Tips on How to get Over Love, trade some
By LIENROSE
@LIENROSE (910)
Philippines
September 15, 2010 4:22am CST
Love is a mere habit, of getting attached, of having someone around. Its an illusion of well being which eventually fades away or at least becomes less. One love that can be called sincere enough is the love for God. It is possible to forget all other forms of material love. If you can grow a habit, you also can grow a reverse habit. If there is a way to drugs, there must also be a way out.
Now, the forgetting process is voluntary and is highly dependent on what kind of break up you had with her. Treatments vary from person to person. One of my friends has to take medical aid to get over of a girl. I had to take 3 months to forget it and start an entirely new life. Its not that I am stronger than that friend of mine. I was just strategic about it.
12 responses
@rhodzptc (1317)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
One thing to do get over it is to find something that you could do to spend your time when you are alone like playing online games or watching movies. You must take note that you keep out from some places that where both of you have been, hearing music that reminds you of her or movies that you have watch together. But I guess the best idea to forget that is to focus yourself on your career or goal. When I was in your state I focus on this online earnings and make it as my a quest only to forget things about my EX.
@diane23 (10)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
yes i must agree that heartbreaks are really painful. Have had my fair share, and still am hopeful to find the right one. We, people never really give up searching for love, despite all the heartaches. Because we have the need to love and be love..as they say, no man is an island.. Love is a gamble, and like any other games it's either we lose or win.. At times we lose and have our hearts broken, but it's part of the game. You just have to have the courage to stand back up again, be strong and wish that by the next time you'll be lucky enough to win..:) Heartaches are there to make us stronger and wiser. It helps us to know more about ourselves and to realized that things happen for certain reasons.. Just let time heal all wounds and learn to forgive. Because with forgiveness it would be easier to forget and move on, and in the process you'll be forgiving yourself too..
I hope people could reflect on my comment 'coz this is the first comment i made here on mylot and it would really mean a lot if i am able to help..:)
@LIENROSE (910)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
I have forgiven the person but I can't forget... Huh Whatever changes he made in my life I'm happy with them but still why the hell I can't get over him I can't understand. He was almost a perfect guy but the things he did... I can't come out of them. I am happy with change but I seriously want to get over him. At the same time if someone else approaches me... Geeks I seriously don't like it and my past comes back in front of my eyes... It's been more than 1 year things are just outta mah mind...
@LIENROSE (910)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
This is probably the most important part of the whole process. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for treating yourself badly. Forgive yourself for choosing the wrong person in the first place. Forgive yourself for being so blind through all these days. Stop blaming yourself. You are just an ordinary man. Her love has put you in an illusion of grandeur. We are all normal human beings. We all have every right to make mistakes. If you've made a mistake so does everybody else. Nothing new in it. If they can get away with it you can. You have already got enough punishment for yourself. So just forgive yourself now.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
16 Sep 10
The best is to let it all out and grieve and express until you can no longer. Even still, you might still have them lingering in your broken heart. After that, is to try to change your focus to something else... a healthy distraction like a new hobby to better yourself, like dancing or going back to school.
@LIENROSE (910)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
The conclusion of the whole process starts by forgetting, and it totally depends on whether you have successfully completed the other two steps. If you have already forgiven the two persons involved in this mess, it will be easy to forget. If you are finding it difficult to forget, repeat the first two steps again. Think about your positive side, forget the humiliation. Lower your ego and forget the loss. You have lost something because something better is in store for you. Have faith in God. Heal yourself as you are the sole person strong enough to do that.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
It's not easy to forget something that has been formed through courtship. that's one thing I HATE in the relationship, there's no guarantee. and when the times that you feel already secured, the person would just dumped you off for another guy.,
@mauie0918 (337)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Yes you're right that depends on how you break up with the person and to get over is naturally. It happened to me many times when I was younger and of course I learned my lesson well.
@ZeXyRech (38)
•
15 Sep 10
I already experienced that situation. It's like, it took me too long, about a year, before I can get over with him. I proved to myself that I won't be able to get over him if I won't entertain new people in my life, if I'll just close my doors to anybody else knocking. So the best thing you can do after a break up is, after the 3-month period, open up your mind, feel awesome and wonderful and entertain those new people that are trying to come in your life. That's an effective way of bringing yourself back and getting over love.
@LIENROSE (910)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Forgive this person. Stop thinking about her being the sole cause of your sorrow. Just take a practical look. As you are a human being, you are imperfect and so is she. You can't expect her to be flawless as the only person who is flawless and complete is God. What she did was completely out of ignorance. May be she was the one to mess up the whole thing, but you should consider yourself fortunate that you were not the one who committed the offense of hurting someone. You are clean to yourself. Rather, you will elevate yourself higher by forgiving her. Which is one step towards being perfect. But if you don't forgive her now, you will remain as wretched and lonely as you were a few minutes before.
@maliwl (34)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I want to commend LIENROSE for that moving discussion.I myself am in a situation where i dont know whether to move on or stay in a realtionship.Its so heartbreaking to be far away from that person you love but everytime your together you mostly argue and fight and sometimes theres no resolution.I hope you can give me tips or what you call strategy in forgetting and erasing someone you love but loves to break your heart.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Nice post, others will learn from this and true enough love for God is one love that is sincere enough. If you have love for God you can get over everything.
@cobrayogesh (174)
• India
15 Sep 10
lol u r friend he really spent 3 months in a hosptal for a girl damn embarazzing to all the men on earth . but i ll forgive him if its true love
@davenhearst (327)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Breaking up in a relationship is very painful for us especially if we sincerely so in love with that person. Forgetting them is not easy and it's hard to heal a broken heart. Hope these suggestions may help you to navigate the painfully troubled waters of a relationship that has ended and help you heal a broken heart.Dump reminders of your ex. You absolutely must get rid of things that remind her. I recommend that throw them away totally however if this is hard to do, you should put them in an inaccessible place to avoid the temptation to take a lonely trip down memory lane. Surround yourself by people you love you need their support and it will remind you how special you are in them. Make your self busy find any kind of activities to make your mind busy not to think to your ex, go out with your friends and enjoy being with them. Think the negative attitudes of your ex to help your mind turn off of her and the last open your heart for everyone and still continue searching for the person that is worth for your love there's someone better come for you...
@crisybomb (172)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
thank you lienrose for posting this discussion. thank you for all the responds in this discussion. you guys mad me realize that is not over yet. i should take the pain as an experience and a challenge given to me by our Lord. maybe i should think about it as a trial, God doesn't give us challenge that we can not deal with. and maybe God direct me to this discussion for me to realize that life is beautiful and its not the end if i am hurt now. maybe He is tapping my shoulder and saying 'you're not with the right person', and showed me the real intention of the person i'm with. the only thing to lessen the pain is to accept that the truth that this person is not for me, and i should move on.
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
i would admit that break ups really hurt but yes there are ways to mend. Time really does mend but you'd also need to help yourself get up. Remembering God's love is far the most important because you'll never feel alone. For myself what i did was i focus with another portions of my life. my friends, my career, my family. and I'd say it's a good move. i did create a more closer relationship with my family, i have time now with my friends and i got promoted very fast in my job. we have our own different ways, you just need to know what will help you.
@nasi88 (34)
• Bulgaria
16 Sep 10
Love is the living water without it there is no fruit of joy.
rue love is waiting to find it
