I don't receive any comments or" likes" to anything that I may write on my wall.
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
September 11, 2010 12:39pm CST
When I am on facebook, I may write a quotation on my wall. And the quotation or remark is something that is interesting and inspirational. I know that many people don't like the same things. I just don't understand how I don't get any "likes" or comments to a post that I have made on my wall. Or if I share a news story or a video with my friends and my family on facebook. If I was to come to myLot and post the same thing, I will at least get more comments here than I do on facebook. I have seen many of my friends and family members make many posts on their wall and they get comments and likes. But no one does it on my wall at all. I even have a cousin that is less than 22 years old. And when she makes a post, and if I may find it interesting, I will leave her a comment. She won't even respond at all. Yet when another one of my cousin leaves her a comment, she will respond. It really makes me feel bad. I know that I am not a hated person. So why do people just ignore me. I do understand that many people are not always on facebook quite often. But for the ones that do see my post and are present, it would be nice to get some feedback from time to time. It is like I am selling a product in the store and no one never buys my product. I feel at loss here. I love myLot. I fell in love with myLot because you all on here are not afraid to comment on any of my discussions. You give me attention and you show me that I am favorable in your eyesight. I just feel like I don't belong on facebook. I feel so left out. I have been treated like this for a very long time. I don't think that many people care for me that much. Even my own family members.
What am I doing wrong? What is so bad about me that people don't want to show me any appreciation or admiration for any comments that I may make? I don't always expect a comment or a like. But it would be nice to have one from time to time though.
What am I doing wrong? What is so bad about me that people don't want to show me any appreciation or admiration for any comments that I may make? I don't always expect a comment or a like. But it would be nice to have one from time to time though.3 people like this
17 responses
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
12 Sep 10
i have the same prob! i was off of fb for a long time because i was in the hospital for a week (which at the time i didnt want to announce and worry everyone) and then when i tried getting back into it it seemed like i was just seeing junk and not anything from friends (i prob should just unlike some places lol) so the most i get around to is updating via blackberry which means i cant do crap on there.. and now i have been having problems getting notifies since august 16th!! i dont get many replies or should i say a lot of my stuff is not responded to such as links etc and i was wondering if i was getting the cold shoulder for being not around for everyone.. ive been trying to do better but going through so much in life its like the last thing i have time to do!! and i mostly just update not to be selfish and ignore others but focus on myself but in a way to let my friends and family know im still alive and kicking lol
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
12 Sep 10
i wouldn't take it personally.yea it sucks,but some people just don't.
i have a bunch of friends(and cousins) that do that,once in a blue moon they chime in,but it's rare.often because they're too busy playing games or not paying attention to the feed.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Sep 10
hi cream maybe they are like me I am so new on facebook I need to study all the ins and outs of it. If I recognized your user name on facebook I would surely write on your wall and give you a like. I love mylot because we can be friends and discuss back and forth, but so many of my friends from here I do notknow their realnames so it makes it hard to add names that I do not recognize from mylot users names.
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@BRIIENA (23)
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12 Sep 10
FACEBOOK is simply that...it all about you. You can post whatever you like, and if you get no responses doesnt mean that no one is interested...they may have just missed it. Do you play games on FACEBOOK? If you do then you will understand.
Suggestion: try the different discussion boards that they have on facebook. It is not as extensive as this one but at least you can find a topic that INTEREST you.
@missybear (11391)
• United States
12 Sep 10
Maybe you're not posting it in the right place.
My girlfriend is new to facebook and she always write son her wall too but nobody can see it unless you go there.
You need to right on the home page so every one can see your post.
I hope that was the problem cause I sure would write to you if I was your friend on Facebook
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
12 Sep 10
That's one of the reason why I hate facebook. It could just be another avenue for some people to be mean.
If I were you, don't take it personally. Change your view of facebook. Don't make it as a site to get your validation. Instead, just make it a site for expression. For you to write quotations that you like, or a site to save pictures or videos that you'd like to remember.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
11 Sep 10
Hi cream97, hope you are well. I know how you feel about people not commenting on Facebook when you've made the effort to do so yourself. I suppose they are mirroring what they are like in real life, perhaps?
I got that fed up of people not responding (but responding to others) that I cancelled my Facebook account in the end. My hubby uses it, his friends use it but I can't be bothered..and I can honestly say I don't miss it either.
I'm not suggesting that you cancel your account but the option is there if you wish to do so. It's not compulsory to be on Facebook is it? I find it funny when I see someone that I've not seen for ages and they actually ASK ME FACE TO FACE how I am! Fancy that!!
I got that fed up of people not responding (but responding to others) that I cancelled my Facebook account in the end. My hubby uses it, his friends use it but I can't be bothered..and I can honestly say I don't miss it either.
I'm not suggesting that you cancel your account but the option is there if you wish to do so. It's not compulsory to be on Facebook is it? I find it funny when I see someone that I've not seen for ages and they actually ASK ME FACE TO FACE how I am! Fancy that!!1 person likes this
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
Hi Cream!
Don't feel too bad about it. A lot of people here in Mylot likes you and your posts. Sometimes no matter how good or nice you are to other people you cant expect the same thing from them. Not everyone will like you. I used to feel bad before whenever someone even a new acquaintance seems not to like me but not anymore. I learned to like and appreciate my self. I know I'm a good person inside and people who loves me and cares for me are lucky. lolz. I think that way so that I will not feel bad when someone ignores me.
I used to have a lot of friends and always wanted to be liked by everyone. I still have a lot of friends but just have a chosen few whom I share almost my entire life with- my happiness, sorrows, pains, failures and success. Love your self and be the best person you can be no matter how other people treat you. In the end what matters is you know you are good inside. It's better not to be liked for being you rather than being like for being a pretender or someone you are not.
Have a nice day always Cream!!!
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
11 Sep 10
Let's face it that others might not find it interesting. I am experiencing that as well but of course I understand them first.
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@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
...i understand how you feel..that is what's best here in mylot...i don't care whatever will be the reason, but it's good to see your discussions got some comments or feedback or responses on it...with regards to the facebook matters..maybe they just don't like to make any comments or responses to your post...don't make it a big deal, im pretty sure it has nothing personal..just keep on posting everything that interest you..one way or another, your friends in facebook will find one that interest them and will surely respond or comment or perhaps like it..=)
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@darapmonsta (653)
• India
12 Sep 10
try to get more people read your quotes as possible try to make ur status update when most of the people are online, write mostly about people on facebook, write funny quotes, the more you update daily the more comments you will get, try uploading funny pic.s and tag your friends as many as possible this will increase your comments and likings and people will recognise you on facebook.
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@spalladino (17891)
• United States
11 Sep 10
It's not you cream, please don't take this upon your shoulders! Didn't you post something before about not being very close to some of your family members...or am I thinking of someone else? I have friends on facebook who do the same thing...they only respond to comments made under their posts and not to all of them. I don't post much on facebook but I do communicate with my friends and family who do. I heard something on the news about people on facebook being self-centered and are only interested in what's going on in their lives or what interests them.
@much2say (55606)
• Los Angeles, California
11 Sep 10
Hi cream97! Could it be the timing of your posts? I find that I get a better response if I post stuff in the morning or during lunchtime (when people check their emails or Facebook). Other times, stuff gets lost in the newsfeed and not everyone will scroll through the whole thing to read everything. Have you tried posting a question with your comment? I've noticed some people don't comment back unless they are asked something. I know some people are just too busy to write anything too . . . they lurk but don't say anything. I am the type of person who comments everywhere and tries not to miss a thing . . . and I'll comment whenever possible. I used to feel sort of left out when they didn't comment back, but now I don't take it personally . . . I don't have as much time to be on Facebook like I was, so now I'm one of the ones who don't comment (as much) anymore. And yah, I enjoy myLot comments too!
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@parrot2010 (812)
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11 Sep 10
Maybe they don't find your posts interesting or they are busy with so many other posts that they haven't even noticed. Some people have 500+ friends (something which I think is completely pointless), and they'll be having a hard time replying to everyone, they're the ones on all day. Add some friends who you are close to.
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