Past really hurts me!

Hi there ggeeta.. I feel for you.. It is very hard to forget a past specially if it hurt so bad that you feel like nobody could love you back again.. The main thing to do is to move on.. Forget about everything and never rush with finding another love when you know to yourself that you aren't ready yet.. I guess if you could, you could give your self a little time alone..Take a break from everything.. Have time to think things through and have the time to be a friend to yourself.. Reflect on things because that would shed you some light from your awful past.. By the time you think you are ready then you should move on.. Never rush things for love will come to you even if you don't seek for it.. Goodluck ggeeta and I hope I help even a little..

You cannot conquer what you refuse to confront! While it's true that you can't CHANGE your past, that doesn't mean that you can't do anything about it! What you need to do is face your fears, accept who you are and what you have to bring to a relationship...the Word says, this is the way, walk in it... Many times we wanna pretend that nothing ever happen or surround ourselves with other things to drown out the voice of the past - it never works friend. You know, if you have weeds in your lawn and all you do is cut the grass, it'll look good at first because everything is even, problem is, the weeds didn't go away did they? You've gotta get down on your hands and knees and pull them up ONE BY ONE, from the ROOTS. Once you do this to your heart - (this takes prayer, forgiveness of others and yourself), the healing will begin. Now, I know I'm preaching a bit here but I've been through where you are and Jesus did a miracle in me. I don't know if you're a Christian or not, if you are willing...take a look at Jeremiah Chapter 18, the first 6 verses. It talks about a potter and clay...what I like about the story is no matter how fast that potter's wheel is spinning (because life can be like that sometimes), the potter is in absolute control...the clay is always in the hands of the potter...you are in God's hands if you surrender to Him, all your fears, faults, and hurts...I'm praying for you...it sounds like you have a lot to offer a wonderful relationship - don't give up okay? God bless.

Sorry to learn that my friend. I have to talk straight and will no longer ask the details. If you need healing, I guess you need to consider attending a retreat or speak to someone. That can help you a lot. To freshen up and help you think of the good memories and forget the past. I will no longer suggest to pamper yourself or have a body massage because yes it may help the body gets refresh, but what you really need is to also freshen your soul and mind. So I think, the best is to freshen your spirit.

For me pray to Jehovah God hat he can heal your heart without remembering your past and get married to the guy who love you most and understand all the time so that you can forget your past.

Hi ggeeta, Sad to know this happened to you. The past is a weird thing. The more you think about it the more you are drawn into shallowness if that past is not great. You have to realize one thing which is of utmost importance at this stage - Are you really interested to move forward from where you are? If the answer is a big YES, I have a solution which is not that easy but if you start to walk on this path, you would realize that life is much more than just the past. So here I go - Start meditation. Keep yourself busy. When you are down and feel that you are being drawn into your past again, try to find yourself company. Stay away from loneliness. You can go out to movies, hang around with friends so many things. Remember none thing always - You will not die today and if you are not going to die today, why not live the day! Hey, the last line above has kept me going all along my long 10 years of illness and so I believe the above would help you too. Take Care

hi ggeeta! :) i know what you feel because I have been through that kind of situation. i really feel for you!! For me, you can only move on and forget your past, if you can find someone who can replace him. Someone who is better, and most especially, someone who can accept your weaknesses and strengths.. Never look back! Just forget all the sweet memories you had... Move on girl!! There still many guys out there who is more deserving!! ?? :)

I go to therapy for help about my terrible past. The only way to get through it is to work through it. Life is never easy for anyone and if it were we wouldn't be here.

i think you are still imprisoned with your experience from your past. you are not yet letting go of the things that make you feel hurt. you are not yet giving your forgiveness to the person who have hurt you that's why you can't experience true happiness right now. i guess you truly give your all to the person who have hurt you that's why you have nothing to give to somebody that comes your way right now. you must have been in a trauma right now and thinks that all of them are the same, that they will also hurt you in the end. once you learn to forgive, you can start a new life and set aside your past. it will just be a memory that will make you strong. now that you have experience the pain, you should not be afraid of pain anymore. it is part of being in love and a sign that the love you have given was true. because you can feel something. you are not numb.

Hi there.:) Oh, we all have our dark painful past. And,true, it is very hard to deal with it and it seems that getting out of it is next to impossible. But, past is past. Let bygones be bygones now. Do not wallow yourself in the darkness and sadness of the past. Do not get this into your nerves. You still have a life to live. Just think of the people who still needs you and love you. Time heals all wounds, so let time do that but help yourself. Get busy building anew. Meet other people, acquire a new habit, etc. There are lots of things that can make you occupied. Without knowing it, you won't even remember you were in such great pain. Be over it, move on. God bless you.:)

the best thing to do is move on, leave everything in the past. let your hearth heals take the past as your learning experience, remember only those wonderful memories. love yourself so that you would be able to accept love from others.

my dear ggeeta, you must move on, remembering is one thing you must forget. You're hurt because you always look back ,don't, Leave your past and just go on with your daily life. Keep busy and enjoy what you have right now.Have friends, mingle with poeple and if you want stay long in internet,chat and do your mylotting, okay?

I agree that unpleasant past makes any one gloomy.Similarly pleasant past should make any one happy.But here we are concerned with the present only.Only when we recollect past experiences whether pleasant or unpleasant we notice a change in our present moods. Suppose we do not recollect the past what is the position? The next question is whether it is possible or not to recollect the past.I am not talking about forgetting the past here.Forgetting is another question and I do not expect every one to forget the past.How can you forget the pastImpossible.Here we are taking about making the present pleasant with reference to the past. What about the future?. Many are restless thinking about the future.So there are people who are sad about their past and there are people who are worried and restless about their future{say who lost everything and heavily in business without any hope of regaining}.You have to make your present happy?how? I would suggest that you keep engaged in any work you like from the time you wake up till you go to bed without giving ant chance for the mind to think about the past.This the method the adopt in the army.After getting into army many become homesick.Not to allow such thing to happen the officers keep the new recruits very busy and active throughout the day so that the recruits find no time to think of their families. Is it not feasible and practicable?....Try...

...in my opinion, you don't really have to forget the past, you just learn how to accept and live with it...past is a part of you, it is the reason of your existence in the present...let time heal everything...focus more on the best part or good things that is happening in your life and be more open-minded and optimistic enough to understand that we all have dark past...just think of this, you are not the only one who have a hurtful past, but others choose to stand and continue living..so do the same, it's hard but eventually with proper determination and discipline, you'll get there...

Don't go off your past, cause that the future will go of you present. I think we must live with the past and take it as a lession for the present and the future Regard

i don't know what hurt you so much, nor do i know your past.so i can only tell you ,if it has past,then that it go.i haven't have that feeling, i maybe remenber it clear one or two days,but one month later,i will forgot it.is the one who you love hurt you .then i think you should see a doctor.if it's a place, then move to another place. But the most you can try is too forget, to find a people who love you...

The only thing that I could suggest is that you have to give limitations when loving and caring other people. I know how much it will hurt you from the past when you are reflecting it but then it could have been charge to experience as part of your lesson. Next time you have to give love for yourself because you can't love other people if you can't make it on your own. You just thought that you are really helping them but have you ever think the repercussion? Just think of it if you are a kind of person that helping other people but then you are expecting something back. Remember being sincere in helping other people does not totally mean that they will reward you sometimes it is a challenge for you that they will not do the same thing as what you did. Your sincerity will be tested.

Yes that's right you need healing and I think you're not completely move on the past of yours. Think positive and make the most out of our beautiful life.

hi ggeeta... i know how you feel... cliche it sounds but you just need to take one day at a time. learn to love yourself and enjoy the life you have. go out with friends that will make you one way or another forget the pain. when you think you are ready go and start dating... you will feel good... :)