do u want to save the marriage?

Saving a marriage takes two person to tango. But,if the other person is not cooperating and talking another steps that's will not cooperate with the situation. In my opinion,why stay in a relationship when there is no love and respect at all? I don't mind the society or what would other people say ,what matters most is,save the last respect for yourself. It doesn't mean that i always agree with people who always resort with separation but,it is a situational thing who to agree with. In your case,if your husband is still seeing another woman and having affairs,well,that's good to give him his freedom. Once a cheater will always be a cheater,that is what i believed in. If you had given him a chance and still,he keeps doing it..that's it. Have a good day always

If I were you, I'll leave though will delay getting an annulment. Its not easy being betrayed and its a shame on him for letting you down and for fooling around but there are things that you need to put into consideration. So better leave, take time to think things over, self-check then decide. Whatever makes you happy matters.

marriage must be based on a sense of the most trust their partners and maintain ongoing communication to create a sense of mutual need, love each other and love each other

If I was in your shoes, I would save myself. I'm so sorry you have to go through that, but you deserve to be happy. Best wishes.

You forgave and and cleaned the slate for yall to start over. But he didnt step up to the plate. That shows that he doesnt care because he's still continuing to hurt you. You deserve love and respect from the one you chose to spend your life with. I dont think you should keep trying. Walk away and maybe in doing that he will see what he lost. Sometimes drastic actions are needed for drastic changes in a person. Good luck and know the pain will heal over time.

It is such a devastating thing to realize or being told that your husband is cheating you. You will feel betrayed, hurt angered and many more emotions. However, through all of this you may decide that you still want to save your marriage. The truth is you can absolutely saved your marriage, even if your partner is cheating you. It is important first to find out why your partner is cheating. Most of the time in marriage, the partner who is cheating is not cheating because of they have emotional feeling toward that person. Actually it is due either the need for physical contact for someone or out of spite of their wife. Rather they want someone who desires them and listen to them or something similar. After you have figured out why your partner has been cheating, you need to find out if they are willing to commit in saving your marriage. Most of the time they want to save the marriage and if they see that you are willing to forgive them and work for saving the marriage, they will agree. Forgiveness is the hardest one in the entire world to do. However, inorder to solve your marriage you will have to learn to forgive your partner. Letting them know that you forgive them and still love him is very imporant thing. You also need to ensure that is your spouse is committed to saving your marriage and that they apologize on cheating and are done with it. There is no point in trying to save the marriage if your partner is not sorry and if they dont plan to end the affair with teh intention of remaing faithful to you from here or out atleast you have done your part to save the marriage you will not regret with the decision you have after this efforts.. Good luck...

Is it really true that despite your effort of saving your marriage, your husband still sees her? then what is the point of talking about your situation if he does not want to continue the relationship because of what he is doing to you? It is true that once married, both should be responsible for each other. But when you see that there is no love anymore and your husband still wants to be with another one, what is again the point to continue on. Now the question for you is, what if you still save the marriage? do you have kids that will get affected once you decided to divorce your husband? You better teach that husband of yours a lesson, besides it is in the law that when you have a proof that your spouse is having an illicit affair, you can sue them both in court for adultery. It is still your decision, hope what you decide will be good for you and your kids.

For 11 years, I should say it has to be saved. And it seems you did it already after forgiving and forgetting what was happened and proposing to start a new life. this shows that you wanted it to save. But also seems you failed to do so. So i think, you should also consider that in saving a relationship, it always have to be wanted by both parties. It would be useless if only you were interested to save your marriage. If I were you? I think, I would accept that maybe, it's time to set him free, after all..you have proven yourself to him, and it's not always you to have sacrifice. There's always a good reason for what has happened. Good luck and Happy mylotting.

Welcome to the world of desperate wives... I am also married for 7 loooong years and like you I have the same problem. However, I did not caught my husband having an affair but he was flirting with different women and he keeps on lying to me about so many stuff. I came to the point of giving up on him but I'm still with him up this very minute because we have kids. Without our kids, I will not going to think of saving the marriage because it is the hardest and most painful process to do especially when the husband seems not going to change for the better at all... In your case, I will not prolong my sufferings. I will leave him if I were you, that is, if you don' love him anymore. Because if you still love him and you leave him, it is going to be more painful and miserable than staying with him, hoping and praying that he'd change. Why don't you talk to the other woman? YOu want to save the marriage so you have all the right to fight for it. Don't give up on him that easily my dear. Do not let the other woman ruin your family. Fight for it . Maybe, there is still hope. Goodluck and God bless you.

If you feel that he doesn't love you anymore I think it's about time that you leave him. Discovering that your husband is having an affair is really painful and it's more painful because he is having an affair with your friend. There is no perfect marriage but having an affair with your friend for the second time, your friend must be very special to your husband. It's really up to you now if you still want to save your marriage or not. Talk to him and ask for an explanation and ask him also if he still loves you. You can always save a relationship if there is still love.

....i personally would suggest to save the marriage for the sake of your children, also, marriage is a lifetime contract, for sickness and health, etc...when you made the vow, that means you are preferred whatever will happen and is willing to face the trials life...however, in situation, it would be best to forget about him and move on with your life focusing more on your children...

Being married it such a tough decision. Many adjustments, priorities, obligations and many more. Did your husband been sorry for what he did to you? Did he ever try to tell it to you honestly? Cheating is not a new thing for men married or not. If you will get your marriage annulled will you be happy? Or wont you regret it that you're the one who get your marriage annulled? Do you have children will they be happy? Wont they be effected with that annulment? This is same thing that happened to my mom but she never try to annulled their marriage. My father left her but my mom never regretted it. Atleast she will never be blamed by her children that she was the reason why they have a broken family. She tried her best.

if i were in your shoes, i will balance the situation. if you still love your husband keep the relationship going. if you have kids, that would be a big impact for them and you have to tell them the real story. just ask guidance for the lord and he will never forsake you. i will pray for you and your family. cheer up and count your blessings.

Hi there. They say that true love sees no difficulties or mistakes. And they also say that if you really love someone, set him free for him to be happy even if you're not a part of that happiness of his. To be in your shoes is difficult and hurting. I believe in marriage. Maybe you can also try figuring out if there are things that you may have done or not have done as a wife that prompted him to do such. Maybe you have to figure out the kind of care/attention he requires for you to keep him. And of course, you have to bring him back to the Lord. But if still this 2nd time around your efforts will be futile, then maybe you can try leaving him for a couple of months and let him feel your absence. Oftentimes, we recognize the importance of someone in their absence. I believe that it's okay even for married couples to have their separate space and time to internalize things that they are not going to figure out when their together. Then if he will not run after you, don't force him. Hurtful it may be, the world is still as beautiful as it is. Pick up your broken pieces, set your mind to move on with life. You may never know what happiness there is at the next corner. Whatever the turn of events, always forgive him and try not to be resentful. Keep yourself busy with good things.

If you truly love your spouse and are committed to them, the marriage has to be worth saving. Every road has its bumps and curves. There will always be an uphill climb and a downward spiral in every relationship, If your love is worth the risk, the marriage has to be also. Take care and good luck!

Getting into a marriage is a hundred times easier than getting out of it. At least, when we decided to get married, we were elated and full of hopes and dreams. On the other hand, getting out of it is full of disappointments, frustrations and a very tough decision. There are so many things to weigh including children, if have any, and the steep price you have to pay. In my country, you need at least Php250,000 to have your marriage annulled. I'm sorry to hear about what's happening to your marriage. It is a heavy decision to make but it is one you have to do. Search your heart. What is your relationship's worth to you at the moment? Will you still be able to live with your husband who can't stay faithful to you? Will you be able to stay in a relationship without trust and respect? Do you think your husband deserves a third chance? Do you see yourself growing old happily with him, or your days ahead will be full of suspicions and quarrels? In the end, it is all up to you. I have my own take on the issue but I don't want to influence your decision. I just hope that you find peace in whatever choice you decide on. Good luck to you.

I really can't stand infidelity. If he doesn't want me anymore, then I would let him go. You already give him the chance and he blew it. What is the use of being stuck in a relationship if you're not happy? I am married for nearly 6 years, and due to differences, we do have conflicts and it came to a point that I want to call it quits. But we try to communicate and try to make the relationship interesting so we still are together. I grew up in a country, where a philandering husband is permissible. My father-in-law has a son from his mistress, and after so many tears my mother-in-law still accepted him and the kid. So my husband is determined not to follow his father's examples as he has seen how his mother got hurt from the betrayal. And I'm holding on to his word. It is still your choice if you want to stay with your husband and share him with your friend.