My Cousin is Falling In love with my Cousin.
By Turingskie
@Turingskie (387)
Philippines
September 14, 2010 12:17am CST
I have two separate Cousins one is from my mother she's a girl side and one is from my father side a boy.
We had a reunion on my father side last year and i invited my cousin girl on the reunion. During the night of reunion my cousin girl met my cousin boy and they have found each other so comfortable. A few months later i was surprised on what happened. I found out that they having affair with each other. Boyfriend and Girlfriend. The question is Is it Okay to have a relationship between my both cousins? Is it Sin or Not? I need your advice guys.
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9 responses
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
hi turing,
i just learned that cousins cannot or are not supposed to marry each other especially if they are first and second cousins. that has been my general assessment or rather, what was told to me by the elders. i also learned that relationships like that will develop children with birth defects and abnormalities.
but while reading i understood something about blood lines.
i know of a friend who has married his first cousin. but i saw that all their children are healthy and also their children's children. i still have to ask him whether they are not of the same bloodlines. 
if it is a sin or not? catholic faith prohibits this kind of union.
ann
but while reading i understood something about blood lines.
i know of a friend who has married his first cousin. but i saw that all their children are healthy and also their children's children. i still have to ask him whether they are not of the same bloodlines.
if it is a sin or not? catholic faith prohibits this kind of union.
ann@Turingskie (387)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Hi tigeraunt! thanks for your response. anyways no they don't have the same bloodlines.maybe and hoping both parents will granted them for what they feel for each other
@glitterwings (144)
• United States
17 Sep 10
From the posters discussion, it is clear that they are not blood related at all, so they aren't even cousins. So it's not sinful.
@emilylengriffin (22)
• United States
19 Sep 10
well, legally they are family but they aren't related when it comes to the bloodline.
@davenhearst (327)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
It is ok for them to have a relationship because there is no blood relationship between the m it's just coincidence that they are both your cousin in different sides what's is the matter of that? There's no such a big deal if they have love each other
@davenhearst (327)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
thanks for the comment melodizachavez in addition each of us have the right to love in the right time, in the right place and with the right person.
@melodizachavez (51)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
you are always welcome davenhearst :)....and with regards to that addition i once again agree with you :)indeed it is always our right to love and be loved as well. God bless once again......... :)
@melodizachavez (51)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
i super agree with davenhearst. There's no big deal if they will going to have an affair. As long as they are both single,love/like each other,,?? why not..? They're from different sides...its okay... So dont be worried about it... it's not a sin :) God bless
@ruperto (1552)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
I think there is a medical reason why third cousins (and further) may marry and raise kids.
Perhaps first and second cousins as spouses better opt to adopt children if they really can't avoid becoming a couple. They say there will be development defects in children of (1st and 2nd cousins)
But then again perhaps its only me? Perhaps I was absent when they taught about this in school.
What do you think ?
@Turingskie (387)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
Yeah I'm aware of cousins as a couple that they children development will having a defects like abnormalities. It is because of the genes that carried beyond two persons they say because of the same blood.. but in my case My cousins don't have the same genes. One is from my mother side and the other one is from my father side.My question is is it okay to have a relationship between my cousin in mother side and cousin from my father side?
@Midnightsky (89)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
hmmm..on my opinion there's nothing wrong with it, since, they're not blood related anyway also there family ties is distant..one thing I can say to you is "love was never a sin--to love and be loved is not a sin---it's a gift" it actually depends on how you yourself see the situation, if it makes you uncomfortable, seeing both of them together then that is a problem
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
14 Sep 10
these days this thing happens.In your case at least they are related through you and not directly.If u are not interested in any one of them then its all right, You know what I mean,ahhahahahahahah,
have a nice day
@crystalljj (1)
• China
14 Sep 10
They have no relationship in blood lineage,it's ok for them to have a relationship.
@Turingskie (387)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
so it is OK right? actually I'm too worried about them Because both parents are against on the relationships of the two.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
17 Mar 11
Hi. Turingskie. I believe that this is a sin. It is like incest to me. If you know that a person is your cousin, then it would not be wise to date them. Having a crush on another is okay, just as long as both cousins never pursue it. It is not okay to have a relationship with your cousin.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
27 Mar 13
Thanks for this discussion,here in my place such marriage is allowed, in some states of india it is common too.
@glitterwings (144)
• United States
17 Sep 10
They are not related in any way so I don't think it's a big deal. It's not sinful. Your parents got married and had you, and you have a cousin on each side, but they are not blood related. So it doesn't matter.
