How can I completely forget my ex-gf...How can I not thinking about her...??
By nguyenmlam
@nguyenmlam (130)
Thailand
September 16, 2010 10:37am CST
It's been nearly a month since the day we broke up... And it seems that there is just me who is really hurt... Cause she is moving on really well, she feels very comfortable, all of these things come from the fact that she does not love me...
The time we were together, I am always the one who love and care for her so so much, she has already become everything of my life, I loved her more than myself, and now, when she's gone...I felt apart, it's really hurt, it's hard to describe but things is like falling and breaking in front of me...
Hurt as I am, painful as it is, but I know it already has just happened, and nothing I can do more about this, she won't come back, she is now very happy without me, I just can wish her having a happy life with her family, her friends, her life, and...the one she will love....
I have to move on, and through out the past month...I always struggle everyday,every moment, and every thought of mine. I try not to think about her, not wondering too much about her, I try my best to forget her, I play games, I study, I do mylot, I work, I busy myself not to think about her, but still I think about her at night, I always want to know if she is feeling happy, what she is doing, and I just feel painful and miss the memory again and again, I don't want to be like this...Really don't, I want to forget her...and go on with my life, in my heart, she's still a very special one, the one I love, but I don't want to suffer torment about her and our relationships....
How can I forget her? How do I try? How can I not thinking about her? I really want to...I really do...
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11 responses
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
18 Sep 10
i understand you^^ there was this guy i loved much. we were best friends. it seems he also cared for me actually i think maybe he liked me a bit but maybe he never did. anyway then he started to change. started to ignore me. when a girl humiliated me he didnt defend me and when this girl said a lie about me he doubted about my word. he said he doesnt know in who to believe. he loved her so thats why he didnt think she was the liar :( but still he should had believe me bcs we were best friends before that girl appear. anyway now they are lovers and are happy.
and me he doesnt even talk with me. i cried much and i thought i couldnt love no guy anymore. but i put in my head that he didnt worth my feelings. he was ignoring me knowing how much i loved him and acted so bad. anyway you just need to put in your mind that you need forget that girl. she doesnt want be with you anymore. while you are crying she is happy. so please just think that we all have someone for us^^ and soon we find this person that will love us more than everything^^ this girl you met was just not the right one^^ you will meet other girl soon^^
just like me i met other guy and im happy^^ you will also^^ and remember she was the one losing^^ is very hard to find a guy that we can say really love us and she found it and put away. so she lost not you^^ now cheer up^^ your princess will come soon^^ and dont think about this girl no more^^ life is too short to think about who doesnt love us^^ if need talk more just message me^^ im here to listen^^
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Broken relationships can be difficult to get over completely. this person was a big part of your life at one time. There may always be somethings that reminds you of that person. Without your special someone in your life any longer, you are left with an emptiness to fill. Until you find something or someone to replace that emptiness, you will linger in the past. Time really does heal all wounds. 
@dbeast (1495)
• India
17 Sep 10
It is really tough to overcome your first love,trust me.Been there seen that.You think you are completely over the person and one fine day one small memory and bang a thought or a flash can change the whole scene.Time is the only healer but somethings like an attachment are too hard to let go of.Memories will never stop haunting .The next best thing is to deviate away and occupy yourself with something else which will not remind you of her.
@irelee2006 (71)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
hi Nguyen.....I experienced the same as you are now. Well, it take some time, it may be years to forget someone you loved so much...In my case it took three long years to move on.My life centers in our relationship but that shouldn't be that way because at we can never tell what will be in the future. It is a good step that you busied yourself in sports,study,doing myLot,work and everything.try to relax yourself by going out with friends.Talk to somebody who is dear to you or you can trust.As you go along with all your activities you will learn to forget and look into the future that there is someone better for you.I can prove that myself because after those years of feeling the pain, i was given the person whom i am happy living with and blessed with a beautiful and adorable daughter...Keep on praying that God will be your strength.
@davenhearst (327)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Emotional relationship it always very painful when it ends. You become frustrated and depressed not knowing what to do and how to fill your life. So your girlfriend left and isn't bothered about how you feel or what you do without her. You feel unhappy, depressed and feel that your life stopped without her. Control your life by controlling your thoughts and actions. Take charge of your life of turning away from things or people who don't like you and need you.When they don't need you, decide to shut them off from your life too. You are more important than your ex o take care of what you do how you feel rather than you think and act according to your ex. Rather than pondering on how to forget an ex girlfriend? Take life lightly dont be serious about what has already happened. Bring the affirmation into your mind that she is n more and try to shake yourself off her memory and start looking around for the best person yet to enter your life. Move on in life and dont rot and stale by sticking your girlfriend memories. Think the negative attitudes of your girlfriend so that it may easy for you to forget and recover. Try to move on and keep on searhing there somebody that is worthy of your love...
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
16 Sep 10
Most likely you are never going to forget her.
But this is just part of the process, it will hurt bad, you'll have some level of depression for which only you can snap out of it eventually, remember, things happen for a reason, most likely your life is destined to be succesful without her.
It is totally understandable, give yourself sometime, time will heal the wound, trust me and all the people that will tell you so, it will heal.
Day to day things like going to school, going to work, etc. are going to be a little harder, but think about this, is your life finished? you might feel like it, but hey, you're standing here, you're breathing, so, it's not finished !!
If at some point at all you think you'll need professional help or just somebody to listen to you, don't be afraid to ask for help, like to song says: "everybody needs somebody sometime"
Cheers, life is beautiful.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
16 Sep 10
It's hard to forget... if you really can. I have been in the same situation with you. The best thing to do is to focus on yourself. It will take a lot of time so have patience. Let yourself grieve and be sad, you need to let it all out and let it happen because even if you fight it it will be there. But remember what you learned from it all and know that it was for the good. Something better will come up when it is the time.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Hi nguyenmlam,
Time! It will take time to heal your broken heart. You are doing the right things, studying, working, and writing about it here on myLot. Believe me, talking about it is a good thing. Once you have talked about it enough it will be over.
I don't know how long this relationship was in place, but you seem to have been giving more than your share to the relationship. You pour your whole life into pleasing her, so much so that you didn't realize that she didn't feel the same way about you.
Most girls want a guy who does a lot of nice things for them. They don't want to ending the relationship, so why did your girl want to leave you? Do you think she had any love for you from the beginning? Is she worth the pain and suffering that you are putting yourself through.
I suggest, that you accept the situation for what it is, she is gone and she is not coming back to you. You should move on with your life and let this past relationship be a learning tool for your future relationships.
Love will come again, just this time done give more that you get. 50/50 is how it should be.
@Jifrauen (24)
• United States
16 Sep 10
I am kinda on the other side of that. My ex seems to still have feelings for me, even though I do not have feelings for him. He told me about these feelings a while ago, but I didn't know what to say. I wasn't going to lie to him and make the situation worse, but I didn't want to tell him the truth because I didn't want to hurt his feelings.
Just keep living your life as normal as possible. Get involved with social activities with other people. Meet new people. You never know when you might meet the girl of your dreams. When you do meet her, you will probably still think about your ex, but just live in the moment and love the new girl. Stop the thoughts about the ex when they first come up. (I know it is easy just to keep thinking of her, but if you stop them at the beginning of the thought, over time, it will be easier to not think about her and move on)
@blessyme (33)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Hi. You simply cannot forget her. We don't forget people that had been part of our life no matter how hard we try to forget because we have this awesome thing called memory. The best things you can do are forgive her completely, pick up your pieces, divert your attention to worthwhile things, meet people,etc.. You know, time is the best healer. It hurts today but one day you'll wake up and the pain is not there anymore. Just be patient. Everybody goes through it but never wallow in the pain. Though painful, cheer yourself up to lighten things. Make this situation a positive one. Do so much better in your studies instead of dropping your grades. Prove to yourself that you can do it without her:)
