child discipline

I agree with you that it is not a good practice to spank or hit a child. Even shouting is not even acceptable. They easily copy what they see from us. I used to spank my child but I didn't see any positive effect on him. He tends to become more violent to his playmates and he doesn't listen to what I say. Because of this, I am really trying my best to be more patient and be a good example to him.

I believe in spanking, but I don't believe that it is the only way of disciplining a child. I think that time outs and talking to your children are the most important thing that you can do to discipline them. However, I will use spanking as a tool when they are doing something that is dangerous either to themselves or to others. That said, I have very rarely spanked my children. But, if they were to run out in front of oncoming traffic or if they were to do something else equally dangerous, I would spank them.

There are many ways to discipline a child. spanking and hitting a child is not necessarily discipline. Showing a child discipline is teaching them the right and wrong things to do. Discipline should be given in a way where the child learns from the mistakes they have made. Being abusive to the child will not guarantee that result.

For me, you should show your love to them. Unlike me my Mother always discourage me that's why Im very hardheaded and she always hits me.

i think discipline is very important for the child. always a disciplined child will be good .a child is not good or bad only discipline are make him good or bad...i think it about the child discipline .....

When I was young, I was spanked by my mom. It's her way of disciplining her children. There is a disadvantage and an advantage by doing so. Our world right now is very different compared to the time our parents. Kids before can understand why they are being spank. They accept it and learned from it. I was one of those. Now, I'm a mom and for me we should not get use to spanking our kids. I believe that if we communicate well with them and talk to them always then there is no need for spanking. Constant communications really helps and better understanding of our kids because they cannot express themselves yet. So as a parent, we should observe why they do such things. Maybe, they just want to get our attention or maybe out of being too curious of so many things that they see.

I think it's OK to a point. I don't have a problem with swatting an out of control child on the hand or on the bottom. Anything else is abusive and teaches the child that you can use violence to solve problems, I think.

I was grown that way. Though i know it will surely hurt me when i spank my kid, i would still do it.

For me it is in the bible principle we must follow that but not to the point that they afraid of and learn about the violence.

I don't believe in hitting a child. We should make them understand the right and the wrong thing and what's good for them.

I am not sure if spanking still effective in disciplining a child. My nephew is so naughty he always get a spank from his mom. Now I can see he don't honor his mom. I hate to see that because she is my sister. On the otherhand spanking my niece is effective to her. Maybe it depends on the child or may be it depends how you discipline the child.

I do not agree that shouting and even hitting paint are a way to nurture.I have daughter 2 years and this makes no sense it or flip and cry.A parent should always find any other way to sit down and talk with your child and explain to him that is not so straight and so on.Personally to me this option for now act and think ahead to continue so

Some people do not know a different way to discipline their children. They are using what they were taught, and have the mentality that it worked for me it will work for my child. I will admit that I have smacked my child on the hand. When she pulled out the plug covers and was trying to put something into it. She understood that she did not like the slap on the hand, but is still too young to understand how dangerous what she was doing was. She has not tried it again. As for occuring in the school setting, I live in a country where it is illegal to hit a child in school. We use detentions to try and get through. I think the idea of detention is a good one, but too many times it is really more of a punishment for the parent who has to find transportation for the child.

3 way to rule/comunicate dicipline of child. 1st is body lengguage / body sign / code. 2nd is speaking/saying. 3th is hitting / boddy contact etc. I would rather to make child understand at fist way.CASE that you said here, i'm not agree at all as long as NO FATAL action off the child.

I don't think that hitting and spanking help, but I do believe that you have to discipline them somehow or otherwise they will get totally out of control.

I think that the best way to get through to a child is to use multiple discipline tools. The whole idea is that the punishment is equal to the bad behavior. I would spank my child only if they did something truly dangerous like running in front of cars after they were told not to or as another poster said she slapped her daughters hand for trying to put things in an outlet. I do however believe in natural consequences as well... I was babysitting for my moms friend and she showed up and I had told them don't touch the electric fence. They were great until mom came and then they started being a little bratty. One of them decided he was going to touch the fence and his mom just sat there and watched him do it... She decided that it wasn't dangerous enough to warrant her intervention. The same kid got spanked as she pulled him out of the deep end of the pool because he wasn't supposed to be in the fence. Spankings aren't supposed to be like a beating... Spankings are supposed to scare the child so that they don't do something worse.

You are right, this can somehow have a negative effect on the children when they grow up. I have been raised with spanking as a means of discipline but i never see it as a violence. Because if you don't do it, the kid will surely not listen to you or even care that what he/she is doing is already bad. Not the major major spanking and hitting, just a means to wake the kid's senses and be aware that he is doing the bad thing.

I still believe in spanking and hitting as a form of disciplining a child but not doing oftentimes and do this through love only in the buttocks coz if you repressed this you did not love your child as stated in the Bible. After doing this you discuss, explain nor ask him/her why to do this. Parents must always have an open 2-way conversation with the children.

There are many ways to discipline a child. Like banning him from playing for a few hours or simply just by talking to him. I don't believe in spanking too, but I must confess that I have done it about 3-5 times now. There are times when you just control yourself when the kid is just acting very, very rude! But I really felt guilty after doing it. It wasn't a hard spank but still I can't help but feel guilt. I have no plans on doing it again. What I do now is scare him that I will send him to "Camp Brat". We watched it together on discovery channel and now it is working like a charm.

I believe in spanking the child for discipline and training and not out of anger. If you spank out of anger, you are telling the child that violence is ok. What I would advise is that you explain to the child what they did wrong and then follow it with their punishment (the spanking) and then explain to them that you love them and that if they do it again, they will have to be spanked again. I have talked to parents before who don't spank their children and those are the children who are usually running wild in the stores or screaming or biting others. The parents justify this as 'they are just being kids' or 'we don't spank because they hit back or don't like that'. You are the parent, sitting a young child in time-out is not a form of punishment they understand. I also think only the parents and whoever the parent gives permission to should spank the children. If everyone spanks the child, incorrect thoughts about adults could be grasped.