Which do you prefer? Be a friendless loser or have friends who secretly HATE you
By wiwa05
@wiwa05 (230)
Philippines
September 16, 2010 4:18am CST
Which do you prefer? Be a friendless loser or have friends who secretly HATE you?
There are times in life that we prefer to have only ourselves than to have friends who you CAN'T TRUST -- friends who secretly hate you and destroys you silently behind your back... You thought you'd found your second family where you can be yourself, understand you, and accept you... But NOT all friends are like that! Others are playing games with you because MAYBE they benefit in what you have...
So now, ask yourself, which do you REALLY prefer?
18 responses
@shaggin (72240)
• United States
17 Sep 10
It seems that anyone who answers this question should answer it the same. Who would want a bunch of fake friends. Yeah it would give you more people to hang around but if they arent true friends then its just pointless. I dont want friends who talk about me behind my back. Hating me but pretending to be my friend would be the worst. If I hate someone I couldnt pretend to be their friend. Friendship requires trust if you cant trust someone then you shouldnt be friends with them.
@wiwa05 (230)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Well said! Trust is the key to have a good realtionship with your friends. But we should also be very careful in trusting someone coz it's too hard to trust anyone now. Better keep our delicate secrets to ourselves than to tell friends we 'thought' we could trust coz our secrets might come out one day, especially if the two of you(between your friend), will have an issue that might lead you both into quarrel and destroy each person's back.
@geoman169 (2)
• Thailand
16 Sep 10
First, you must believe in yourself, and when you consider a people as a really friend, i think you must believe him/her cause that he/she is your friend
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
I have been friendless for a coupld of times - not totally but i just never really had some great friends who stuck up with me all my life and i think it is only because i have no one else to count on these days
I do not mind being friendless than have people around me who keeps on backstabbing me!
@wiwa05 (230)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
don't worry.. i know, someday someone will come to be that person who'll change your perspective of having a friend..
be optimistic! ^_^
but anyway, we have same choice.. it's better to be alone than to have people aren't true to you... it's somewhat like fooling yourself to have a so-called-'friend'..
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Then I would rather be alone and have a dog and make that dog as a friend than have so called friends who secretly hate me. I think its much of a loser to have so called friends who will laugh and be with you but the moment you turn your back, they will all snicker at you than be alone and friendless.I'd choose being alone anytime of the day.
@ankster (273)
• India
16 Sep 10
I will definitely prefer friendless loser because in todays world you cannot trust your own shadow what to trust your friends.I never trust anyone blindly.I and my hubby entertain family members and relatives at our place and visit people occassionally but we never keep huge set of friends because nowadays everyone is full of jealousy and complexes.You cannot trust anyone.Its nice to be in touch with everyone but intimacy should be avoided with anyone.Live your life peacefully and let others lead their lives peacefully.
@mksgamon09 (21)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Wow! You made me nervous here. I would prefer to be a a friendless loser than to be with those true losers that doesn't know what's the true meaning of friendship. Damn all those people who acts as your friend but stabbing on your back when your away. Your topic really had me going.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Hi wiwa05,
Why would you think if someone doesn't have friends, that they are losers? Some people prefer to be alone. I would rather be friendless ,by choice, than to believe that I have friends but don't. If a person thinks at he or she has friends, but the pretend friends hates the ground that they walk on, isn't that person friendless, too? And, in my opinion, is the biggest loser because they were not smart enough to know that the friends are fakes.
I would rather be alone and true to myself, than to be friends with a bush of fake friends. They pretend that they are friends because it is beneficial to their well being. Someone has something they need are want such as money, clothe, car, significant other, etc..
So, the trusting friend becomes the "used" by fake friends who are the "users." Now the questions is, would you rather be a lone person or a "used" person? the loser.
@kingsizewe (544)
• Bulgaria
16 Sep 10
Believe me, I can't trust anyone, besides my narrow family circle. Maybe 1 or two friends I can trust, but thats all. And about your options - I don't want to have such a miserable choice, bro. Peace
@stefanisaiah (167)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
wow this is tough question. well I prefer to be friendless loser than to have many friends who will stub me at the back. I can't call them friends if they act like that. In real life you can count in my fingers my real friends, friends who will be there with or without money, friends who you can trust, and friends who will help you to pick up yourself.
@waterfiction (71)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
I'd totally prefer being friendless than have some "friends" talk crap about me behind my back. I'm quite an honest friend and straightforward if I have a problem with someone I truly care about, so yeah, I'd like it better if my friends are that way about me as well.
@nedelcuaurel (2)
• Romania
17 Sep 10
i'm a happy guy i have a few friends(5 or 6), real friends.for me is enought. the respond to the question if is not a real friend is not a friend, so better 1 and good instead 100 and bad
@theplanner (298)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
I guess I don't want to have both. I mean it's kind of the same.I don't wanna be alone since "no man is an island". Admit it or not we need friends to get by. It's just that we need to choose those we think are real from those whom we call as "fair-weather" friends or only good when they need something from us. In life we encounter this kind of friends but we learn also to know when to stop being a part of their lives. I myself, learned a lot from these so-called friends but this doesn't stop me from making friends with others. You just learn how to choose and separate the good eggs from the rotten ones.
@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
wow i think this is one good explanation to be a loser. just my two cents here. "losers", as you call them, may actually just have their weak points that, for some reason, they haven't yet worked on. however they also have the potential (in their own way) to inspire people. they may be called losers because they have beliefs that kind of repel some people to be with them. but at least they get to practice their independence without having to think much of what others have to say about them and without people hating them. friendless or not, they stay happy with what they think is right.i guess for this discussion i can say i would choose to be a friendless loser :) hate from people is a lot more negative than soliciting a few weird stares from people who might think i'm a loser.
@dave100503 (15)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
two thumbs up for your question!
wow! this is a tough one!
well, I'd rather be a friendless loser than to have friends whom i can't trust coz it's not easy to be with people who aren't true to you... Life would (maybe) be miserable to have them.. I would rather live my life alone, but HAPPY! ; )
keep it up!
@animegirl334 (3263)
• United States
17 Sep 10
I think I would like to have friends who secretly hate me. 
That way whenever I need company, I can have a few people I could call to come out. If I don't want to see a movie by myself then I can call them. I don't have to think they are real friends and confide in them but we can still go out together. And if I don't want to see them then I would go back by myself.
That way whenever I need company, I can have a few people I could call to come out. If I don't want to see a movie by myself then I can call them. I don't have to think they are real friends and confide in them but we can still go out together. And if I don't want to see them then I would go back by myself.
@MikeV2014 (2)
• United States
16 Sep 10
Friendless loser for me. I do not want the peer pressure involved with friends that do not really want to be friends at all. Luckily I do not have to worry about that today!
