Where have all the good men gone?

for 24 years of my life, i had not only duds, but abusers. and cheaters. i now have a wonderful man who treats me like a queen and cares very much for me. i feel sorry for the women who found the other guys after i had the sense to leave...

In response to your topic title - i'm here. lol. Everything you have said about your man is also the way i am. I am also a carer for my disabled mother aswel as a single dad. I agree that it is hard to find a good man, most aren't but the same really goes for women, it is hard for me to find one as i don't really get much time to myself but atleast there are plenty of good women out there. Your relationship sounds so good.

Whew!..thought for a second you had gotten rid of yours...I can say I landed a so so one..lol..because half the time he drives me crazy..mine does laundry,cleans, but doesn't do dishes..or cook..and when mine is working he is much better because he is in a better mood sometimes..he hates sitting home twiddling his thumbs well except winter when it is freezing cold and not alot of people want anything built in middle of winter. Mine has a sense of humor also..I just wish he could find it more often.

You are lucky. I have recently come out of a bad relationship of 12 years. He wasn't any of those nice qualities you have listed about your guy. He was those things for about the first 3 years and then he took me for granted and didn't treat me special or good anymore but I still took it because I loved him. Don't get me wrong, he had his sweet days, especially if he wanted something from me, it wasn't all bad or I wouldn't have stayed all those years. But it wasn't a good healthy relationship either. I know what you mean about where are all the good men. I have now been single for 2 years and I have dated about 5 different guys and they are all not very nice guys. They don't know how to treat a lady. Where are the gentlemen gone, is what I ask???? What happened to chivalry, what happened to romance, what happened to just being a nice person??? Where did the nice guys go??? I think all the nice guys are taken. I am 54 years old and the men my age are either taken or set in their ways, mostly not nice ways. Men my age either stink from sweat or stink from too much after shave. I think I have to start looking for someone younger than me but that's difficult because what young guy wants an older woman. Oh well, maybe one day my time will come again and I will meet a nice guy. Cheers my friend, Chris

I don't know if I'm a good man - I don't think that I'm a bad one though. Women tend to rule my world and that's how I like it. I spent last week with three women and none of them is my wife. Now I think that I have the BEST woman!

Hi missybear, You are indeed lucky to have found, and held onto your "Mr. Right." I did have the most perfect gentlemen, in my opinion, on the planet. There was nothing to good for me to have. He was told me that there were only two reasons that I could not go with him when he went out and those were, one, if I didn't want to go and, two if we were fighting about some, which was rare. Everything he bought me, anyplace he took me, had to be the top of the line. For instance, he took me to Paris for Christmas. and when we got their our living arrangements were not satisfactory enough for him, we changed locations three times until he was satisfied that they were good enough for me to living in for two weeks. I was even more fortunate, because our relationship was not just about material things, he was a gentleman from the old school, he still opened the car door for me, he held my elbow as we walked up a flight of stairs, he often complimented on my appearance or on a well prepared meal. No relationship is perfect, we did have our moments of disturbances, but this relationship was as close to perfect as they get. Unfortunately, he became ill and passed away. I do miss him and often think about how lucky I was to have known that kind of man really existed. I am sure there are other good men out there(you say you have one of them) wondering where have all the good women gone.

haha well i sure think i have a good man with me right now. he is not perfect, he has his flaws but he understands me, and he loves me, and actually i know that we are meant to be together. he sticks with me and he is very vocal that he sees me with him in his life.

There are so many total losers out there that you can't swing a handbag without hitting one. Luckily, like you, I seem to have snagged a good one. We've been together for eight years and when I got sick, he looked after me without complaint. He's an angel, but I have to be careful not to give him a big head.

I definitely have a catch. Former Military, he can cook, clean, do laundry, work outside the home, fix things, etc. You're right, there are a lot of duds out there. You know the saying, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.

There are still lots of good man than bad men. Be one of those good guys.

I think your guy is also lucky with you. It is seldom to see women being proud of their man. Many women I know will just complain about their guy instead of being proud of him and they talk many negative things about him. I just hope he knows also that you feel you're lucky with him. Men are more motivated when you trust him for something. :) I don't have a girlfriend right now and I just hope someday she will also be proud of me :)

Everyones idea of the perfect man is different. Before I met mine I would have said that it was someone who was able to offer love and be kind and gentle and caring. My man is all those things and that makes him my perfect man. I never thought about someone who shared the house work. My man does all the important cooking for us as he is a retired chef, he also does all the shopping, I do the cleaning and laundry. It works for us. A woman I once worked with could never understand why I loved him. All that mattered to her was wealth and social standing. Her family arranged a marriage to the 'right' sort of man for her. I sometimes wonder if she is happy but I am not sure she knows what love and happiness is.

Nope..that's why I'm single. I have held the door for more men in my lifetime than they have me. "Where have all the cowboys gone?" Have you ever heard that song? Sure fits with the times.

Before I have landed any catch, I should bring home my bacon first.

Hi missy! You are a lucky woman! Your guy is a real sweety! I could tell that from the first time I "talked" to him. He was one of my very first friends here along with Mikey! Unfortunately, mine is a good when it comes to "doing things" like laundry, cleaning and stuff like that except for cooking. But, he doesn't have the feelings. It's complicated, but we are basically best friends and not a whole lot else and I don't think we will be together for too long. It's been 3 years in January and I'm not sure what's going to happen. We have fun together, but the love thing is missing!

Most of the time I think so...lol...but there are those days...

They are all taken. All good men are taken and people or some women are left with men that we have in our society now. More and more women wanted to have the "good" man but "good" men dont exist anymore. If they do, they are not normal.

We both in the same boat. I feel lucky that I am surrounded with good people. I have my father whose patience is very long and he cooks for us. I have my brother who is just at my back if I need him. Luckily, I got the big shoulder of my arm that I always cry on. My hubby lets me do everything that I want to.

You are so lucky to encounter such a man who is really my role model.My girlfriend always blame me to be not thoughtful and humorous.But you know,everyone needs a period to become such a good man,nobody was born to be funny,sweet,kind and lovable,wasn't it?So the girl should be tolerable and accept the responsibility to train their boyfriend to be a nice man.What a difficult job.

i don't think so.. but you know what, this guy, even if he has a lot of negative things going on that i hate about him, he still taught me a lot of things without him knowing it. i'm the type of girl who would always pinpoint to a guy what should be done, what i don't like, and i'm too straightforward in saying these things. i can be too critical about what he says, what he does and sometimes, i admit, i overdo it.and because he doesn't buy the whole strict, organized, bossy personality of mine, we always argue and always have our relationship almost ending. but because i love him,i tried to assess myself and lately i realized that i attribute part of our arguments to my actions also. so i can say yeah this guy may not be the good catch i expected him to be but somehow he's taught me how to be better.