Loving someone without trust? Is it possible?

Umm sorry to say that but NO, it's not possible. You are really right as saying " I'm here with you not because you're telling me you love me BUT because I love you that's why I'm still here". But in my opinion he's just a liar. If he's with another girl once it could be "accidentally" but seeing him with "friends" of the other gender all the time is actually showing you his feeling to you. He's just a cheater... Maybe the feelings you two used to have vanished away... Or maybe he had no feelings from the start? If the things went too material than he's not in love with you for sure! The fact you were together 4 years doesn't mean he was with you in the name of love. If you no longer feel him close but cold and distant from you the best choise would be to end the relationship. You WILL find someone to love you sincerely. Even if it's not from the very first try you are free to try again! Whatever happens you should communicate with your boyfriend and try to clear up the things. But most of all listen to your heart and judge by his actions not by what he says!

I don't think so. You are not truly loving your partner if you don't trust him/her. What you feel is not love but mere obligation.

I don't think that itr is possible to really love someone and not trust them. Love and trust are two bonds that have to fit together to survive a relationship. Where there is love, there must be trust!

Yeah you are definitely right. There are real pictures of marriage far from the ideology that we had before when we were one of those devotees of love and trust. It is seldom to see a picture of marriage that stands longer in the face of trust and love. Yet , i am still looking forward to it.

I may say it's possible,but meaningless.The one you love doesn't love you.Why still be there?Just for feeling the happiness of "to love"?But you lost the happiness of "to be love".Or don't wanna give up the times you have spent on him?But you'll waste more time and affect you following life.Now that you have started to lose faith in him,i hope you could resolve this problems in the short run.

I wouldn't be able to love someone without trusting them. For me, trust is a very, very important part in a relationship (and it goes both ways, you should be able to trust your partner just like he/she should be able to trust you), and I couldn't imagine having one without it.

I think people can, personally I couldn't because that bond is very much important but some people still feel that way even after something major as happened. I think people get wrapped up in love sometimes, they forgive somewhat easily and I always hope that people can respectful love. Must be awful not being able to trust your partner, it leads to being jealous and suspicious. It's really no way to live at all.

Hi... I really don't consider it love when trust is absent... I mean, one of the very basic ingredient to Love is trust .... and a relationship won't take that long if there's no trust.. "Unconditional love" as we consider what you are going through right now because even if you were hurt again and again, still you are there for that person.. I don't believe you don't trust him anymore, maybe the trust you have for that person is much lesser now, compared when the relationship started.

In your case, you love him but if about "girls", you don't trust him anymore. You don't TRUST him in a way that you're tired of his lies about going out with friends but it's his "girls", right? But you trust him in other things, I guess so.

aww this is so sad story :( so sorry for you. but you should leave your bf. i know you love him so much but please dont be with a guy that is always with other girls. if he loved you he wouldnt do that. please find a new life. you are so caring for what you said i can see so for sure you can find other guy that will love you and not cheat on you all the time. please dont humiliate yourself being with this guy. he doesnt respect and doesnt love you at all. he just uses you when he wants. sorry but i say this for you to see the bad you are doing to yourself. can you imagine when he kisses you that he kissed other girls too? that you are only one more for him? he doesnt leave you bcs he knows that even other girls dont care for him he has you always there for him. he is very selfish. please leave this guy :( you can find better than him trust me. and if he was even ashamed of what he does he would leave you to dont hurt your feelings even more. please leave him :( dont waste time with a guy that doesnt love you. life is short and must be liven with someone that loves us more than everything. and he is not that guy. the guy for you will still come. so leave this bad one and wait for one that will love only you^^ trust me^^ if you need talk im here ok? just message me^^

Hi, Love is really BLIND !!! You should love someone whom is worth to be loved. Since you have been spent 4 years with him, let him have a chance to change. In what I believe, he will not changed because he probably has been in such a way for many years. As my advise, stop continuing with him. Make yourself awaken and conscious. Collect back whatever he owe you, especially your MONEY !!! Join more people to enlarge your living circle. Finally you are SAVED and FREE. Open your eyes and survey! Never be trapped again!!!!!!!!!!

got the same situation as yours.. how funny love take us,no matter how hard we try..we still end up loving and understanding them..

I do respect your decision, we have the right to have our own opinion when it comes to love. But for me i couldn't possibly love or be with a guy i don't trust. It will make me crazy, i don't like to share my partner with other girls. They can call me selfish but that's how it should be, if he still wants to flirt with other girls then he shouldn't be in a relationship with me. without trust there would be no security, there's always doubt, no respect for yourself. You can continue with the relationship for as long as you can. I just want you to know that i believe you're worth is more, love yourself and give yourself respect because you deserve it.

simmply NO! Relationship without trust would definitely end up one day. But if not, then you both are fooling yourselves. Be realistic! Be true to yourself coz if not, you'll end up living a miserable life for the rest of your life!

Unconditional love and a martyr one which maybe rare happened without fighting.I think your love still dealing a trust knowing and believing yourself that this guy you live with have girls who are only friends. Only few women may endure this type of relationship. Maybe this kind of love not live longer because its not rooted and stayed firmed, it destroyed by hurt feelings.

It is possible because you love a person because you trusted the person. Later after that person breaks your trust, you immediately do not stop loving him but continue to do so in a hope that still the person would make himself or herself trustworthy. It is the hope that replaces trust and for that reason you are able to love someone without trust.

i do believe that love and trust should always go hand in hand.hen trust strays away, love will follow soon.

ya this very true

loving with out trust??? don't u think its tiring? when ever you are away at work or something.. you cant concentrate due to thinking that there would be some one else today?? don't you think you deserved to be happy and loved and not cheated on?? good thing your living together and not married.... it would cost you a lot for annulment if you get to the point of leaving..

Well, that guy is a jerk. He must be really lucky that he had you because you gave him everything. He should be thankful and blessed. Let him change his ways. Give him dozens of babies, that way , maybe he'll have no time cheating and will spend more time with you and your family