Dealing with jealous/envious people

The feeling of being envious is a kind of resentment, getting angry on someone that posses something which the one who feels envy doesn't have. I know of some people who act like this. In my case, I will tell that person who is envious that there is a great opportunity on getting jealous of something because it will serve him as a motivation to do something and strive to get what he lacks. However, if he is just jealous and always criticizing without doing on his own, I will not be tired of counteracting his feeling. That is how I deal with them so that they may have also what they wanted and keeping them silent.

Yes I did, and a lot! Without telling what was done, that kind of thing even made me so down. Never thought that a person would do whatever to bring me down. I do agree not to care about it, but sometimes it's hard especially if what that person has done involve dealing with many people (e.g. he / she tell bad things about me to many people). But do not worry. There is one recepie my Dad gave me. "Even though all living beings in your life hate you, but God loves you, nothing nothing could stop you to be happy!" So, do the best and place everything under God's hands.

hi , i am a career woman , i think i have also achieved something in my life but i always see to it that i keep myself grounded. Meaning , when at home i wear the simplest clothes , when not at the office you cannot see me in nice clothes . I have been to many places , although not internationally. this achievements i considered is from the Lord and without Him I am nothing so i do not want others to see that i am superior in everything because the Lord says if you have more in life much is expected of you in return , so be humble.

Jealousy is usually a by product of insecurity and low self esteem. They just only jealous when you achieved something that they been wanting but they haven't done to get it. how to deal with them? Id rather choose to be happy and don't mind them. I don't let others actions affect me as long I know that I'm not doing something wrong with them. They just want to be me and jealous to my success and wish to be in my place and I will Pray for strength to do what is right and be happy of who I am

In my own personal experience, people who are envious with me usually have attitude problems and insecurities.These persons usually spread rumors, gossips and anything just to ruin my reputation. I am not a confrontational person so what I do is, I just ignore them and see to it that they will never ever be a part of my life again. Sometimes I approach them and ask them why they do something like that but most of the time I just keep quiet. People like them? Are not worth my time, so why waste it to them? Besides, this kind of people when told the truth are always narrow-minded. It's because envy and their insecurities are eating them up.

People who like that is normally they are jealousy. They want to achieve better as what you did but they cant'. Thats why get jealous...

Bluerain- There was a time where I had a very envious person that I had to deal with, and it came to the bottom line that "not dealing" with them became the best solution. As my husband is always telling me "Imitation is the highest form of flattery". At times it is that the person who is full of envy simply desires strongly to have something they do not have. It could be that perhaps they simply wish they could do the task in question or whatever the case may be. At times we can rectify this issue by speaking directly with the person, trying to teach them or help them achieve what is they desire that has caused them envy. At times there is simply no pleasing the person, so it is best to ignore them and cut off their source. It is difficult at times, but in the end it does work and we are better for it. Namaste-Anora

I do not envy anyone.I am soo happy with my life i tend not to notice what others have got,done,achieved,as i feel that i have got all the things i want,aswell as need in my life.I tend to not get involved listening to people that are like that.I have only met a few people like that and to be honest i am stuck at home,so i do not have to see them anymore.

I try not to be jealous of other people. Envy for what they have or who they are usually doesn't get you very far. Achieving things in my own way and time is much more productive than envy or jealousy of another.

Yes, I have found these kind of people, and it surprised me every time. I didn't think I could be envied Many of those people will try to hurt you with their attitude, as they can't stand others having what they want. In my case, I just ignore them or attack back if they make me really really angry, but mostly ignore, as they're not worth wasting my time.

Just ignore them! They just don't worth your time, that's why! Don't spend a little time on them. Envious really a waste of energy. Not to be proud of myself, but I don't feel that at all. All I do think is, when people get more, it means that they deserve that "more". It must be their part and my part will come soon. ^^

Well., I used to feel that some people felt that way for me.., when I was still a student.., I used to excel in school and my relatives are sort of insecure with what I had achieved.., and I believe they're waiting somewhere to see my downfall or expecting me to commit a mistake anytime..,and laugh about it.., well., i don't care.., as long as I do my own thing and make my parents proud of me..,I am happy..=)

I frequently experience a situation like that. Some of my friends jealous. At first I didn't understand, but with all the attitude and actions that denigrate me...I just noticed. Apparently they are envious of me. I do not know why they envy me, but I thought I was someone who really ordinary. Later I found out, apparently they initially underestimate me because of my appearance and low profile personality. After learning a few things about me that they consider above them, they probably thought was not received. They feel that they are much better than me or I had to stay below them. Sometimes I become emotional tried to make them more jealous. But, it make me more slumped, they make my character assassination. Later I already know more effective ways to face them. It's more quiet, calm and dignified is one of the key. Appearance is also key to the second no less important. At the time they provoke my emotions, I will just say nothing with a little smile, or pretend not to notice that they will brokenhearted feel unimportant and discouraged them before. We did not wrong to show with attitude and appearance (not necessarily with words) that we are entitles and deserve to be on top of them.

i envied with others sometimes, but im making it sure that i wont be making ways to harm them....unlike others who feel envy that they will do such thing to harm those people they are envied with....thats not good anymore, when i encountered this kind of people, i just find ways to stay away from them...

I believe that I was envied by other people to the extent that she can't handle my rebuttals during our argument and I was able to reveal the whole truth about her. Because she was a hypocrite enough who projects that she is a prim and proper but for real people have seen how cheap she is. I just don't want to mingle with people who can't even respect themselves.

well every body has it own right and if one in envious about you status in life then we could not do anything with it, the sad part is when he will do something bad to destroy your reputation

i have a friend who's like this. she just recently joined our group because she's one of the dude's girlfriend. it's really awkward whenever this couple argues/fights in front of us. she's such a b!tch too... she get's envious whenever one of our ladies' got something new. i'm like the resident assh0le and i can't do my thing to her. me and my bud might end up boxing each others ear if i do... but i try. trust me... i try. lol!

In His wisdom God created people with different temperaments, tendencies, good and bad natured etc.Why so He alone can tell. No two people are similar in appearance and nature.Even children of the same mother are different.But this world goes on whether you accept these facts or not.While living in a society we cannot avoid people whether they are good or bad.Envy/jealacy is also one of the qualities bestowed by God on men..Whether it is good or bad is different question.Any human nature cannot be hidden for long and it will come out sooner or later.We can know whether a particular person is envious about us very soon after coming in contact with him or her. The saying goes " we cannot change others but we change ourselves which is in our hands".The best way is to avoid them if possible or alternatively ignore them.

A lot many people are envy of me and I feel strongly this thing.I know this in my heart but when I meet such people I meet in a very cool way.I never understand why people instead of working hard on gaining that thing of which they are envy of others just sit and envy and waste their time.In my own family I know many people are envy of the excellent way I and my hubby are moving in our lives.I and my hubby are very simple and shy from nature and we always greet envy people in the best way we could even though we know they are not our well wishers.I wish God grants happiness to everyone and remove malice from everyone;s heart.Envy people should understand that You cannot change others destiny but can work hard in gaining good life for yoursel..

i've known people like, people who i thought were my friends. I just pray for them, and i thank God for the blessings and for not being like them. You're right, you really don't have to care too much about them, continue doing what you do best and whatever they do to pull you down you will still succeed because you're not putting people down.