what if you discovered that your wife lied to you about her virginity?

I believe that a woman does not need to divulge her personal matters especially when it comes to virginity. So what if she lied about her virginity? Are you going to file a divorce just because of that? What are you gonna do for it? Let us say YES! she lied but then as I said it is still a personal matter that you must still respect. Other guys wants to marry a virgin just because it is their victory to be the first one who did it for a woman which is non sense at all. In the first place women are not trophies, they are human that should be loved and respect that gives importance with their dignity.

It is so hard to say actually. But I think, when you love someone, when you want to marry someone, marry with the person. Marry the one that you have been so in love with you, till you decide to marry her/him. There is nothing to do with virginity. How can you prove someone is a virgin? Well, it might be easy to find a woman is a virgin or not, but how can we, girls, find out that a man that we are going to marry is a virgin? If a virginity of a woman is only judge by the hymen that each woman should have.. I think it is stupid. We all know that a girl can be born without hymen at all. Let's get back to business.. What I want to tell is actually this.. You marry a virgin or not, it is you and your partner that know. You can tell your parents that you marry a virgin. They will not know. I am sorry, I am not saying this to make you lie to your parents. But in my opinion, it is the person that you marry, not the virginity. What is that all? You know what? We all can lost our virginity in just 3-second time. I don't bother about virginity thing much. I think virginity is one of a hundred things that should be considered to marry someone.

Well... I would consider it much worse to allow the ideas and expectations of other people to come between me and someone I wanted or planned to marry. In my opinion it is nobody's business but mine and the person I have a relationship with. It is none of anybody else's business whatsoever whether either of us are virgins, neither of us are virgins, etc etc. That's not info I would share with my parents, not info I would share with my friends if they ASKED me... Whatever your mum believes is fine with her, but that doesn't mean you believe it or agree, and you shouldn't feel obligated. Bottom line, if someone lied to me BECAUSE they were worried about what other people would think, I would be angry at them for bowing or cowering to other people - AND at the other people for causing them to feel that way enough to LIE about something that isn't even a big deal.

If I were a man, I think I wouldn't really care at all. The most important thing is not her virginity but her whole being as a person.

I guess for men, most men if not all , they wanted to marry a virgin. It is a pride for them that they are the very first man in their spouses lives. For the girls, however, we always wanted to marry the first guy we trusted our everything. But, how to when most men, if not all wanted to have an edge or get a score even if not married to their partners yet? If your wife lied to you about her virginity? Then, there's nothing you can do about it. Just think of it this way, she doesn't want to lie about it but given the kind of bias society we have and for that love she has for you, she'll lie about it in order not to lose you. It is a stupid risk to take, though. If you love your wife, virgin or not, you will still love her.:) And here is one argument I always have with my husband: IF YOU,MEN, WANTED TO MARRY A VIRGIN, THEN DON'T TAKE HER VIRGINITY WHEN YOU ARE NOT SURE OF YOURSELF THAT YOU'LL MARRY THAT GIRL... If men can keep their hands off the virgins, then, chances are there'll be virgins available for so-into-virgins men to marry.:)

There are many reasons that a woman might lie to her partner about her virginity. She may be embarrassed by it. Also, she may be afrsid of losing her partner because they were not the first one she was intimate with. We shouldn't feel shame about this, but it does happen. There could be a justified reason for discovering why a woman lied to you about her virginity. Then again, there could be no reason at all.

Well, it would be great if you could marry a girl who is a virgin, but truth be told, at least in my country, not all girls are virgins, or very few keep their virginity until marriage. In fact, most men in my country, love girls who put out. I think that it's stupid, because girls should put out that fast, they should have respect for themselves. To me, if you love her, then you should be with her no matter what the circumstances. You don't know what her life may have been like before she met you. She could have had a crummy life before she met you, but maybe she has changed and she wants to forget about her terrible past. If you love her, you won't care if she is a virgin or not.

The issue is lying and NOT what the lying is about. A marriage must be based on trust and love. If trust is present, then love may follow. If love is present, then a lack of trust will destroy it. If a girl (or her parents or relatives) lies about her virginity in order to get you to marry her, then you have been deceived and - depending on how much else you have been deceived about - the marriage could be considered invalid.

im a girl and i like guys but can i let my comment still? :) is just that i like your opinion^^ marry a virgin girl is not a big deal you know what? bcs first you can think she is virgin and maybe she is not anymore. also virgin is not important what is important is the love the girl has for you^^ sometimes you can marry a virgin girl and be unhappy with her and you can love a girl that is not virgin anymore and maybe she loves you too and you lose the chance to be with her just to marry a virgin one^^ dont care for it :) just care for love you and her will feel^^

I don't think this is a big deal, anymore, as people are more receptive and people are more openminded about this and marriage. I think what counts more when it comes to marriage is your ability to sustain it. Virginity, alone, cannot sustain it. I doubt if it can sustain it, at all. I don't see what the big deal is with virginity, anyway. It doesn't define the person.