pay back their sacrifices they done for us... parents should be loved and respect regardless of their age and try to understand their situations..

of course... here in my country, Philippines, it goes without saying. We take care of our parents when they are old and unable to do things anymore. We do not call it responsibility, it's part of loving our parents and we are happy to serve them and take care of them. It doesn't matter if you are the eldest or the youngest or middle.

Both my younger brother and I have decided to take care of our parents when they are too old to take care of themselves. Since they've given so much to me and my brother, it's our turn to repay them.

It is a concern of mine. I love my mom dearly and don't mind doing for her. I have suggested that she sells her house and gets an addition built onto mine so she can have her own place but have me right there with her. She says no to the idea. I don't blame her for not wanting to give up her home. I have a home too and don't want to give it up neither. If I sold my house to move in with her and take care of her, I would then not have a home. Some would say I should then have my moms house. I have two sisters. When something happens to my mom, her assets get split three ways. Some would say they should help my mom, they can't. They both live far away, in other states. I am the only one here to help my mom. I actually don't mind helping her, she helps me out alot too. I also actually feel sorry for my two sisters, they are missing out on so much. Our moms health is not real good, we are not going to have her forever. I spend lots of time with her, we do lots of things together. They don't get that. They still remember being her daughter, they don't have memories of being her friend.

I think that both of my brothers as well as myself, will all share in the responsibility of caring for my parents when they are older and need our assistance more. As far as which of us will be the primary care-giver, I am sure that when the time coes it will largely fall on the one of us that is the closest to them at that time. If it ever gets to a point where they need more extensive care from us, I think that we would all try to get my parents to move closer to me because I am the one with the most experience in caregiving and probably the one with the most time and patience to take care of them. As it is right now, my younger brother still lives at home, my older brother lives about 4 hours away, and I am the farthest away at about 11 hours. My younger brother is talking about pursuing a career in the military, which would put him aho knows how far away, my older brother is a teacher, and is always busy, and I work for myself and have fairly flxible hours. So, although I am currently the farthest away, between having a more felxible schedule and the experience i have in caregiving, if my parents needed the help, I think that the best option would be for them to move near me.

You know my friend..it is responsible for the sons and daughter to take care of their parents... As God, said children take of their parents when they are old. We as their children, and witness their love and affection with should and must take care our parents when they are old...It's a God, commandments that we should follow if your a christian have a great day!

We never like to think of our parents as being too old to care for themselves. unfortunately, that time does come for many. the children are often left to decide how to take care of their parents. I am the oldest of four children. I am sure that if this time came , the burden would probably fall on my shoulders. My siblings would probably look to me for this concern because I am the oldest. Siblings should work together to support their parents and each other. The task should not only belong to one, but to the family as a whole.

Of coarse I have given this much thought already and the answer is that I will take care of them still it is really hard to imagine my parents old because they are still so young well to me anyway. I am also the oldest sibling and I also feel that I have to take the responsibility of providing for my parents, but hopefully I will be able to do it because I am so worried what if I never get a job the economy is just so bad now a days. I wish that the economy would get fixed and that I would have a job already I mean I am eighteen and I still don't have a job and before I know it I will be nineteen it's just really scaring me right now because I want to be able to make money so that I could be able to take care of myself to provide for myself and then when my parents need to be taken care of I will provide for them that is also what my mom wants I don't really know what my dad wants, but I guess he would like it too so that he could relax and he won't have to be a provider no more. Good question really enjoyed responding, thank you.

Hi santosmarichris! This is a very nice topic u have. I think approaches on this matter will vary depending on the cultural backgrounds of the individuals concerned. In our culture, there is a very strong bond between family members so much so that kins are living together inside a compound or even in the same house. However, I also believe that a greater impact will also depend upon how the parents set themselves as example to their children: did they took care of their parents well in the eyes of their children? :)