why do people hurt others? and give them pain?

Hi, People don't hurt us unless they are dissatisfied themselves. People who are frustrated and vulnerable often suffer from a lack of self esteem. Due to this lack of self esteem they want to regain their confidence by belittling others. Inner frustration often gives a very bitter and unpleasant sensation. When this sensation reaches beyond a certain tolerable limit the person starts behaving in anomalous ways. I've studied this in great details and even wrote an article http://www.bukisa.com/articles/348782_why-do-people-behave-badly on this. How do you expect a sad person to spread happiness in his surroundings? One can only give you something that one oneself possesses. If there is no happiness in one's own life, how can you expect to get happiness from him? Similarly, only a strong person can make you strong. People with weak mentalities always suck energy and self confidence from you. Even if you are a happy person, mixing up with negative minded people will make you melancholic. Thanks. God bless you.

It depends on the reason why they are doing that. There are some people who tend to hurt but they are not doing it intentionally. There are also some who would do that cause putting other people down makes them feel better about themselves.

Yes Ggeeta, modesty and polished way of speaking is the most delicate part of human behaviour that a large number of people do not know! It spends nothing, but purchases the other person by heart! But in the other way, many saddist people keep a distance from this and torture people by words and activities also! They are, I may say, mentally or emotionally ill persons. To cure them, it needs a lot of counselling as well as interactions! Thanks for this nice topic and have good speaking friends always!!

Hi ggeeta. i,m sorry to hear that you are going through this pain. sometimes people are so obsorbed with their own feelings that they forget the feelings of others.But i always say that i,m not going to allow the rude behavior of others to dictate my happiness. i believe that it,s up to us how much power we give to those around us. Remember that although God allows bad things to happen to us he,s by no means happy, he does not keep quiet but instead gives us the ability to cope and move on. you just need to understand that we live in a imperfect world filled with imperfect people. Please safegaurd your heart. I wish you all the best.

We are living in a world of confusion. Days have become so bad that we cannot judge a good and a bad person these days. Gone is the proverb of "Face is the index of mind". It has become a very easy task of some special persons just to hurt and give trouble.May be they enjoy or wantedly they do this,which is also very difficult to analyze.

This people are cruel and have own bitterness in them properly they themselves are victim to cruel abuse in their younger life and now want other to suffer the same fate.So are proud and maybe too rich and love to look down at people.Majority of this people have inner pain and no peace.Their bitterness sweep out and affect other people beside them.

Dear firend,this is really a tough situation when we are hurt by people who are close to us.I also have such experience when people that I care about say mean words and makes me really sad.However,we have to realize that sometimes there may be misunderstanding between people who hurt us and ourselves.I don't think that getting angry and heart-broken can work things out.Sometimes we need a talk with those who hurt us and communication is better than alienation.If we are really sincere,we may find that others are not meant to hurt us.It is probably that some people can't control their temper well and say things that hurt us,which they think is not a big deal in their own ways.As far as I am concerned,we should not grow complaint and resentment when we come across these things.Anyway,whether to live a happy life depends on oursleves.Hope that my advice can give you some help.

I think a lot of people that hurt others are victims themselves. Life has many ugly cycles, but this is just one of the most ugly cycles in life, all things considered. People get hurt and they get frustrated. A fair few of them vow never to be like that, but they become twisted and bitter. Thus they see the world in the wrong way. They see since they got hurt, it should be okay to hurt other people. Is this for the right reasons? Of course not. Still this reason is becoming all too common. I wish it was not the case. I really wish that it was not the case, but life is just like this a lot of the time. Often times, its not for any reason at all, just a lot of people are mean spirited and twisted. The pain that humanity causes to each other in general continues and life is horrific in this way.

it's our human nature already that to be hurt and to get hurt co'z I think people do all ways to make himself/herself to be happy regardless they can hurt anybody else sometimes people are selfish just to think the best for their self not to think the effects of this to others.

People are not intentionally hearting other. There are some reasons the people hurt others or the situation is responsible that we feel that the people hurts other. Sometimes incidently people are hurt by others. I will never like to hurt the others & give them pain.

Sometimes they hurt to prove a point,sometimes people hurt without wanting to,because they forgot where the boarders were,and sometimes people hurt,because at times they're pure evil,some people snap and got nothing good in them anymore :)

Hurting people hurt. It's like domino effect. More often than not, it is at their sub-conscious mind to also hurt others thus having a release of their own pain. Of course what they are having through doesn't justify their behavior, only that it's another way of consoling ourselves and understand that they themselves are also hurting in one way or another. Let's talk about you being hurt. Since you are also asking God why it happened to you, have you thought about the possibility that God might be dealing with you and that he wants you to increase your patience and tolerance to the unfair treatment of other persons? And that He might as well teaching you to give the matter to Him and change your attitude towards the injustice thus make you a better person that he wants you to be? Think about it, cos I myself have been through a lot of pain caused by others.However, in my prayers, I would always ask God to hunmble me and create in me the heart that He wants me to have. In time, I've soon realized that He himself worked things out for my good plus a change in my attitude.^^,

I certainly I understand your feelings ggeeta. We always have the right to be angry but we have no right at all to be cruel.. :) If someone hurt you, instead of planning to take revenge, why dont you try to understand the person hurting you or try to analyze the situation. There are a lot of reasons behind. Maybe you did also wrong or maybe the person is really having an attitude problem. People ussually commit mistakes when they are in the peak of their anger or when they are emotionally unstable.. The behavior of the person is also reflected with the environment he or she lived with. So instead of crying over spilt milk because of what he did, just try to ignore that person.. and always pray to God.. but the best medicine to lessen the pain is to let it out.. When you can already handle the situation, confront the person and settle the issue.. Hope you'll be fine... :)