Should a man always pay for dinner when on a date with a woman?

Same here asyria51. We both pay our weekly dates. It depends if i had enough money for that day, i pay for it. Pretty fair to the ones who run out of cash.

I think guys should always pay for first, second or third dates to show their gentleness to a woman. I would want the woman to chip in by date four or five. We live in different era now. Doors were closed for women in term of career opportunities a generation ago. Now women have the freedom to make their own money. There's nothing wrong in expecting a woman to pay for a date or two not the first date

Well, not always. But mostly men has to act as gentlemen and pay the dinner bill. My partner and I do it in turns. Sometimes I pay for her, sometimes she will pay for me. But I always avoid asking someone to pay.

Not always, maybe on your first few dates or when you are still courting the girl maybe man used to do it to impress the girl they are dating. but when you were together it doesn't really doesn't matter who will pay its up to what you both agreed on. Of course we girls are happy if man pays lolz.

I prefer to pay if I have the means. If I'm initiating the date then I would think that I should do the paying. However if she would ask me and if she wanted to pay or share in the paying then I would have no problem with that.

i don't think so , when you are eat with your friends , they should pay it with you, Going dutch

It depends on the couple I think its right that the man should pay, but not always is the man making the money so women then take on more of the bills.

I don't think the man should pay. We should pay for our own when we can afford it. If someone is rich then they can pay for everyone... but most likely we are all in the same struggle.

That depends upon the situation. :) I still believe that during the first date it should be the man who must pay. It is not because you are expecting him to put his best foot forward but this is a way of sizing up a man if he doesn't mind taking responsibilities.On the next date, you, two, might agree to split the expenses. Another thing, is that who invited who first. If it is the man who invited a lady to go out with him, he must be prepare to shoulder the expense all by himself. The lady, though, she agreed to join you but she might not have cash to spend, so be a gentleman. Other ladies feel uncomfortable when it is always the man who is paying the chit. So they might offer to shell out some cash and it is ok for a man to accept. If a lady, refuses to let the man pay the chit, one thing is for sure, though, SHE DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE DINNER WITH HIM AGAIN.lol

I think they both should pay not only all the time boys.

If it's a first date, I guess it's okay for the man to pay the bill. But, for subsequent dates, I will fork in my share, or when the day has been that good, I'll pay for the entire meal! But, if he insists on paying, why not? But, if he insists on paying ALL the time, I wouldn't like it. Also, if I'll pay all the time, I also wouldn't like it!

Hi! I think it really depends on the situation...If they are still students, it's just right that they both pay or share the expenses because of the obvious reason that they're still studying, they have no income yet and they just depend on their daily allowances. If they are both working already, the man should pay for everything if THEY ARE STILL DATING, but if THEY ALREADY HAVE A RELATIONSHIP, I think the man still pays for everything especially during occasions like ANNIVERSARIES or BIRTHDAYS...but, sometimes it will also be better or a good idea if they can both share the expenses during their dates. This is already acceptable nowadays, a lot of couples are doing this already and it's not really a problem anymore as long as they understand each other. :)

Its a very subjective issue.Every person according to his/her own perspective decides on it.It also depends on how a person has been taken care of in his/her childhood.Most men associate their pride and dignity with paying on date.But when we talk of equality in all areas why leave out this one.So occasional paying by women should be acceptable by men.A contribution can also be a good option.

No I think it should go both ways. I have a friend and he treats sometimes and I treat sometimes. It's nice even if your married or have a boyfrien or girlfriend to treat sometimes. i know I like to do that.

Hi Asyria, I'm part of that "baby boomer" era and I don't think it should all be up to the man to pay for everything. I mean if a guy asks me out then yes...he should pay for the date. If I ask someone to go to a movie or dinner with me then I expect to pay. Once we are dating though, I think it should be more on who has the cash or whatever. I don't know...we talk it over before going out. Either we split it or I pay or he does. It shouldn't be all one-sided. I've dated guys where I seem to pay for everything...always. That gets old. I mean, I don't keep score but it should be somewhat balanced. Like you, I don't have money so that makes it all the easier. It's more a matter of who buys the coffee today or who pays for the movies we rent?

There's no written rule that says a man should always pay for a dinner date with a woman. sometimes a woman just might epect it if he was the one to initiate the date. In today's society, it is more than acceptable that a woman could pay for the date. It just depends on who set up the date. that is the person who should be paying.

I would say when man pays for dinner it shows that he's responsible and know what's right.

When my husband and I go out on a date before we get married, usually it is him who pay the bills because he wants to pay it all but there are instances that I have to add a little money. But now that we're married he want me to pay the bills.lol

It's up to the different situations,even the custom of the area.But I think it has nothing to do with the earnings of the man.Even he is rich,it doesn't mean he should pay the bill for all the time.

It's a general etiquette rule that the man pays the whole bill at the very first date, but of course,it's not the end of the world if he doesn't, as long as money is the problem and not just him not being well-raised. As for the rest of the dates, bills can be split or payed entirely by whichever part of the couple. Especially in the cases where money is a problem, there is no need for useless expectations, at the risk of having your date starving tomorrow after having payed everything. :P